classof2014 Posted October 27, 2010 Posted October 27, 2010 I've developed a major fear of women. I can't help but not view women as all powerful divine beings that do everything perfectly, never have any problems with their bodies or minds, and would never date anyone like me because I along with 99.9999% of other guys are inferior. I also can't help but think (even though I know its false) that all women have a secret goal of wanting to either ruin a possible BFs future or make him a slave by manipulating him. How can I improve my view of women? I just wish I can see women as people but its very hard.
Cracker Jack Posted October 27, 2010 Posted October 27, 2010 You have a very erroneous outlook on women, bud. You need to stop thinking of women as these bad people who are out to hurt all men. There are stupid women and men everywhere. You just have to look at it from an individual stand-point instead of grouping them together if you want to improve your general outlook on women. It's really, really getting tired now, tho.
Feelin Frisky Posted October 27, 2010 Posted October 27, 2010 You have a very erroneous outlook on women, bud. You need to stop thinking of women as these bad people who are out to hurt all men. There are stupid women and men everywhere. You just have to look at it from an individual stand-point instead of grouping them together if you want to improve your general outlook on women. It's really, really getting tired now, tho. You mean he's wrong?
Author classof2014 Posted October 27, 2010 Author Posted October 27, 2010 thats only one part of my fear though. I also have trouble not viewing women as human goddess that don't do anything wrong and have perfect bodies that never get sick, burp, fart, get hurt, scars, etc. Im very intimidated by women.
Cracker Jack Posted October 27, 2010 Posted October 27, 2010 Women are not perfect. You just need to realize this.
Feelin Frisky Posted October 27, 2010 Posted October 27, 2010 2014, there's a pretty simple route out of your view. For one thing it is sexism--the same thing as racism only about gender instead of ancestry. Since people who engage in these preconceptions accidentally see the "group" as a real entity, the remedy becomes very obvious: you have to tell yourself the truth that the world is made up of unique individuals, all with their own experience and all guaranteed by nature to be different from each other. Any other "group construct" is an artifice we create in our minds. And if you keep reinforcing the artifice as something real, you impose an enemy or figment of power upon yourself which has no validity and does not exist. So, if you really want to combat your prior tendency to make group generalities into reasons for disquieting thoughts, you will probably being going directly toward the remedy by embracing the idea of uniqueness. Not all people "act" unique and many willingly take on the forms of stereo-type for their genders, ethnicities and ages. But regardless of what any few do, nature remains constant that we think and live independently and all are one of a kind in and of ourselves.
how2forgive&2forget Posted October 27, 2010 Posted October 27, 2010 This is how I used to feel about men too. There's something about guys huddled together, smiling, laughing in a hallway at school. I used to plan my route so I can avoid them. To me, they're from another planet. It's only after a few relationships that I felt I can relax around men. I have to say vive la difference! (or something like that). To the OP, I'm guessing you didn't grow up around women?
Feelin Frisky Posted October 27, 2010 Posted October 27, 2010 (edited) ...men too. There's something about guys huddled together, smiling, laughing in a hallway at school. I used to plan my route so I can avoid them... That brings up an important reality we all have to face--being herded into school where there is no kind of formal social development and people just "fall" into a social pressure cooker sometimes with life-long consequence. I totally identify with that feeling of having to face huddles of guys and wonder if you're being mocked. I felt the same way toward girls when I was in the early grades because I was chubby. I lost all my fat and grew tall in the first year of high school where I suddenly became considered one of the hunkiest guys in school. But I never felt the part of mister tall and hansome because I had suffered so much humiliation or perceived humiliation as a boy. This disquieting social pressure cooker may still be upon Classof2014 and have something to do with his belief in female conspiracy in male hatred. If it's not directly upon him, it would still have to be relevant and recent for anyone in the class of 2014. The choice seems to be to try to take your place in a clique and cooperate in social power plays or fall outside the mob and be subject to the whims of it. Some day we'll have to get this right and change education to cease neglecting social development. Edited October 27, 2010 by Feelin Frisky
Titania22 Posted October 27, 2010 Posted October 27, 2010 I've developed a major fear of women. I can't help but not view women as all powerful divine beings that do everything perfectly, never have any problems with their bodies or minds, and would never date anyone like me because I along with 99.9999% of other guys are inferior. I also can't help but think (even though I know its false) that all women have a secret goal of wanting to either ruin a possible BFs future or make him a slave by manipulating him. How can I improve my view of women? I just wish I can see women as people but its very hard. I agree with you that I am a powerful divine being, but that doesn't mean a) that I do everything perfectly (and have a perfectly running body 24/7) and b) that you are not also a powerful divine being Now consider this, if I am so powerful, why would I need to manipulate or enslave any man. So I am suggesting the woman who do those things aren't in touch with their divinity. Perhaps working on your own self perception and accepting that being a divine being has nothing to do with acting perfect or having the perfect body.
Green Posted October 27, 2010 Posted October 27, 2010 I often feel the exact oposite about women. That they are trouble, lack logic and proper thinking tools and arn't worth as much as a man. The truth is woman are different then men but they arn't better or worse. You need to just treat them like an individual person and get to know them. Also if romance is your goal wich of course it is then don't be afraid to ASK GIRLS OUT and KISS them on the date. Don't be afraid to BE YOURSELF and if they like you for yourself great if not then who cares. KISS THEM
Pyro Posted October 27, 2010 Posted October 27, 2010 Looks like all the bitter cry babys on here have a case of femaliaphobia. CO2014: I advise you to just turn gay. You would be with someone equal to you. Wake me up before you go go.
Tim The Enchanter Posted October 27, 2010 Posted October 27, 2010 I've developed a major fear of women. I can't help but not view women as all powerful divine beings that do everything perfectly, never have any problems with their bodies or minds, and would never date anyone like me because I along with 99.9999% of other guys are inferior. I also can't help but think (even though I know its false) that all women have a secret goal of wanting to either ruin a possible BFs future or make him a slave by manipulating him. How can I improve my view of women? I just wish I can see women as people but its very hard. You seriously need to see a psychologist or psychiatrist about this. This is not healthy, normal thinking.
Taramere Posted October 27, 2010 Posted October 27, 2010 I've developed a major fear of women. I can't help but not view women as all powerful divine beings that do everything perfectly, never have any problems with their bodies or minds, and would never date anyone like me because I along with 99.9999% of other guys are inferior. I also can't help but think (even though I know its false) that all women have a secret goal of wanting to either ruin a possible BFs future or make him a slave by manipulating him. How can I improve my view of women? I just wish I can see women as people but its very hard. It's a problem for sure, and I think the fear some men have that they will be enslaved by women was explored very well in the following link, by an expert on the issue of male slavery under female command "One Step Further And His Back Will Break"
Feelin Frisky Posted October 27, 2010 Posted October 27, 2010 It's a problem for sure, and I think the fear some men have that they will be enslaved by women was explored very well in the following link, by an expert on the issue of male slavery under female command "One Step Further And His Back Will Break" Not for nothin' but I'd be OK with being a slave to that woman in your av.
Taramere Posted October 27, 2010 Posted October 27, 2010 Not for nothin' but I'd be OK with being a slave to that woman in your av. She's pretty hot, isn't she? I should clarify that she's only up there because of a joke I made about going hunting/shopping and making a pair of shoes my bitch. The truth is never as exciting as the fantasy, but don't let that stop you enjoying the avatar.
Feelin Frisky Posted October 27, 2010 Posted October 27, 2010 She's pretty hot, isn't she? I should clarify that she's only up there because of a joke I made about going hunting/shopping and making a pair of shoes my bitch. The truth is never as exciting as the fantasy, but don't let that stop you enjoying the avatar. Anything you say, master.
Green Posted October 27, 2010 Posted October 27, 2010 Looks like all the bitter cry babys on here have a case of femaliaphobia. CO2014: I advise you to just turn gay. You would be with someone equal to you. Wake me up before you go go. It's a problem for sure, and I think the fear some men have that they will be enslaved by women was explored very well in the following link, by an expert on the issue of male slavery under female command "One Step Further And His Back Will Break" Wake me up before you go go... did you put that link up to prove that Pyro is gay because he has that line and goes around telling people to turn gay.
Untouchable_Fire Posted October 27, 2010 Posted October 27, 2010 I've developed a major fear of women. I can't help but not view women as all powerful divine beings that do everything perfectly, never have any problems with their bodies or minds, and would never date anyone like me because I along with 99.9999% of other guys are inferior. I also can't help but think (even though I know its false) that all women have a secret goal of wanting to either ruin a possible BFs future or make him a slave by manipulating him. How can I improve my view of women? I just wish I can see women as people but its very hard. If you are really struggling with this type of issue... the fix isn't that difficult. Get some female friends. Literally... just friends. Take sex off the table and just get to know them like you would a guy. It will help a lot. Then once you have a relationship or two your confidence will be much better.
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