stop calling them your ex.

[shayan]

I read a wonderful post on LS months ago and it said to stop calling them your ex. The reason the girl said so was because then you got rid of your entitlement. My "ex" it seems almost childish as if they still owe you something. But then I think what else would you call them I digress.

 

I guess it's not really important what you call them but realize they are not in any way yours. It helps I'm telling you then you don't feel responsible or jealous or as if they owe you something.

 

Good luck

[emjay]

Yea I don't like it when I'm referred to as "their ex". The language implies I'm still theirs in some small way which bugs me.

 

I know I am a part of their history but I'm not "their anything" any more. It's an ex-relationship, I am not an ex-person.

 

Hah, it's silly really and everyone does it, but there doesn't seem to be a suitable alternative.

[Art_Critic]

When I first came to LS after reading many posts I used to think everyone was talking about their ex wives or ex husbands when they would refer to their ex.

 

Until I came to LS I never referred to someone that I dated and had broken up with as an ex.. I always referred to them as an old GF or someone I used to date.

The only ex in my life at that time was my ex wife.. and a bunch of old GF's or women I used to date...

 

So I think the OP carries some merit...

 

I still really only consider my ex wife my only ex somewhat and the other women I have dated are old GF's..

 

I do however use the ex term when posting to people here on LS just because they seem to call their old loves their ex's

[TLCbear]

I read a wonderful post on LS months ago and it said to stop calling them your ex. The reason the girl said so was because then you got rid of your entitlement. My "ex" it seems almost childish as if they still owe you something. But then I think what else would you call them I digress.

 

I guess it's not really important what you call them but realize they are not in any way yours. It helps I'm telling you then you don't feel responsible or jealous or as if they owe you something.

 

Good luck

 

I really don't see the big deal with this anyway, an ex is an ex, simply put, you're not together anymore...whether you were just dating, in a LTR, or married. You have no entitlement anyway. People who feel that way, need to realize that.

[alwaysoverthinking]

I prefer the term "this chick I used to date".

 

That, or Succubus.