smoothgene Posted October 26, 2010 Posted October 26, 2010 my ex girlfriend broke up with me 2 months ago because I lied about my family. I was ashamed that I was adopted. I'm mexican but my adopted parents are white. She's mexican. She found out and forgave me, but then 2 years later I also lied about where I had worked when we werent together for a 2 month gap that we split up I found out about a lie that she said as well and I ignored her and tried to move on but she showed up outside my house crying and I forgave her, so that's why the showing up outside her house idea isn't so strange because she did it to me. She broke up with me 2 months ago and said I lost her trust. I made two terrible mistakes by lying, I want to make it up to her and gain her trust back but she is seeing someone else now she told me and she's trying to move on. She said out of nowhere 2 weeks ago that she still loved me. I was faithful to her and didn't control her, I just lied about 2 things because I felt like I wasn't good enough for her. I lied about my family because I felt like she wouldn't stay with me if she knew, an I lied abouth where I worked because when we weren't together I wanted to make it seem as I had a better job and was moving up without her in the world. I admit I was ad idiot. but those lies were to stay with her or to get back with her.. I'm not a malicious person. So I begged and begged like an idiot to get back with her and she deied me..I have not seen her in person since we broke up. I wanna go to her house and surprise her and maybe if she see's me her feelings will come back and she will forgive me. I'm not counting on it happenin, but everytihng else failed why not try this right? I really love her and she's worth this. Is it a good idea to go to her house and surprise her in the morning? (because that's the only time I no she will be avaible and it's not so weird because she surprised me at my house in the spring when I basically broke up with her) what should I say? , I hate all this drama, and I no you guys reading his are probably gonna say enough is enough, but she really is worth it and I think surprising her at her house is a good idead. what do you guys think?
strength-abounds Posted October 26, 2010 Posted October 26, 2010 I'm sorry to say, you messed up. You messed up bad. You can't repair this because she cannot trust you. I have witnessed 10 year marriages crumble because someone lied. Best advice is to STOP LYING to your girlfriends and stop being ashamed of who YOU are. Good luck and God speed.
Don Ho Posted October 27, 2010 Posted October 27, 2010 Showing up at her house is a BAD idea! She is already seeing someone else. Plus you're are very likely to get a response you don't like. Then there's always the issue of appearing like a stalker and that will push her away further. Not much you can do Bro. Do not contact her right now. She is probably done for good, she likely looks at it that if you lied about two "big" issues, you probably lied about other stuff as well.
TomerT Posted October 28, 2010 Posted October 28, 2010 Can you handle situation if you come to her house and she is not alone, but with her new bf? Or may be she didn't sleep that night at her home at all? What will be your reaction? ask yourself.
kaycstamper Posted October 28, 2010 Posted October 28, 2010 NOT a good idea!!! It is not showing respect for her wishes, which isn't going to help your cause any. You need to work on yourself, developing your own self-respect and integrity. In time, perhaps another chance with her will come along...perhaps not...either way, you need to accept it.
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