aroll32 Posted October 26, 2010 Posted October 26, 2010 Confused. Hello all, thanks in advance A couple of hours ago, me and my girlfriend of 6 months had ANOTHER very similar conversation about our relationship. What I mean by another is that we have had this same type of conversation about 4-5 times. Every time, it ends with me and her spending about a day or two apart. Then, we both give in to each other, because we both care about each other so much. For some reason, I feel this time is different. The conversations are mostly about her, how she has a lot of things on her plate right now. And normally I wouldn't take this excuse, but I know her, and I know she is being honest. Needless to say she has many problems. She can't balance out everything she is doing right now, including me. She cares for me a lot, and doesn't want me to get the shaft in this relationship. I do a lot for her, and she does a lot for me. But sometimes, she can't handle it all, and she isn't there for me. I have no problem with this, since I know people get caught up in a lot of nonsense. She feels as if though that having a relationship is just putting more pressure on her. And I don't want her to feel like that. I'm not sure what to do. I asked her if she loved me, and she said she loves me so much. I told her I love her too. But she said that we need to end the relationship, but she still wants to talk to me everyday. We're best friends, but I don't know how I feel about that. She said she still wants to be my best friend, just not be together. So another thing that just confuses the hell out of me. Help
strength-abounds Posted October 26, 2010 Posted October 26, 2010 I hate it when people use the word "love" as a lubricant to make the knife enter the back easier. She wants her cake and eat it too. You will always be her Plan B, the fall back guy, and the just in case dude. Can you handle that? If not, go NC and move on.
Author aroll32 Posted October 26, 2010 Author Posted October 26, 2010 Nah man, this girl isn't using me as a fall back. She's emotionally incapable of having a real relationship, with anyone. She hasn't talked to her father in 5 months. I'm not gonna go into her problems on the internet, but trust me. She doesn't even have a plan. This girl is just in a horrible spot in her life.
strength-abounds Posted October 27, 2010 Posted October 27, 2010 I completely understand the lack of emotional attachment. I just exited a marriage like that. The question for you is, can you handle trying to have a relationship knowing she has emotional attachment issues?
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