U1987 Posted October 26, 2010 Posted October 26, 2010 What does everyone think about this idea? I've been struggling with my online dating profile. I've sent something like 15 emails and only 1 response, and only 1 first response from a girls. A lot of you were really critical of my first messages. What do you all think about this idea; before trying to hit up girls in my area, and inevitably, blowing my first impression with several before I get good at this, I set up a fake profile far away, in another state? My profile will be exactly the same as my current; I won't be "pretending to be someone I'm not." I'm just going to lie about where I live. Then I'll try and hit on girls in THAT area. Once I get a pretty consistent rate of replies and phone numbers, I'll start working on girls in my area again. What do you think?
Pfiend101 Posted October 26, 2010 Posted October 26, 2010 Go for it. There are plenty of girls online dating that have fake profile pics or lie. Its you're life. Do what you want.
USMCHokie Posted October 26, 2010 Posted October 26, 2010 This will probably go against the majority here, but I wouldn't recommend it. It's called "live-fire practice" for a reason...because it matters. You actually have to be on your game at all times. If you set up something fake, you really have no incentive to improve because there are no consequences. However, when you practice in the real environment, you will make mistakes that will have a meaningful impact and be less likely to repeat those same mistakes.
utterer of lies Posted October 26, 2010 Posted October 26, 2010 What do you all think about this idea; before trying to hit up girls in my area, and inevitably, blowing my first impression with several before I get good at this, I set up a fake profile far away, in another state? Absolute bull****. Who cares if you blow your impression? There are enough people in the world, don't worry. I think your main problem is that you try to be cocky and tease the girls, but you don't see the boundaries and you have problems distinguishing between funny flirt and pointless insult. Maybe you should focus on talking to girls in real life some more, and then use the experience gained to improve your online dating. In RL, you get an immediate reaction which might help you judge your jokes better in the future.
Cracker Jack Posted October 26, 2010 Posted October 26, 2010 I agree with USM. However, if the practice means that much, you should just go for it.
youngskywalker Posted October 26, 2010 Posted October 26, 2010 How would you feel if someone did the same and you spent time and effort with someone who had no intension in the first place? I think it's a bad idea. You're dealing with real people my friend.
D-Lish Posted October 26, 2010 Posted October 26, 2010 I don't see the point in doind this at all! Just follow the rules of writing a good profile and keep it real. 1) post flattering pics of yourself (no ex's or female friends in your pics) 2) write a positive profile- keep negative lists out of it. Don't post what you DON'T want. Any hint of negativity will turn women off. 3) keep your messages short and sweet- mention something you noticed they wrote in their profile and invite them to chat. Keep updating and re-vamping your profile as you go along. I don't see the point in being deceptive just to experiment.
Star Gazer Posted October 26, 2010 Posted October 26, 2010 Normally, I'd say this was a crazy stupid idea, but the OP is in desperate need of practice. Thing is, you need to test different types of messages on the same women to see what makes them bite. Thus, it'll only do you any good if you set up several very similar fake profiles (but with different pictures, of course), with the only difference being what types of messages you send out. You need at least 15 different variations of messages to gain a true understanding of what works versus what doesn't. That means 15 fake profiles. Get to work!!
dispatch3d Posted October 27, 2010 Posted October 27, 2010 ugh. He isn't a girl. There are no 3 simple rules to get girls to respond to messages. Girls get 100s of messages a month, guys get like 10. You really can't compare the two. I think it's fine. I'd only consider it if I felt I lived in a small (population) area though. Otherwise you could "practice" in your own area and reep the benefits if they actually want to go on a date. It will help that you won't want something from them, but at the same time when you are doing it you invariably will want something (a date, sex, whatever).
Green Posted October 27, 2010 Posted October 27, 2010 I'm sorry to tell this to you OP but this is a really poor idea. I think it would be more entertaining to set up a fake facebook account then do this. Look I keep saying this and you keep ignoring it... if 18-22 year olds is your target then REAL life is the way to go. Also why do you need practice? All you have to do is get some cool pics up and have a profile that doesn't do anything weird. Then just push for a meeting. (the real life meeting is where it all goes down anyways.) Listen to me man. I know what I'm talking about.
Author U1987 Posted October 27, 2010 Author Posted October 27, 2010 I see a lot of nay-sayers, but if more people hadn't been so stubborn and refused to give a few measly examples of online dating first messages, I wouldn't have to resort to this. I'm going for it. I just set up a fake account. It's the EXACT same as my real one. The only difference is where I lieve. I live on the East Coast, but I just opened an account in Seattle. Once I get girls to give me their numbers, I'll come clean and tell them what's up. Like I said, this is only practice, so I don't spoil my chances with girls around here first.
Star Gazer Posted October 27, 2010 Posted October 27, 2010 Once I get girls to give me their numbers, I'll come clean and tell them what's up. I wouldn't do that if I were you...
Green Posted October 27, 2010 Posted October 27, 2010 I see a lot of nay-sayers, but if more people hadn't been so stubborn and refused to give a few measly examples of online dating first messages, I wouldn't have to resort to this. I'm going for it. I just set up a fake account. It's the EXACT same as my real one. The only difference is where I lieve. I live on the East Coast, but I just opened an account in Seattle. Once I get girls to give me their numbers, I'll come clean and tell them what's up. Like I said, this is only practice, so I don't spoil my chances with girls around here first. Seriosly some of these girls are spiteful. If you come clean and are pissed they might dedicate a website that pops up on google when people put in your real name. Better you just admit to the fake picture and live under the fake name till you are sure they are cool with it. You've heard of stage names and pen names right? well a guy as "foward thinking" as you probably needs a dating name. By the way your fear of spoiling chances with girls is exaclty the kind of baby sht that has you thinking up and doing all these crazy things.... stop thinking like this and just start hitting on girls in the real world all ready ... BE YOURSELF!!!
PhillyDude Posted October 27, 2010 Posted October 27, 2010 What does everyone think about this idea? I've been struggling with my online dating profile. I've sent something like 15 emails and only 1 response, and only 1 first response from a girls. A lot of you were really critical of my first messages. What do you all think about this idea; before trying to hit up girls in my area, and inevitably, blowing my first impression with several before I get good at this, I set up a fake profile far away, in another state? My profile will be exactly the same as my current; I won't be "pretending to be someone I'm not." I'm just going to lie about where I live. Then I'll try and hit on girls in THAT area. Once I get a pretty consistent rate of replies and phone numbers, I'll start working on girls in my area again. What do you think? It's a good idea but do it on craiglist. I have done many times nd it helped me a lot
Author U1987 Posted October 27, 2010 Author Posted October 27, 2010 Seriosly some of these girls are spiteful. If you come clean and are pissed they might dedicate a website that pops up on google when people put in your real name. How stupid do you think I am?!!! Do you really think I would put my real name? Of course not! I use an alias, just like every other person on the web!
Star Gazer Posted October 27, 2010 Posted October 27, 2010 How stupid do you think I am?!!! Do you really think I would put my real name? Of course not! I use an alias, just like every other person on the web! Baaaaaaaaaaaaaaad karma.
Green Posted October 27, 2010 Posted October 27, 2010 How stupid do you think I am?!!! Do you really think I would put my real name? Of course not! I use an alias, just like every other person on the web! You said once you get their numbers you'd come clean and tell them whats up. I took that to mean you'd give them ur real name. good job on the alias. But yes I do think you are pretty silly. Seriously getting woman is a lot easier then you make it sound. REAL WORLD
Tim The Enchanter Posted October 27, 2010 Posted October 27, 2010 How would you feel if someone did the same and you spent time and effort with someone who had no intension in the first place? I think it's a bad idea. You're dealing with real people my friend. A classic sign of Asperger's.
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