Am i overreacting or was he a complete jerk??

[rose45]

I have been having a hard time since my split with my ex but i went back to online dating...and i have been emailing with this guy for a few weeks..we finally met sunday night..he actually went on a vacation by himself and came back that night and wanted to meet i guess to finally get it over with

 

 

i arrived at the bar early to get a table and chose a place close to my house so i can walk home if it doesn't go well..i get a text from him kind of hinting he is hungry..but i had told him lets just meet for a drink since i have work tomorrow..he works nights so we have an opposite schedule.

 

 

I told him i got to the bar early and see u soon..he texts me i guess when he was near saying he isnt feeling the bar scene and can i come out..i actually got very angry because i do have a little temper and i feel like on a first date--- especially blind---- the guy should make sure the girl feels comfortable..i said it is not crowded or loud here and i just wanted to meet for a drink

 

so he finally arrives and almost seems angry saying like i thought it was that place and it would have been easier if i had just come out...i wanted to throw my drink at him and leave but i tried to keep my cool and say well i ordered a drink already, what am i supposed to do? and he just seemed really rude and angry even..and i said we didn't have to meet tonight, i know you just got back from vacation and a plane.

 

I guess he was hungry and just wanted to go someplace else..i just kind of took it as really rude because i wasn't hungry and i ate before and TOLD HIM BEFORE HAND I CAN'T STAY OUT LATE....i decided to try my best and give it a chance and have a conversation.

 

We eventually did go to the other place so he can eat and i just had my beer..the conversation went well and i think i am attracted to him but he is just very..upfront i guess.... direct and maybe it comes off rude i don't know.

 

he has some qualities i like reminding me of my ex..although he still doesn't compare to him at all because my ex would NEVER EVER had done that walking into a bar and saying it would have been easier if u just came out ..I know i shouldn't compare but in some way people do base the present on past experiences.

 

my ex would have ate prior or not at all if i wasn't hungry and would have ate after the date probably

 

so i really don't know what to think about him at times..he seems a little angry but it wasn't hard to talk to him and i think he is attracted to me..he opened the car door (maybe bc he had to)..he did say i am very cute etc..he said he dated some gothic girls in the past..so it made me wonder maybe its dark in this bar and he isn't good looking lol

 

he got out of the car after dropping me home and said i am not sure what you do on a date so i will give you a hug and he said he wanted to see me again etc

 

he wanted to see me yesterday too..i guess because he knows he will be working nights until friday..but to me..i looked at it as the fact that it was a monday and just the beginning of the work week and i was tired just because sunday was nervewracking enough to meet and go on a blind date..so i told him work is a little stressful today but friday would be fine with me etc...later on we are texting and he says he is in a diner trying to figure out what to do with the rest of his time off..i think he figured i was just going to run over there even if the place is near me..and he asked so i am going to sit home by myself? and i said it is not about that..i just got in and it has been a long day and i still have things to do

 

i would think any other guy..especially in the beginning would just say friday sounds great...he even said like a warm hug and kiss would make it better but if u want to sit by urself i am fine with that.

 

it just seemed weird so i actually told him i don't really like being pushed and i think understanding is a better quality..he basically joked about it saying i can see you are getting annoyed so i will stop yanking ur chain.

 

So far my ex is still alot better and i am starting to think if he was that pushy because he wanted to eat and have me come out of the bar..then he might be pushy after a 4th date when he isn't getting any sex..because i am the type to wait for real feelings to develop and make sure he is somewhat committed before doing that...am i overreacting to this whole situation and should i lighten up? it just kind of bothers because it seems like he gets angry if he doesn't get his way...like with meeting at the bar when i said beforehand i can't stay long, lets just talk and then even yesterday...

 

maybe i should give it a chance since it seems we both are a little attracted to each other?

 

 

but definitely...my ex is better..i just know

[redmelon]

well after all that I think it boils down to the fact that your perceive your EX as better than this current guy, so you are kinda downgrading - and you should NEVER downgrade.

[strength-abounds]

This guy sounds like a real tool. I agree with redmelon. Never downgrade. It's a kick to the ego.