Painfulove05 Posted March 3, 2004 Posted March 3, 2004 I got into a relationship with my best friend, he became my first love. After two years he switched me for another girl, and I was devastated. It didn’t last long, and after about a month, he begged me to go back with him. I eventually went back and he switched me again. He fell in love with his new girlfriend, and now she is pregnant with his child. I started talking to him again, and he invited me to hang with him, but the reason was so that he could cheat on his pregnant girlfriend with me. I did, and felt horrible after. I thought that it would make all of the pain go away, but I was wrong. Now I have a new boyfriend and there’s a big problem. I don’t trust him, at all. There’s no reason that I shouldn’t be able to. He’s never done anything to make me feel like I shouldn’t trust him. I also treat him bad because I’m afraid that if I don’t take control, then he will do the same things that my ex did to me. He had the same secrets, desires and goals as my ex and it scares me. I don’t know how to make myself trust him, or anyone for that matter. So I keep my heart locked and distant from everyone, and that is making me a cold person. How do I open up?
moimeme Posted March 3, 2004 Posted March 3, 2004 Generally, if a person cannot 'unstick' him/herself from a negative pattern of thinking, it's time to involve a therapist to help.
NEONINK Posted March 3, 2004 Posted March 3, 2004 You are being unfair and quite frankly crappy to this new guy. Because in fact, when you cheated with your ex, that made YOU A CHEATER sister! Maybe you haven't dealt with that little tidbit yet.
dyermaker Posted March 3, 2004 Posted March 3, 2004 Did your parents cheat on each-other/and or/not stay together?
Iamhappy Posted March 3, 2004 Posted March 3, 2004 Salient points from Neon Ink. I'd also recommend therapy.
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