TheUnthoughtKnown Posted October 26, 2010 Posted October 26, 2010 Well...I've had a bit of an eye opening weekend, compared to my usual drink-my-liver-into-a-screaming-fit-of-pain Saturday night. Met up with a girl I've known for a good while now as a friend of a friend. Invited her back to my place and we spent the night together. First time I've slept with a woman since my ex broke up with me 6 and a half months ago. It made me realise that there's other women in the world than my ex. And although me an this new girl won't ever turn into anything (I don't want a relationship, she knows and accepts that), I appreciated her company, her affection and the intimacy I'd been missing since breaking up with my ex. I've said I'll see her again this Friday, we're going to have a night in watching movies an stuff at her apartment and I'm quite looking forward to it. I was aware on the night I spent with her that I spoke about my ex frequently. Must have brought her up at least a dozen times and I have a feeling the girl felt a little intimidated and/or awkward at how hung up I still was on my ex, but we got past it, and I'm going to try an stop bringing up my ex in conversation (I compared her to my ex a few times, which she pointed out in a somewhat disgruntled manner). So I'm getting there, I'm moving on and I just may get past this yet However... On to the bad news... I ran into a friend of mine yesterday at work. He mentioned to me that my ex has now moved into a new apartment. Which has made me think of all the times she and I shared in her apartment. All of those memories pretty much gone now. I had thought bout going to her landlord (private let) and inquiring about renting it out. It's such a nice apartment and I don't want those memories to just fade now she's moved out. I also heard she's seeing someone and is settling into her new apartment quite well, which really upset me. I still miss her a lot, and I wish she was still in my life...
Ajax Posted October 26, 2010 Posted October 26, 2010 I ran into a friend of mine yesterday at work. He mentioned to me that my ex has now moved into a new apartment. Which has made me think of all the times she and I shared in her apartment. All of those memories pretty much gone now. I had thought bout going to her landlord (private let) and inquiring about renting it out. It's such a nice apartment and I don't want those memories to just fade now she's moved out. I also heard she's seeing someone and is settling into her new apartment quite well, which really upset me. I still miss her a lot, and I wish she was still in my life... Memories are hard to get past. My ex was fixing up her townhouse just before we broke up. She was even using my tools for a while after she broke up with me. The Townhouse is different now, but I hope that when she looks around she sees some of me in it. Similarly, she helped me move into a new place a couple months before she dumped me. She put so much of herself into my new place that everything reminds me of her. I don't think you should rent her old apartment. Keep the memories, but you need to let go at the same time. As for sleeping with this new girl, kudos. I haven't been with anyone since my ex, and sometimes I think I should but other times I can't see myself with anyone but her. Dammit I miss her!
smk Posted October 26, 2010 Posted October 26, 2010 Hey UT - good in you mate and nice one... It always feel good getting back in saddle.... It seems we all had some interaction with the exes this weekend - sheer randomness...gotta lay off the juice though buddy it really doesn't help and only makes things worse. It did a lot of damage for ms this weekend and wiped off pretty much alot of the progress I have made over the last coupl of months...
Author TheUnthoughtKnown Posted October 26, 2010 Author Posted October 26, 2010 Hey UT - good in you mate and nice one... It always feel good getting back in saddle.... It seems we all had some interaction with the exes this weekend - sheer randomness...gotta lay off the juice though buddy it really doesn't help and only makes things worse. It did a lot of damage for ms this weekend and wiped off pretty much alot of the progress I have made over the last couple of months... Hey smk, hows you been? Sorry to hear bout your weekend Thats tough. Just keep on holding on. I got several set backs the first few months, then a motherf*cker of a set back a few weeks ago when I just could not get her outta my head. That sh*t landed me on a hospital bed! We just can't let them get to us. We're better than that! You're right, the booze doesn't help. It's a temporary answer for a more serious problem. I'm shaking it now, gettin better. You'll do the same, smk. Keep your head up my friend
shayan Posted October 26, 2010 Posted October 26, 2010 I broke out of my first serious relationship 11 months ago. I then got into another relationship for 4 months about 4 mos after I broke up. Now I am single again and alright. However, I still feel pain somedays. I have to agree with UT. It takes time, you have to want to let them go. Ever since I've wanted to let go I've made so much progress. It seems like you really still want to be with her, and I advise that you instead give this new girl some of your old girl's real estate. It will help you move on, and anyways you should allow yourself to like to new people. There may be pain on and off but keep figthing and it will go away. good luck
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