lost all trust

[mercedesgirl]

Hi guys, have been seeing a guy for only a short time, but had known him for a couple of years before.

 

was chatting the other day about Facebook and I asked why he had his wife on there! (he has been seperated from her for 7 years), he said she sent him a message a couple of weeks ago saying she wanted him to sign some papers.

 

He said that he hadnt told me because he knew I'd get upset. What bothered me wasnt the fact that he was in contact with her, but that he kept it from me for 2 weeks, and he wouldnt have said anything if I hadnt mentioned it now!

 

I trusted him100% before this but have lost all trust now. I worry who he is chatting to, texting or even meeting.

 

It is causing tension in the relationship andI dont know what to do?

 

Thanks for reading

[LittleTiger]

Talk to him. Tell him exactly what you've written here. Open and honest communication is the only way to go if you want a relationship to work. He needs to know that what he's done has caused you to doubt him. If you don't tell him how you feel he can't help you to rebuild your trust in him.

[paleblue]

ok,

 

1) that is bs, he didn’t tell you because he thought you would get upset. he is obviously hiding something. i hate that garbage.

 

2) they are prob chatting regularly. whats the prob with him getting the divorce done and over with and moving on??? do they have kids together? if not, I would say there is no reason to stay in touch with an ex. im not interested in staying in touch with ANY of my exes.

 

you should have an upfront talk Now. otherwise this isnt going to get any better. you have only been seeing him for a short time and you already have trust issues? big red flag to me. usually when your red lite is flashing, there is something to it.

 

good luck.

[SilentVoice]

I really don't see why he should have told you anything. Sigh --I seriously don't understand marriage.

Sorry I hope he isn't hidding anything for the sake of your relationship.