Ajax Posted October 26, 2010 Posted October 26, 2010 Last night I had a dream of an ex from years ago. We hadn't dated very long and I broke up with her. It was the first time I'd ever broken up with someone, and I hated the feeling but never regretted the breakup. Now last night I had a dream about her. I've actually been doing a lot of thinking about my past relationships. Why I dated them, why they didn't work, and how I felt at the time. Sometimes it was just a lack of chemistry, and those were the easiest to get over. One girl was someone I also worked with and she had cheated on my with an ex. That was a bit tougher since she continued to play me and I had to see her every day. But the one main thing that all of these girls had in common is that even while I was dating them I never really saw a future with them. That is until my most recent ex. We had chemistry, passion, common dreams... but those dreams changed for her. And now I'm left with dreams of girlfriends past.
bl22 Posted October 26, 2010 Posted October 26, 2010 I know exactly what you mean, I've had quite a lot of girlfriends before and they really havent bothered me atall. I have never regretted anything with them....but my recent ex, i now can totally relate to the saying 'the 1 that got away' she was my dream girl, never felt like that about ANYONE. That's what scares me the most, I'm far too picky, always have been. I feel like I won't find anyone again who I loved as much as her.
Author Ajax Posted October 26, 2010 Author Posted October 26, 2010 I know exactly what you mean, I've had quite a lot of girlfriends before and they really havent bothered me atall. I have never regretted anything with them....but my recent ex, i now can totally relate to the saying 'the 1 that got away' she was my dream girl, never felt like that about ANYONE. That's what scares me the most, I'm far too picky, always have been. I feel like I won't find anyone again who I loved as much as her. Yeah, my most recent ex and I had a connection that I'd never felt with anyone else before. I was 100% convinced that she was the one. Now since she left, it makes me wonder if that connection was just in my head. I don't know, she was everything that I wanted in a woman and I thought it was meant to be. I dream about her almost every night. But now that I had a dream about a past ex from a few years ago, it makes me wonder what's going on in my head. I guess it goes to show that even when you're over and ex, you never completely forget about them. That gives me some comfort that my ex will still think of me from time to time.
shayan Posted October 26, 2010 Posted October 26, 2010 yeah I know. I felt the same way to about my last serious one (my first actually). It's hard when you dreamt about something to work, or really became attached and they became deeply engrained in your mind. I feel like that's the hardest part when you still think about that, and they come to you in dreams, and you think about their new life. But, I digress. I've always been a fighter. You got to help yourself realize why you don't want her back. Why you shouldn't take comfort in her thinking about you. it's hard I know. I still have periods where I go back to sadness. But they are getting shorter and more spaced out. you got to let go. It's really hard, but then it isn't, it really isn't that hard as long as it's from the heart. The only problem is how do you get to your heart. How do you help your heart let go. My advice by loving yourself and fighting to not dwell. Once you truly come to love yourself again, it will become an impossiblity for you to want or love your ex any longer. For they left you in misery, and by holding on you freeze yourself in that misery. And if someone truly loves themself they will not allow themselves to be miserable they will do anything for themselves.
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