Suspicious about husband and claims over his "nightshift" job

[loverofloveandstuff]

I agree with goingstrong.

 

Counselling might stop him from expecting/asking you to dress up this way but I doubt it will stop him desiring it... As such, he'll probably seek it elsewhere if he hasn't already.

 

EDIT: I'm curious, how did he bring it up? Did he seem embarassed when he asked you to dress up this way? How did you respond?

[2sunny]

Recently when we've had sex, he's been pushing me to try and dress like Justin Bieber or Adolf Hitler, and no matter how many times I tell him no, he's insistent that I should do it and acts like an upset child having a tantrum.

 

He seems to have stopped going the disco now since I "outed" his disappearing act, but as regards our sex life, the above thing is quite disturbing and I feel worried.

 

We do have sex, but he complains it isn't exciting enough. He does want me to dress up for him, but only as the following individuals:

Justin Bieber

Adolf Hitler

Robert Pattinson

 

Incidentally, he shows no sexual attraction to men, so why the hell is he doing this?

 

I just don't understand. Talking to him hasn't helped. He claims it's just who he is...

 

where do I go from here?

 

stop moving away from the questions and advice by pointing out more weird stuff.

 

either YOU are going to DO things differently - or you're not.

 

standing there telling what weird things he's doing is NOT helping with any solutions.

 

move to change things instead of complaining.

[desertIslandCactus]

 

Perhaps you should try visiting a public forum for cross dressers and try to delve into the understandings of why they feel free of having their partners cross dress.

 

I can't recommend any forums in particular because I don't do that kind of stuff. I'll leave that up to you. Come to think of it, he might be a member of one of those forums right now, seeking advice from other people on how to get you to dress up. They're giving him advice and he feels left out that you don't see things they way he does. That might've prompted him to visit different places during the nights where he was "working".

 

Me saying all of this is a SUGGESTION as to what you can do to play in his fantasy. I'm not saying that you HAVE to do this.

 

Have you asked him if he visited any sex club/dungeon where he can live out his fantasies? Maybe that's where he went. Perhaps we visited some dungeon where the women there will happily oblige to his requests.

 

Have you thought about asking him to dress as a woman, just to see how he reacted?

 

The downside to this is that if you finally give into to his wants, then he could take it a step further and might want you to wear a strap-on while you're dressed as a man.

 

I think you're better off dressing as Blake Lively than Adolf. I'd rather do Blake than Hitler. I don't see any harm in dressing as Blake if the other choices are Justin Beiber, Twilight man, and Hitler.

 

Since you don't do the crossdressing kind of stuff .. Why are you recommendeing that the OP delve deeper into the occult ?