strike1 Posted October 26, 2010 Posted October 26, 2010 (edited) Are you in a relationship that is on shaky ground? Do you want to know how to save it before it ends? If you do then you need to learn what to do. Things can be done to put the relationship back on solid ground, but it will take some work. If you made your partner mad then they may need a bit a time to calm down. Once they have done this, talk to them and see what happened that made them so mad. Tell them you are sorry and that it won’t happen again. Ask them what was that one thing that was said or done. If it was something stupid or callous that you did. Now it might be that things are strained between both of you for no specific reason that can be named. This needs to be talked about too. Your partner could just be restless or bored. Maybe there is a way to spice your relationship back up. A two-day trip off away from everyone might be enough to spark the relationship up again. Your partner may say it is something about your attitude. If they do say this, then listen to them without arguing. Do they say you are being too high minded for an example? If you are being this way you may need to get over yourself and try to see things from your partner’s point of view. Maybe you are just trying to be in charge too much and should learn how to let your partner run the show more often. Remember that a relationship needs to be a partnership not a dictatorship. Both of you should have equal say in all things. When this balance gets tipped to one side or the other, the relationship can get a bit shaky. Another reason for a relationship getting on the rocky side is what they call “empty nest syndrome”. This is when you have both been raising your children and suddenly they are gone to college or have gotten married. While you were busy with the kids you forgot to do coupling , and now you have to get to know each other again. You may have to spend some time discussing what you now want to do with your lives now that you don’t have the kids to tie you down at home. This can put your relationship back on firm ground again. As you can see here there are many reasons for a relationship to get shaky. Some of the reasons might be insurmountable like if you or your partner cheated on the other one. But most of the reasons with a little bit of effort can be worked on and the relationship can even be made stronger. See you don’t have to just let a relationship go. With a bit of thought and effort you can save and keep the relationship going on for many more years. Now isn’t that why you entered into this relationship after all? Wouldn’t you go through life with a partner than alone? Most people like having someone to share things with. So talk things over and try to work things out before you just say goodbye. You will see that you probably can make your relationship solid again. Edited October 26, 2010 by strike1
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