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:( Hiii.. I've recently split up with my boyfriend after a year. I've never been so heartbroken in all my life. I can't eat, sleep, concentrate on anything that's not to do with him and it's driving me insane. I keep going through things over and over again in my head and I need some people's opinion on what to do.

 

Basically, we met just over a year ago. I wasn't looking for anyone and niether was he, but as soon as we met we instantly clicked and amazingly had so much in common! Literally everything about our lives were similar in one way or another. I don't believe in fate, but we met in a bar that niether of us usually go to and both of us agreed that we did things differently that day and weeks before that ended up in us meeting. Cut a long story short, we fell completely and madly in love, I have had boyfriends before so I know what it feels like to be in love and this was real. I felt as though we were made for eachother, I still think it now.

 

However, a couple of weeks ago I decided to drop everything and go away to university. While I was gone I missed him and my friends loads so I decided to come home. Once I was back though he was all differen't but wouldn't tell me why. I later found that because I had just left him to go uni, he felt as though I couldn't love him as much as I said if I could just leave him like I did. He said he was always the one being left behind and felt as though he needed to do things with his life e.g travelling before he gets too old to do it. He said he felt as though he should be on his own and that he wouldn't be able to go travelling because he'd always find it hard to make plans while were together. I understand that. But I just know were meant to be together.

 

He still loves me. I still talk to him by text everyday and he's taking me out for dinner for my birthday.

But I just want to know. Does any one think we could get back together?

I miss him so much it's unbearable. He told me that he might end up regretting this and he knows how he won't find any one as perfect for him as me. He also said that we met too soon and that if it was three years from now he'd happily settle down together forever.

 

Do you think after he's been travelling it could still work? I've read hundreds of stories where people do. I feel like I'm waiting round for him to go travelling so we can get back together! It's such a joke!

 

Sorry for the life story!

Please help if you can

xxxxx

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Hi there,

 

My friend who I live with now and his girlfriend had a similar situation kind of.

 

My friend was into this girl for 3 years but she had a boyfriend for that time. They evetually split up and my friend and her started hanging out. She was due to go overseas for a year 3 months after they started dating, he knew this but he was in love with her and thought the hell with it, he'll spend the next 3 months with her anyway, she really liked him too but at the time was a bit of a floater for lack of a better word, not ready to commit so to speak but she loved him. Needless to say when it was time for her to go he was distraught and on top of that when she got overseas she got together with another guy who she spent the majority of the year with.

 

My friend, all year after us joking to him about the fact that he was just waiting for her to come back and him telling us that he wasn't because he'd been hurt too much. We all knew he was and he was just in denial which he openly admits now obviously. Anyway she arrived back after that year and after a few days arrived on our doorstep. My friend instantly took her in, within a week they were together and she was living with us and to this day 3 years on they are still together and very happy. They are about to embark on their own overseas journey together in a few months then will more than likely get married and settle down afterwards.

 

I have two other friend couples that spent a year or more apart also and are now happily together.

 

I think you will get back together but you can't live as though it's a certainty. I know it's hard right now but you have to continue to live your life.

 

Oh and don't take my friend being with another guy as any bearig on your situation, that's just what my friend went through in his situation to get where he is now :)

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Hello Eternity001 :D

 

That story made me feel much better!

I hope it does work out. I think we have the potential to get back together. Me and him as a couple aren't a problem! So at least it's not something about our relationship that would prevent getting back together a option.

My only problem now is do I keep in contact with him or just cut him off completely?

I know I can't live my life hoping and thinking we'll get back together in the future. It's really hard not to though! But I think I'm going to have to just accept it and get on with my life :)

 

Thank you so much for your help!

Did your friend still talk to the girl through out the year? Or did they just cut off all contact?

xx

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