nice-easy-day Posted October 26, 2010 Posted October 26, 2010 I was reading an article online and it said the man should wait for the woman to bring up the issue of being exclusive. What do you think?
Jannah Posted October 26, 2010 Posted October 26, 2010 I tried to once and failed miserabley . I am not quick to do it again, too nerve wracking. Traditionally, men ask women to marry, so I think in most cases it's best to let him do it.
tigressA Posted October 26, 2010 Posted October 26, 2010 There's no hard and fast rule. If someone wants to be exclusive, they should bring it up. Period. The guy I'm dating was the one to bring it up with me. I've been the one to bring it up before and it's worked out.
Cee Posted October 26, 2010 Posted October 26, 2010 My most recent exclusivity discussion led to him breaking up with me. I didn't even ask him to be exclusive- I told him that I didn't have the energy to date multiple people, but I won't stop him from seeing other people. He then had a freak out and he ended it. The good thing is that I knew where I stood with him- nowhere.
that girl Posted October 26, 2010 Posted October 26, 2010 I think whoever feels it first should say it. As for the advice that the guy should wait, I think it is a bad idea. I think often times the woman will ask first, but waiting led to seriously drama in one of my friend's lives. Basically, the girl assumed they weren't exclusive so she continued dating other guys. Guy flipped out when he found out and ended the relationship. The eventually ended up back together but the guy could have saved himself a lot of drama and bad feeling if he'd just said something earlier. If someone is really into you, they'll agree to exclusivity.
mmk1 Posted October 26, 2010 Posted October 26, 2010 Let the girl ask and keep dating other girls until you agree to be exclusive with one. guys shouldnt ask.
LittleTiger Posted October 26, 2010 Posted October 26, 2010 If I was looking for a relationship, I wouldn't have sex with a guy unless it was exclusive right from the start.
Eeyore79 Posted October 26, 2010 Posted October 26, 2010 If I was looking for a relationship, I wouldn't have sex with a guy unless it was exclusive right from the start. Ditto. I really don't understand multi-dating - you're either interested in someone enough to be with them, or you're not. If someone asks me out and we continue to see each other, I expect that we're having an exclusive relationship.
waynebrady Posted October 26, 2010 Posted October 26, 2010 Women never make any "first moves". No woman will bring up the exclusivity talk first, or initiate anything at all for that matter. The man has to make all the moves and initiate everything.
utterer of lies Posted October 26, 2010 Posted October 26, 2010 Women never make any "first moves". No woman will bring up the exclusivity talk first, or initiate anything at all for that matter. The man has to make all the moves and initiate everything. Maybe that's just how women behave in regards to you
tigressA Posted October 26, 2010 Posted October 26, 2010 Maybe that's just how women behave in regards to you :lmao: Awesome.
waynebrady Posted October 26, 2010 Posted October 26, 2010 Maybe that's just how women behave in regards to you No, that's how women behaves in regards to all men.
utterer of lies Posted October 26, 2010 Posted October 26, 2010 No, that's how women behaves in regards to all men. I'm a man and my experience is different. So I guess it must be you, after all.
somedude81 Posted October 26, 2010 Posted October 26, 2010 Ditto. I really don't understand multi-dating - you're either interested in someone enough to be with them, or you're not. If someone asks me out and we continue to see each other, I expect that we're having an exclusive relationship. Have you ever liked more than one person at a time? From what I figure; if you like somebody, date them. If it's more than one person, so what. Eventually there will be a time when you realize that you like one of them more than the others. That's when to become exclusive.
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