spiegel27 Posted October 26, 2010 Posted October 26, 2010 Hey everyone, I really need to be set straight so I can be sane and I am stuck at this point where I can not figure out if it was something I DID wrong?? or if its just this girl?? Heres the story.. This waitress was staring at me the entire night last weekend while I was out at this restaurant and I was staring back hard. Our body language, facial expressions, everything was there and I was getting the neon sign over her head to approach her so I did. I went over and was straight up with her and said "excuse me..I know this is random but I find you very attractive and noticed we have been looking at each other the entire night, you should give me your number I'd like to take you out for a drink one night." She responded with "I am so glad you came over to me because I wanted to come over to you but I didn't want you to think I was weird especially in the place that I work." We shared some laughs, joked around, got her number and said I would call her. Got her number Saturday night, I called her Monday night and left a voicemail very simply saying "this message is for the cute blonde I met at XYZ resturant, I would like to take you out give me a ring my numbers 123-456-7899" She texted me back in 10 mins and said she is at work got my message but whats up? We texted back and forth and finally set a date for Friday to go out. The rest of the week went by and come thursday night I called to confirm friday night, she never called me back that night. She texted me 7am on friday and said sorry she got my message late didn't want to call back and wake me but still wanted to do something. Now since I was new in town I said any places you really like? So we went out to this lounge friday night and had a great time. Shared a lot of laughs, had great chemistry, a lot in common. She was staring at me with this stare that was piercing. She kept looking at me saying there is a mystery about you in your eyes Its really a turn on and I can't figure it out, but I will! We spent 4 hours talking, laughing and having a good time. Dropped her back off at the place we met half way, she gave me a huge hug and I kissed her on the cheek, we established at the lounge that we should get together during the week and watch some old comedy films and have a good time. So the next night I texted her saturday night and said had a great time, we should get together during the week maybe tuesday and do something. (Now I know I should of called to ask her but whats done is done) She replied with "Yeah last night was fun, I will let you know my schedule and let ya know." I said sounds good. The rest of the weekend went by, all of saturday all of sunday and I decided today monday to send a simple text saying "hey beautiful how are you doing?" She never responded since 9am this morning...her status on her phone said "horrible" and she just never responded and its going on 7pm right now. She is suppose to be letting me know if we are getting together tomorrow night but I don't know anymore. Is it something I did wrong? Why all of the sudden the random no response? Please set me straight thanks a billion for taking the time to read this!
SincereOnlineGuy Posted October 26, 2010 Posted October 26, 2010 So far... from what you've said... DON'T react to any of (your fears). By all means, text her in the morning (Tuesday, right??)... and ask directly if she still wants to do something with you on Tuesday evening. IF she answers, then take it from there. If she doesn't answer, then do NOT under any circumstances contact her unTIL she contacts you. Things sounded quite splendid as you went through the week, now you don't want to come on too strong beyond that. Let HER make the next move after a very fair text in the morning about whether she still wants to go out on Tuesday night.
Author spiegel27 Posted October 26, 2010 Author Posted October 26, 2010 So far... from what you've said... DON'T react to any of (your fears). By all means, text her in the morning (Tuesday, right??)... and ask directly if she still wants to do something with you on Tuesday evening. IF she answers, then take it from there. If she doesn't answer, then do NOT under any circumstances contact her unTIL she contacts you. Things sounded quite splendid as you went through the week, now you don't want to come on too strong beyond that. Let HER make the next move after a very fair text in the morning about whether she still wants to go out on Tuesday night. Thanks for your response, so yes tomorrow tuesday we are suppose to get together well she is suppose to be "checking her schedule and letting me know." but tomorrow morning am I better off to TEXT or CALL her? leave a simple voicemail I feel is better no? what do you think? thanks!
refurb Posted October 26, 2010 Posted October 26, 2010 SOG has it. Things seem to be going well. Her lack of a response could be a million different things of which 999,999 have nothing to do with you. Give a response a day (at least), then try again. No response? You know your answer! RF
Author spiegel27 Posted October 26, 2010 Author Posted October 26, 2010 I understand I should of left mystery after the first date by not contacting her the next day and having her think to herself (does he like me? etc.) When I noticed she put her status as "horrible" I realized today that she put that status up sunday night, before I messaged her monday morning to see how her weekend was. Still why wouldn't she respond to my test simply asking how her weekend went? I need to be more of a challenge which I understand, but is this situation still Salvageable?? We are suppose to be getting together tonight (which since yesterday morning she hasn't responded) so I doubt she will to let me know about tonight. If I let a day or two go by and call to plan something do you think I have another shot again?
lso802 Posted October 26, 2010 Posted October 26, 2010 Wait and see what happens tonight first. Don't contact her again.
EasyHeart Posted October 26, 2010 Posted October 26, 2010 I understand I should of left mystery after the first date by not contacting her the next day and having her think to herself (does he like me? etc.) When I noticed she put her status as "horrible" I realized today that she put that status up sunday night, before I messaged her monday morning to see how her weekend was. Still why wouldn't she respond to my test simply asking how her weekend went? I need to be more of a challenge which I understand, but is this situation still Salvageable?? We are suppose to be getting together tonight (which since yesterday morning she hasn't responded) so I doubt she will to let me know about tonight. If I let a day or two go by and call to plan something do you think I have another shot again?Don't play games and don't try to manipulate her. Be yourself, but be respectful. You are not a part of her life (yet), so she really owes you no explanation about anything, so don't freak out. Maybe she's got some problems in her personal life, maybe she's busy with work, maybe she ran off with a biker. You just met this woman -- don't make her more important to your life than she should be (which is not at all).
D-Lish Posted October 26, 2010 Posted October 26, 2010 Don't treat this girl or your situation like she's the only thing you have going on- which is what you're doing. You left the ball in her court- she said she'd get back to you regarding her schedule and she hasn't. Since she hasn't, why would you chase her down again?
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