bwj1 Posted October 26, 2010 Posted October 26, 2010 (edited) I go to this store usually once a week and am friendly with this girl who works there. Its a place where I go in and know exactly what I am there for and I don't really change it up. She was the first to really approach me to sort of chit chat. At first I figured it was because she is just doing her job and being nice, but I've gathered at this point she knows I am the type of customer who doesn't ask questions or really need any help, but she always seems to approach me anyway. I get the feeling she does like me and I think she is nice and cute. Not typically the type of girl look-wise I go for, but there's something about her I like. She's very friendly and is always smiling and laughing if she can. I have sort of noticed the quick eye contact she makes but her trying not to make it appear like she is. And when we chat she usually ends it with things like "well I better get back to work" in the sense she forgets she is at work. Anyway, I've just never approached asking a girl out at her workplace and don't really know how to "ask her out" without it being somewhat awkward since it isn't a normal social setting for either of us. Perhaps anyone has been in the situation before or any ladies out there want to perhaps share their insights if they've ever been asked out at their workplace by a customer. Perhaps I am reading this all wrong and I'm just being known as one of the "regulars" to be nice to? Thanks! Edited October 26, 2010 by bwj1
Feelin Frisky Posted October 26, 2010 Posted October 26, 2010 (edited) Do something soon. It can get even more awkward if you keep going on without establishing what's what. I would try to ask if she's married or has a boyfriend (if she's not wearing a wedding or engagement ring). You can always just say "lucky guy" if she says yes. If she starts volunteering information and it seems like she's free to date, then excange names and feel her out for a date. You don't have to put yourself entirley on the spot by asking her bluntly if she'll go out with you--just make the pass to find out if she's open to it. She'll be in her driver's seat to either let you in to her life or drive on w/o anyone having to have any hard feelings. ETA: There was a hot looking woman who was a cashier at the place I used to buy my lunch. She would always give me the double take. Icould tell she fancied me. One day I said "married lady are ya?. She said yes, and I said darn. I still flirted with her but gave up the idea of dating and bedding her--not that that couldn't happen. Edited October 26, 2010 by Feelin Frisky
Author bwj1 Posted October 26, 2010 Author Posted October 26, 2010 (edited) I agree I have to do something soon. Its been going on a while. Or else if she does like me and I don't do something, I could inadvertently be sending her a signal I am not interested, even when I am! She seems like the type of a girl who expects the guy to make the first move, like most women I find! Definitely know she isn't married. Not sure about a boyfriend. That's the tough part, isn't it? Suss-ing out if she is even available. One friend of mine said to try and find out when she is finished work and plan to "bump" into her, but that seems a little tough and also lots of work! I have thought of asking one of her co-workers if they know if she is available, but even they might not know! And I certainly don't want a co-worker doing the fishing for me and maybe letting her know about it! Edited October 26, 2010 by bwj1
Feelin Frisky Posted October 26, 2010 Posted October 26, 2010 I agree I have to do something soon. Its been going on a while. Or else if she does like me and I don't do something, I could inadvertently be sending her a signal I am not interested, even when I am! She seems like the type of a girl who expects the guy to make the first move, like most women I find! Definitely know she isn't married. Not sure about a boyfriend. That's the tough part, isn't it? Suss-ing out if she is even available. One friend of mine said to try and find out when she is finished work and plan to "bump" into her, but that seems a little tough and also lots of work! Nah, that's akin to stalking. Obviously you two are good with being sociable so just asking her if she has a boyfriend is not intrusive. She's still in charge and it's in her court to choose whether to answer it yes or no. I can't conceive of a nice girl turning evil on you for asking something like if she's free to date. A yes is not an automatic "yes, I'll go out with YOU". It's a yes, she can be persuaded. There was this place I used to buy lunch in NYC--the cashier was really gorgeous. She always gave me double takes. We didn't speak at all except for me to pay. One day she was just exuding so much sexual energy that it would have seemed dense of me not to do something. So, I simply said "so, are you married?" She nodded yes but it seemed like it was something she did reluctantly. I got an ego boost from her interest in me but I concluded that instant that she was out of bounds. I nailed the cashier down the street though. Good luck.
Green Posted October 26, 2010 Posted October 26, 2010 I think asking a girl "do you have a boyfriend" is more lame and awkward then just asking her out. Just ask her to do something "hey lets get dinner at this great place I know"
Feelin Frisky Posted October 26, 2010 Posted October 26, 2010 (edited) I think asking a girl "do you have a boyfriend" is more lame and awkward then just asking her out. Just ask her to do something "hey lets get dinner at this great place I know" Thanks for sharing. Joy. So listen to Green. Just assume she's free and put her and yourself on the spot for the one answer YOU want. Maybe you should consider it "lame" to even ask anyone for some insight too. Edited October 26, 2010 by Feelin Frisky
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