U1987 Posted October 25, 2010 Posted October 25, 2010 So for the first time ever since I tried setting up an online dating profile, a girl has messaged me. The thing is, there really isn't much to work with. All she said was "You need some close up shots of your face." The thing is, I don't have any portrait-shots. All my pics are, I guess you would say, "Action-shots" (playing guitar at an open mike, snowboarding, doing a small fashion show, singing karaoke; one's a goofy shot of me and some friends posing in stylish suits with samurai swords and bb-guns for a Kill Bill-themed party) I don't have any plain portraits. I don't want to go out and pay a professional photographer for one, but at the same time, I don't want to go to the bathroom and take a picture of the mirror like some teenage loser on Myspace. What should I do? How should I respond to this one?
flying Posted October 25, 2010 Posted October 25, 2010 So for the first time ever since I tried setting up an online dating profile, a girl has messaged me. The thing is, there really isn't much to work with. All she said was "You need some close up shots of your face." The thing is, I don't have any portrait-shots. All my pics are, I guess you would say, "Action-shots" (playing guitar at an open mike, snowboarding, doing a small fashion show, singing karaoke; one's a goofy shot of me and some friends posing in stylish suits with samurai swords and bb-guns for a Kill Bill-themed party) I don't have any plain portraits. I don't want to go out and pay a professional photographer for one, but at the same time, I don't want to go to the bathroom and take a picture of the mirror like some teenage loser on Myspace. What should I do? How should I respond to this one? Ask one of your friends to take a pic for you. I agree on no bathroom-mirror shots. But a head shot is important.
OceanGirl Posted October 25, 2010 Posted October 25, 2010 She is telling you something important. You need a clear face shot. Take an angled one with your hand.
Author U1987 Posted October 25, 2010 Author Posted October 25, 2010 She is telling you something important. You need a clear face shot. Take an angled one with your hand. I! Am Not! An Emo!
flying Posted October 25, 2010 Posted October 25, 2010 Why can't you just ask a friend to take a few closeup shots? What's the big deal?
OceanGirl Posted October 25, 2010 Posted October 25, 2010 I! Am Not! An Emo! Haha - it is OK to have one angled shot as long as you have some normal ones too. Otherwise, use a timer feature on your camera.
Author U1987 Posted October 25, 2010 Author Posted October 25, 2010 Haha - it is OK to have one angled shot as long as you have some normal ones too. Otherwise, use a timer feature on your camera. I'll try. Once I do have a good head shot though, how do I respond to her? WHAT DO I SPECIFICALLY SAY AS AN EXAMPLE? (no offense, but a lot of you are having trouble with that simple question)
Raderick Posted October 25, 2010 Posted October 25, 2010 Good luck with that attitude, dude. Ciao. I think he's asking a very legitimate question and getting a bit flustered with a lack of an answer. I don't blame him for trying to think of something catchy and witty to respond with. Then again I'm not helping much, go figure.
flying Posted October 25, 2010 Posted October 25, 2010 I think he's asking a very legitimate question and getting a bit flustered with a lack of an answer. Then again I'm not helping much, go figure. His question on this thread was answered. Head shot. Done. As for what he should say, he has asked umpteen times for people to tell him exactly what to say. Mostly, they don't want to. No one's getting paid for this. Good advice has been offered that requires him to do some of his own work, but that doesn't suit him. He wants spoon feeding. 'Nuff said.
Author U1987 Posted October 25, 2010 Author Posted October 25, 2010 Good advice has been offered that requires him to do some of his own work, but that doesn't suit him. He wants spoon feeding. 'Nuff said. I did my own work and you all hated it. When I asked for specific exampled or constructive criticism, you didn't provide it. It's easy to criticize. Productive, constructive advice is harder to give. So once again, what's an exact, specific response I should send to this girl as an example?
Tim The Enchanter Posted October 25, 2010 Posted October 25, 2010 (edited) I did my own work and you all hated it. When I asked for specific exampled or constructive criticism, you didn't provide it. It's easy to criticize. Productive, constructive advice is harder to give. So once again, what's an exact, specific response I should send to this girl as an example? Change the record already. Emphasising those words in bold or caps doesn't make people more likely to help you. In the first thread you made on this subject, you were given lots of helpful advice and chose to completely ignore it. Instead, you keep repeating the same old line again and again. For god's sake, try and listen to people instead of badgering us like a toddler who's lost his rattle. Edited October 25, 2010 by Tim The Enchanter
youngskywalker Posted October 25, 2010 Posted October 25, 2010 I'll try. Once I do have a good head shot though, how do I respond to her? WHAT DO I SPECIFICALLY SAY AS AN EXAMPLE? (no offense, but a lot of you are having trouble with that simple question) LMAO, what a funny thread. I found it hilarious that nobody will answer this poor guys question. I'd take a stab at it but I'm not very fluid in opening lines.
Tim The Enchanter Posted October 25, 2010 Posted October 25, 2010 LMAO, what a funny thread. I found it hilarious that nobody will answer this poor guys question. I'd take a stab at it but I'm not very fluid in opening lines. Oh God, imagine what would happen if he actually got a date? Would he asked to be wired up so that we could give him minute by minute instructions throughout the date? - Kiss her on the cheek! - Buy her a drink! - Laugh at her joke! - Don't pick your nose!
welikeincrowds Posted October 25, 2010 Posted October 25, 2010 WHAT DO I SPECIFICALLY SAY AS AN EXAMPLE?"I took your advice! I went to a professional glamour photographer and got some head shots done. I channeled some really lovely poses, but I finally went with the one where I rested my face sideways against my hands and looked longingly into the camera with a sweet little half-smile. They put a really nice glow effect on it that makes me look wonderful, especially against the cloudy backdrop. I picked up a bunch of 10x13s I can send you, so reply with your address. I even got some wallet-sized so you can have me with you wherever you go! :)"
BobSacamento Posted October 26, 2010 Posted October 26, 2010 I wouldn't even respond. I'm not her pet.
Author U1987 Posted October 26, 2010 Author Posted October 26, 2010 Look, I'm really, really not asking a lot. I'm asking for an example of what to say that would be witty, charming; make the girl want to continue into a conversation. I finally figured how to set the time-delay on my came. I made some head shots, but I made them silly; I'm wearing a thick robe and leaning back into my leather recliner in front of some burgundy-red drapes and holding up a scotch as if to say "cheers." I'm thinking of attaching the tags "I have many leather-bound books. They smell of rich mahogany." Think girls would get the reference? If you won't give me an example, then tell me what you think of this. Here's some head-shots. It's cool you're into law school. How is that? That's really all I can come up with. Aside from law school, her profile has the same old "I like music/shopping/hanging out with friends" as every single girls' profile says.
BobSacamento Posted October 26, 2010 Posted October 26, 2010 "Hey you're right! Forgive me, I'm a novice when it comes to this. Here are a few head shots. So how do you like Law School?"
Author U1987 Posted October 26, 2010 Author Posted October 26, 2010 "Hey you're right! Forgive me, I'm a novice when it comes to this. Here are a few head shots. So how do you like Law School?" Thank you. This is really all I wanted; an example, not a vague outline. Still, there's gotta be more. "So how do you like Law School?" I'm sure a million guys ask her that everyday. Is there anything else I can elaborate on? Also, like I said, do you think girls would get the joke in my picture and tags?
BobSacamento Posted October 26, 2010 Posted October 26, 2010 No it's the wrong audience. Women hate Anchorman.
LittleTiger Posted October 26, 2010 Posted October 26, 2010 Brutal honesty for you - just because she told you to put some photos up doesn't mean she's interested. I never put a photo of my face on my online profile and I got asked for one all the time. Sometimes guys were very rude too. Asking is not always an expression of interest. Make it easy on yourself and just say - "There you go, some close-ups, what do you think? I like your profile by the way".
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