Mixin6 Posted October 25, 2010 Posted October 25, 2010 So there's this girl I was really interested in a few years ago and she knew it. She had a boyfriend of course so I kept my distance but we've run into each other at parties, bars, etc. and kept it to hello or small talk. We have a few mutual friends. Anyway, I went to a Halloween party over the weekend and she showed up. Hadn't seen her in a while so we got to catching up and all that. She then asks if I was gonna be at a party next week that my friend is throwing and I told her I had somewhere else to be that night. She got a pissed off look on her face, turned around, and walked away. WHOA! Wait a minute. Even when she knew I was interested in her, she showed NO interest in me whatsoever. That's OK. I understood she had a boyfriend and moved on. I put her out of my mind and looked to date other people. I was cool with just being an acquaintance from then on out. When I saw her a few days ago at the party, the last thing on my mind was her and I hooking up. Even now I don't think she's interested in me but her actions the other night kinda have me confused a little bit. What happened? I don't get it.
Mme. Chaucer Posted October 25, 2010 Posted October 25, 2010 That hardly qualifies as "freaking out." For all you know, she could have just experienced a feminine hygiene crisis and needed to hotfoot it to the ladies room.
Author Mixin6 Posted October 25, 2010 Author Posted October 25, 2010 Haha true. Let's change freaking out to stomps off.
Star Gazer Posted October 25, 2010 Posted October 25, 2010 Haha true. Let's change freaking out to stomps off. Still an exaggeration, me thinks, as no one would stomp off over simply having other, nonspecified plans... Her reaction was probably more of a reaction to the manner in which you said it, not what you actually said. I imagine you saying it with a sort of, "pffft, I've got somewhere better to be" attitude. Am I right?
Author Mixin6 Posted October 25, 2010 Author Posted October 25, 2010 Still an exaggeration, me thinks, as no one would stomp off over simply having other, nonspecified plans... Her reaction was probably more of a reaction to the manner in which you said it, not what you actually said. I imagine you saying it with a sort of, "pffft, I've got somewhere better to be" attitude. Am I right? Yeah. That was pretty much my attitude but why would she specifically ask if I was gonna be there? No she didn't stomp off or freak out but she walked away without saying anything. Made me ask myself if I did/said anything wrong.
D-Jam Posted October 25, 2010 Posted October 25, 2010 So there's this girl I was really interested in a few years ago and she knew it. She had a boyfriend of course so I kept my distance but we've run into each other at parties, bars, etc. and kept it to hello or small talk. We have a few mutual friends. Anyway, I went to a Halloween party over the weekend and she showed up. Hadn't seen her in a while so we got to catching up and all that. She then asks if I was gonna be at a party next week that my friend is throwing and I told her I had somewhere else to be that night. She got a pissed off look on her face, turned around, and walked away. WHOA! Wait a minute. Even when she knew I was interested in her, she showed NO interest in me whatsoever. That's OK. I understood she had a boyfriend and moved on. I put her out of my mind and looked to date other people. I was cool with just being an acquaintance from then on out. When I saw her a few days ago at the party, the last thing on my mind was her and I hooking up. Even now I don't think she's interested in me but her actions the other night kinda have me confused a little bit. What happened? I don't get it. Who cares? Not trying to be mean...but she has a BF, so in reality whatever she thinks of you is irrelevant. It's not like you're going after her, nor trying to become "just a friend". Maybe I'm sounding cold, but if I meet a girl I'm interested in, but find out she's "taken", then I write her off until she's "available" and "interested in me". I won't be a jerk to her or anything, but if I was in your shoes I'd just shrug my shoulders and say "women"...then move on and seek out a woman who isn't "taken".
Star Gazer Posted October 25, 2010 Posted October 25, 2010 Yeah. That was pretty much my attitude but why would she specifically ask if I was gonna be there? No she didn't stomp off or freak out but she walked away without saying anything. Made me ask myself if I did/said anything wrong. She was probably just making casual conversation. And you DID do something if you acted the way I described. Whether she's interested or not, single or not, few people like being around pompous people. It's funny how you went from saying she freaked out, then to stomped off, and now she just walked away without saying anything. Me thinks you're the one wigging out here. She could care less.
Author Mixin6 Posted October 25, 2010 Author Posted October 25, 2010 Pompous? No. That would be me ignoring her when she came up to me. It's not like I said I was gonna be at party with P. Diddy and Kim Kardashian and had a VIP table in the corner. Now THAT would be arrogant, and pompous. Look, I'm not saying this girl wanted me to ask her for her number or buy her a drink, but she has NEVER come up to me and just made "casual conversation". Just weird, that's all. She could have said, "Oh, OK. Well have fun doing whatever you're gonna do" and just walked away.
John018 Posted October 25, 2010 Posted October 25, 2010 I think she wanted you to attend the party but not because she is interested. She probably had her own selfish reasons for you to attend. For instance since she knows you were interested at one point so you being there may have provided her with an ego boost - "oh, there's another guy who fancies me". Or she may have wanted to use you to make her BF jealous. But it's probably the former. Like you said she gave off no signals in the past and the fact that she showed her annoyance so quickly suggests that she is not interested. People don't like to upset the guys they are interested in.
Author Mixin6 Posted October 26, 2010 Author Posted October 26, 2010 I agree with John. What if I had said, "YEAH! I'll be there."? She would have said, "Another sucker. Still got him. How typical. I thought he'd man up and grow a pair. Guess not. Let me get away from this dork and get a drink at the bar."
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