Sonolumino Posted October 25, 2010 Posted October 25, 2010 It's been 3 months since the break and 1 month of NC. I'm about 80% there. Anybody have any advice to make it over the final hurdles? I think about her during the day, but there are no emotions involved with it. It's just hard to break that habit. I know she's gone, I know I'll never be with her again and I don't want her back. I just want to be a glimmer of my old self again, albeit more experienced. I still have moments where I truly miss her, but those are fleeting. I want to let it go so badly.
havehope Posted October 25, 2010 Posted October 25, 2010 (edited) Don't rush yourself to let it go. Its only been a few months - some people take longer and thats okay. Allow yourself time to experience all the emotions that go with a breakup, and take each day as it comes, realizing there will be good days and bad days. You dont need the added pressure of hurrying and trying to be over it. Going NC is a great start... it will come in time to let it go. You'll wake up one day and it won't be so bad. Then those days will start to come in succession. I still have those days and its been about a year for me. I made a list to pros and cons about them, and being the visual person I am, it helped solidify that we're better off separately. Looking at that list in the hard times was my "Oh yeah, thats why I'm doing this" moment Edited October 25, 2010 by havehope
shayan Posted October 25, 2010 Posted October 25, 2010 I have to agree with the above it's not a race but rather a process, allow yourself to truly mourn this and let go.
strength-abounds Posted October 26, 2010 Posted October 26, 2010 Don't rush it man. Accept the grief when it strikes; acknowledge the joy when the grief fleets. Hang in there. It does get better.
Author Sonolumino Posted October 26, 2010 Author Posted October 26, 2010 Thanks guys. I'm just sick and tired of being sick and tired.
SadGirl23 Posted October 26, 2010 Posted October 26, 2010 Thanks guys. I'm just sick and tired of being sick and tired. I'm with you sono It's been 3 months and 1 week so far for me. I still count the days like no other. Although my ex told me 3 weeks ago that he is not seeing anyone still even though it didn't matter for him to tell me since he isn't with me either way.. I, too, know hes long gone. Not sure if I want him back anymore because he put me thru hell, but wish he one day can have some sleepless nights and cry. Just like what I have done for the past months. We will get thru this. No rush as you should take things day by day.. cry if you need too, beat your pillow if you have too, or get out and go to church.. you came a long ways since day one. I really do hope things will work out for you. Hope you will be able to smile one day without no pain or sorrow.
PegNosePete Posted October 26, 2010 Posted October 26, 2010 3 months and half a week for me. I didn't even notice the 3 month passing, until I was driving home, and remembered it was the 22nd. I still have good days and bad days, but the good days outnumber the bad ones now.
HopeLove Posted October 26, 2010 Posted October 26, 2010 Hi Sono, I know exactely how you feel, I'm going through the same. In two days it will be 6 months since we broke up and on Saturday 2 months of strictly NC. I feel much better know but sometimes I have a really bad day and I can't believe I feel this way after such a long time and it really sucks but I believe that some day we won't feel sad anymore, we won't remember the ex often and suddenly we will remember them and realized that a lot of time happend in between and we will smile. It takes time, and time takes time.
pandagirl Posted October 26, 2010 Posted October 26, 2010 It's not even been two months for me, and I'm already sick of feeling "off." But for all of us, it's important to see that things HAVE gotten better and we are healing. It's all in increments...
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