the secret

[tbird509]

has anybody ever read this book,let me know what you think,i got this from another website.i copy and pasted this

 

So interesting story I thought I would share of recent events that have happened to me recently. I posted a thread a little while back about my secret to breakups and the mental tools I used to really help rebuild myself and reshift me thinking. Since I have done this quite a few amazing things have happened...

 

A lot of especially just starting the breakup phase of there relationship first dwell on the concept "Is my ex going to come back". We all want to know people often wonder what the best techniques are to get there ex back. People also question there actions of there ex analyzing and disectiong everything to see if there is some kind of hidden meaning. Well I can definately say that with certainty and expierence. That shifting your thought process and creating a positive belief system and applying the No Contact concept are trully powerful techniques.

 

A lot of people talk about using no contact as the best solution. Giving both partners the time to reflect upon the relationship. Time to also miss the other and possibility to second guess there decision to break up. However then then breakupee if you will employs a new belief system combined with this. Well the results are dramtic.

 

Case in point. I like most people have recently gone through 2 relationship both didnt last very long. However both were very passionate and I cared about each woman very much. The first relationship ended extremely abuptly. And to be honest both us werent really ready for it to end. We were living together and just a few weeks away from closing on a house. And literally in a blink of an eye it was all gone. Similiar stories are just far too common.... Anyways needless to say. I was devistated. I mean trully crushed. The whole thoughts of suicide.. not being able to function.. no sleeping eating the whooooolllleeee nine. To tops matters off she moved on in less than a month right into another "serious" relationship.

 

It really took a lot for me to pick myself up from this while. It took so much support from friends and family to slowly help rebuild myself and my self esteem. But once I did start feeling good about myself again and my outlook once again became positive. I attracted my new girlfriend into my life. And she was great he had a lot of good times and a lot of great chemistry. We recently broke up a month ago because we were just doing the whole make up break up thing just far to often. I part of me still has hope that she will come back. But I am not holding my breathe over it...

 

However this is the most important part. Going through the breakup with my recent girlfriend. I tried something completely new. I didnt want to go back into the depressive state. And start beating myself up and thinking about the 2 back to back relationships that have literally just failed and start blaming myself and doing basically a bunch of self destructive damage.

 

So I started to shift my beliefs I bought the book "The Secret" and the movie as well. I started reading it and following the principles I also started to go to church and find my faith again. I cant really explain to you how it worked. But because I began to believe in something so much greater than myself. And also appreciate all the wonderful gifts in life I have been given. My whole outlook on life and relationships and what had happened literally almost changed overnight. I began to think and feel in a attitude of grattitude. I had excepted my mistakes chalked them up. And most importantly let them go and let them go for myself.

 

Once I let go of that negative depressing and insecure feelings and only think and feel and focus on postive things. Doors literally opened up. My ex from 3 years go calls me out of no where and needs. Needs help with her current relationship and someone to talk too. A girl I dated from 2 years ago flys in to visit. Everytime I go out I have met somebody new. My ex from my first relationship that left me on me knees called me and we hung out for the first time last night since everything ended so abuptly without closure. And the list goes on and on and on. I feel as I have grown emotional stronger that more and more women I have literally attracted into my life especially ex's from my past.

 

Kind of crazy right? My mind is still blown as to how fast this has really happened. But I can tell you this. It feels great! And so all those wondering "Hey will my ex ever come back" well in my case... Every single one has. Every last one. In one way or another they have. As soon as you I shifted my mental outlook and just the vibe I was emitting. They starting coming.

 

So think about this people if you are in a situation, like a bad breakup. You can either sit there and pine and dwell over the situation. OR you can accept your faults and mistakes in the relationship. Let it go and immediately begin to shift your outlook and how you feel. If it was your fault. Leave the person along. Give them space to heal and find themselves again. Give them that respect. And I can promise you. At some point or another. THEY WILL COME BACK! But only if you are willing to learn and grow from that person that you were

[tbird509]

this is more from the same poster....Ok I know your in pain buddy and its obvious your suffering quite a bit. And I have gone through the heartache you are going through many times. So I can promise you this. The more you dwell, the more you ponder and pine the more you try and contact your ex. The more you will suffer. Period. No one guy or girl likes feeling how you are feeling right now. I wish this was a perfect world so that we didnt all have to go through this at some point of our lives but we do unfortunately. But do know this... the good aint as good without the bad. Once you get through this you will become so much stronger and gain a new found respect for yourself.

 

Now that I am done with the pep talk. I can tell you personally what I have been doing to handle my current situation. But before I really get into do note that at first its going to sound probably nuts and had I not tried ot first hand and trully believed in it I would also probably think its a bunch of bull and frankly life just doesnt work like this... But I am going to share with you and hopefully others may also give this a shot.

 

So I when my ex broke up with my I started immediately venting to some of my girlfriends about what had happened. I thought it was very ironic that a couple of them who dont even know eachother actually recommended the same thing. They said "Hey Will have you ever read the book The Secret I really think it could help you" I told them that I had watched 10 minutes of the movie once. And as I got into it I thought it was total crap and it didnt work. Because the basic premis of the Secret is that by using the Law of attraction that you can trully control the outcome of what happens in your life. That you can attract the good and bad and really anything you want using the techniques discuessed in both the book and the movie.

 

Well like you and other I was extremely desperate and in a ton of pain and so confused. And desperate times call for desperate measures. I trully thought that at this point I have nothing to loose. And since a couple of my girlfriends who dont even know eachother and live pretty much across the state or saying the exact same thing. This must be a message from a higher power! So lets go for it.

 

So I went to walmart bought the book and that night immediately started reading it. I became so capitavted by it I must have just breezed through the first 3 chapters. And as I kept reading I literally began to feel trully good! I began to feel as if the depression, pain, guilt, everything was being lifted out of me. I began to get hope! In fact I was so excited and literally drawn to the idea I continued reading it even while I was at work and Immediately started putting it to practice.

 

So some of the ideas and concepts are. Be grateful for what you have. Love yourself for all that you are. Believe in what you want and see it in your mind and the universe (or higher power) shall manifest it!

 

So I did I started thinking to myself. Wow are in the middle of a ression and I have a great job, I make good money, I am a generous person, I give to the homeless, I am a role model for my coworkers, I call my grandma everyday to make sure she is ok, I am funny, I am good looking, I loved my girlfriend and gave her all that I had to give, etc etc I mean I just kept going on. Really thinking about all the good that was in me. I immediately began to feel a healthy love for myself and it started to feel like I found my mojo again or my glow if you will.

 

I noticed small things right away. My coworkers were being more talkative and friendly. People at the coffee stand seem to smile and innocently flirt. Since I have been in vegas (1 year) I have made a total of 2 friends in the gym. No one really comes up and talks to me. However since I have put the secret to the test I have literally made about 6 new friends in the 3 weeks. And most importantly I completely left my ex alone and believed in my heart that I had done nothing wrong. I loved her. I loved her kid. I worshipped them and gave them the world. They were both constantly spoiled with attention, emotion, and any material thing they could ever want. They never went wanting for anything. So I knew that she would be back. I believed it. One of the things that the book teaches you is to manifest the feelings of owning whatever it is that you trully desire. And that love is the most power feeling we can create. So I began to visualize she had already come back. I cleaned up my house as if she was on her way over. Made the bed and at night I would close my eyes and visualize her laying next to me. I would pretend to kiss her shoulder as if she was already there and say good night baby I love you sweet dreams....

 

Ok I know you and probably else must be thinking ok nut job you need serious mental help.... Well I can tell you this. I saw in my mind that she would call or text in exactly 2 weeks. And on that friday at 1 in the morning she did. True fact she made on some bull crap excuse to talk. I had already been sleeping so I didnt get it till the next day. But I knew this was her first attempt...

 

So call it what you will I have seen this trully work in my life as well as other peoples. I can give you more crazy example of how I have applied this and won at the casino's and got a laptop in the mail I wasnt expecting and all sorts of crazy stuff but bottom line is this...

 

I am no longer suffering. I am no longer depressed I have hope and most importantly belief! That things will be just fine. I also have quite a few other girls beating down my door right now trying to get my attention. But to be honest I am just not ready and I dont want to hurt anyone at this point. So I am just taking things slow allowing myself to heal and her to come back. But depending on how long she takes I may not even want her back. Time has a crazy way of healing and really putting things into persepective.

 

And let me add a couple a more notes from a psychology perspective that this also plays. In doing this you are rebuilding yourself asteem. You are also giving her, her space and giving her time to think and do whatever she needs to do to get whatever it is out of her system. If you suddenly dissappear out of her life and completely cut off all communication and she has no idea what your doing or thinking.... I can almost garuntee she will start to wonder what you are doing and why you arent chasing after her anymore. And this is when she will call... they almost always do. Women just need time and space. They also want a strong confident man. A man who is emotional stable and can be there rock. When you act like life cant go on with them well in a twisted way they start to think you pathetic. And you just feed there current drive even more. SO DONT DO THIS. I know its the hardest thing you will ever have to do but trust me IT IS THE ONLY THING YOU CAN DO! PERIOD!

 

So find the love in your again. Go back to your hobbies. Join a sport. Take up martial arts. Go hang with the boys. Start getting busy and start getting happy. I can tell you that women also have a sixth sense and for some crazy reason when you are about to trully move on and you dont really care any more if things work out or not and frankly you have just accepted everything. THAT is the point that they will want you. Its really twisted how it all works but I have gone through this so many times that I can pretty much garuntee this!

[lightning]

Spot on! Totally agree! Love your work! I 'think' exactly that way. Have you read Louise Hay 'You Can Heal Your Life'? It's all so true. It takes less energy to smile and be positive than to mope and be negative. I have affirmations all over my house and am constantly telling myself 'I love and approve of myself', I get a carpark out the front of the supermarket every time. Money always seems to appear from unexpected sources when needed. Ex's have always come back(eventually). I have the atitude 'I always get what I want/need' in divine time.

 

I do have lapses where I need to re-read or watch this material or I surround myself with a positive friend and get back into positive thinking asap. It's almost like fake it to you make it. If you think/see enough you make it happen. Ha ha to the comment about having your ex there at night and I do the same thing.

 

I think all recently heartbroken peoples(or all people for that matter) should take a leaf out of this man's book

[Trovador]

I can tell you that women also have a sixth sense and for some crazy reason when you are about to trully move on and you dont really care any more if things work out or not and frankly you have just accepted everything. THAT is the point that they will want you.

 

More than "when you are truly moved on"... but the guy has it right...

[Ajax]

I can tell you that women also have a sixth sense and for some crazy reason when you are about to trully move on and you dont really care any more if things work out or not and frankly you have just accepted everything. THAT is the point that they will want you.

 

More than "when you are truly moved on"... but the guy has it right...

 

Even then, they usually don't.

[Trovador]

Yeah, it happens the other way around either... they come back when you are feeling like ****... the point being that when you moved on, you don't take them back...

 

The beauty of moving on is that you don't care at all and that freedom is priceless, alas it's so hard to achieve it...

[alwaysoverthinking]

I can tell you that women also have a sixth sense and for some crazy reason when you are about to trully move on and you dont really care any more if things work out or not and frankly you have just accepted everything. THAT is the point that they will want you.

 

More than "when you are truly moved on"... but the guy has it right...

 

That **** is so true

[andrew-bkk]

I can tell you that women also have a sixth sense and for some crazy reason when you are about to trully move on and you dont really care any more if things work out or not and frankly you have just accepted everything. THAT is the point that they will want you. Its really twisted how it all works but I have gone through this so many times that I can pretty much garuntee this!

 

But surely that's the point at which you truly should move on.

 

Because her wanting you at that time is simply a reflection of her insecurity and/or jealousy. A reconciliation with her would probably only be temporary, and when she eventually leaves you again you'd be right back to square one.

[Fluffsticle]

I am reading this book at the moment.

 

I am reading it, because I want to move on with my life, forget the past. Find out who I am and what I want.

 

I do not want my ex back, and that feels great.

I had a second chance, and all that did was re-open old wounds!

 

I can't wait to get home tonight and finish reading it.

 

Positive thinking all the way :-)

 

Who cares if he is attracted back to that. I don't want him. I want someone right for me, and who will make me as happy as I deserve :-)

 

Thanks for posting... The world needs lots of positive thinkers.