atage26 Posted October 25, 2010 Posted October 25, 2010 Is my ex still pining for me? Wats the longest period of time u still pined for ur ex? Could it be he's holding back because he doesn't wanna come betw my current bf? Or is he just going down the path of frenship? Btw, i just broke up but my ex doesn't know it. I've finally done a clean cut from my ex since Jan this yr. That was because I was with some one new and he didn't want me to contact my ex anymore. So i did my best until late Apr (my ex's bday) and I called him to wish him. Since then we've talked on/off. why i would think so: -he's still single -he wished me on my bday)which was last wk) after the clock striked 12 -he texts me from time to time 1x/wk -he stays up late to chat with me altho he has to work the next day (adhoc basis, like 1x/month) -when he was high from drinking once, we chatted til 4 am about how we almost made it, how he tot i was the one he'd marry etc... -he was upset when i made a sales visit to his company but didn't bother to see him (i haven't seen him in 10 months...since we ended things) -he hints on going out for a drink, that he's happy to hear from me etc... -he gets extra worried if he tot i was pissed with him -he took over a year to get over his last ex. so maybe this is just in his nature? why i doubt: -he has told me that 3 months after we ended things, he went on a date with this other girl...but i guess things didn't wrk out betw them (mainly because the girl didn't respond much after 2 dates) -he is the "friendly" sort. I'm only his 2nd ex. But even with his 1st ex, he was almost bestfriends with her after they broke up. -doesn't seem like he's waiting for me on messenger -Sometimes when i do call him (at work tho), he cuts the convo short..so usually we chat for only 15 mins, he says he's busy or he's rushing off somewhere -he's always out, every single day. I mean, if u pine for yr ex, i think u'd be waiting for her to come online to chat with her or wat not rite?
thatsonlyme Posted October 25, 2010 Posted October 25, 2010 He may be just playing a game trying to get you back. Or maybe he's completely over you. If he goes out every nigh, maybe he's trying to keep himself busy and avoid thinking about you. That's what I did. to tell you the truth, even though it's been over 2 months and I feel a lot better, don't miss her much and have plans in my life, she could still get me back if she really wanted to! I don't want it to happen and I'm excited because she's moving to California so it's definitely over, but I know my weaknesses and she still has way too much power over me! If you want him back, go get him!Set your ego aside and do what you think is right. but before that, make sure that's what you really want, you don't want to break his heart again.
Author atage26 Posted October 26, 2010 Author Posted October 26, 2010 Thanks guys for the reply. We've been "officially" broken up since June last yr. And really cut off ties only Jan this yr. Is this too long a period? He seems to know wat goes on in my life by checking out my fb, even reading comments i posted on other frens' wall etc. He also sometimes asked how are things betw my current bf & I. And i tld him i don wanna talk abt it. When he wished me for my birthday, he told me sorry for disturbing because he didn't want me to get into trouble with my bf. oh wells, shrug. I guess one fine day I'll see him again.
poorguy Posted October 26, 2010 Posted October 26, 2010 I'm confused a little bit. Do you want him back or are you just wanting to know if he still wants you? You commented on my thread and then I saw yours so I read it lol. It's interesting but if you could clarify I'll tell you what's going on with him
Author atage26 Posted October 26, 2010 Author Posted October 26, 2010 I'm confused a little bit. Do you want him back or are you just wanting to know if he still wants you? You commented on my thread and then I saw yours so I read it lol. It's interesting but if you could clarify I'll tell you what's going on with him LOL well. It's more of the latter. Let me know ur thoughts =)
poorguy Posted October 26, 2010 Posted October 26, 2010 Got it. Well he probably still has feelings for you. However if it has been awhile his feelings sre'nt nearly as strong as they were initially. It does'nt sound like he's pining for you though-it sort of sounds like he's out living his life. I'm sure he still thiks about you though
thatsonlyme Posted October 27, 2010 Posted October 27, 2010 One question. Why do you care if he still wants you or not if you don't want to get back together with him? It's just kinda odd. Maybe you miss him and you're not even aware of it yourself?
Author atage26 Posted October 27, 2010 Author Posted October 27, 2010 Actually, yeah I realised I missed him. But I'm not sure whether getting back together is a realy really good idea ya know? As per yr previous advice, u asked me to make sure really realy want him back....and yeah m deciding that now. But if i have totally no chance, i guess there's no point in thinking that if he's completely over me.
poorguy Posted October 27, 2010 Posted October 27, 2010 I have an idea- why don't you ask him??? Do not ask him though if your undecided or on the fence about it all. It sort of sounds like you think you may want him back but your just not sure??? What you good do is ease into the conversation and see what happens
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