ConflictedGuy27 Posted October 25, 2010 Posted October 25, 2010 Moving on sucks! Was I in love? Not really... But did I really like her, definitely... 4 – 5 weeks seems to be the magic number for me. We date, we laugh and have a good time, then things fall off. Just recently she and I reached the point where we had the "what are we" relationship defining talk. I was a little surprised (and relieved) to hear her say, she’s not in the right place for a relationship (not completely over her ex – who she’s still "good friends" with). I told her I wasn’t looking for a girl friend either, necessarily, but I know we both enjoy the time we spend together. She agreed (and added she hasn’t felt this way about a guy in a long time). After we had "the talk" she definitely started to break her own rules. She was acting as though we were an item (pet names, communicating everyday, asking if I’m seeing other girls, etc.); which I liked, but her contradictions made me kind of back petal and reevaluate what I wanted. It’s funny because she said she was a heart breaker from the start. I laughed. ...How could such a sweet girl be a heart breaker? Now I see that it’s her game playing that breaks hearts, I think. So my guess is she got fed up w/ the FWB’ish, relationship limbo we were in and actually DID want to be more. Either that, or she’s rekindled things w/ her ex. Either way, she’s using no contact on me now (going into day 4). Rather passive aggressive in my opinion... I must say that being on the other side of NC really is eye opening – it effing WORKS! So there I was, "Mr. I don’t want a gf", yet the few days she turns on NC, I’m actually considering it. This relationship seems to have shifted into some lame power struggle; almost like a kid holding their breath in protest... Again, I’m just guessing what’s got her all fussy, but now I’m like, "fine, if you want to go NC on me, then screw you..." Seems all so childish. I called her (didn’t leave a voice msg) and sent a text to find out WTF was up w/ her going all Houdini on me, but got no answer. My head says ‘launch her’ and move on, due to what appears to be game playing. I can’t help but miss her though... I should just suck it up and move on, huh?
daphne Posted October 25, 2010 Posted October 25, 2010 It depends on what you said when you texted/ called last. I think if you really wanted to know where she's at, you may have to come right out and ask her. It'll put an end to the confusion. If you still hear silence, that means something. It puts the ball squarely in her court. And you'll know that you've done everything you could. Then when she doesn't hear from you, she'll wonder why you stopped trying.
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