iluvmua Posted October 25, 2010 Posted October 25, 2010 Hi, I just turned 26 and about a month my very first relationship ended. The reason was because I found out he was cheating on me. (we were together for almost a month). A friend of mine set us up; told me he is a really good guy and that he's very nice etc. first couple of weeks were great; he would call me everyday and we would go do stuff together. He even was my first kiss ever. We would only see each other once a week because of our work schedules. since he did not have a computer and I don't get texting, talking on the phone was our one form of communication (besides seeing each other). anyways, he told me that when my birthday came around (3rd week in September) he would take me to a movie and we would go out to eat. (we started dating on August 25), he told me that he was tired of looking, told my friend that i'm perfect for him, told me I was really beautiful etc. at the beginning of September his calls became more distant and he told me one time that he did not want me to call him when he was with his friends or his family. (he would spend a lot of time with his friends, he would go see movies with them.) I though that a guy would want to hear from his girlfriend everyday but I guess not. Is that normal? anyways, he also told me that we need to quit eating out at restaurants and start eating at gas stations, The last time I saw him was on September 10th (5 days before my B-day). I though that we would be able to spend the whole day together but he told me that he had something going on with his sister and he said " We already spent 4 hours together". (he also said the reason why he could not call me the night before was because he left his phone at his sister's house). he also made up some excuse as to why he could not call me a couple of days later because he was spending the night at a friend's house. he didn't call me for 2 days (one being on my birthday). No card, No call, No letter, flower etc. Nothing. His excuse this time was he was at Bible Study and he went to spend the night at his friends house so that was the reason why he could not call on my birthday. He got off at 6:30 and why he didn't invite me to this even though I was still his girlfriend. anyways we broke up two days later; he told me that Cheating would be a deal breaker for him and that is the only reason why he would break up with someone. He told me over the phone that he felt like he was not ready for a relationship like he previously thought. So that was his reason for ending things. he even defriended me on Facebook (That's how I found out he was cheating on me). I was Totally clueless. He had been seeing some other girl who is now his girlfriend for some time when he was still with me. he even put on his Facebook "In a relationship with so & so". He never did that to me. I'm afraid that my next boyfriend will end up cheating on me as well. He also told me that we were exclusive and that he would date me as long as I would let him.
Leandro Posted October 25, 2010 Posted October 25, 2010 I'm sorry to hear that, but at least it happen now and not a few years down the line or even after marriage. I would think that a guy would like to hear his girlfriends voice everyday, I would. No not all guys cheat. Don't worry about him or the whole facebook thing, you will find someone better and who will treat you right.
broken-and-lost Posted October 25, 2010 Posted October 25, 2010 i didn't cheat on my ex girlfriend so no we do not all cheat and most boys would love to here from they girlfriends daily
cmichael16 Posted October 25, 2010 Posted October 25, 2010 Short answer, No, not all guys cheat. I am 28, have been in 3 serious relationships, including a marriage, and, no I have not ever cheated.
Capthxc Posted October 25, 2010 Posted October 25, 2010 I could say the same thing about women. I've never lied or cheated on anyone that ive been with. I'm 26 and ive been in 2 long term relationships and countless flings that lasted a few months. However, i've been cheated on by almost every single woman i've ever been with except the most recent ex. So its a double edged sword here.
Green Posted October 25, 2010 Posted October 25, 2010 No not all guys cheat. All women on the other hand given the oportunity will.... Ok so really you couldn't have seen the cheating coming but it was obviouse this guy wasn't treating you right and you should have dumped him. If you let guys keep dating you after acting this way especialy so early in the relationship you are only setting yourself up for drama.
thatsonlyme Posted October 25, 2010 Posted October 25, 2010 I cheated on girls I didn't care about. Never cheated on my current ex because she was so special to me. The only thing I still believe her is that she never cheated on me either. She left me instead.
YellowShark Posted October 25, 2010 Posted October 25, 2010 Of course not all guys cheat. That's silly! A self-confident, healthy, honest person would not cheat on their partner. They would go out of their way not to betray and hurt their partner. Some cheaters do it for love, some cheaters do it for sex, some cheaters endlessly need a self-esteem boost, and some cheaters are simply wired-from-childhood to be unfaithful - (serial cheaters.) The trick is to spot "the cheater" before they burn you. The way to spot them is to inform yourself why people cheat. My EX was a cheater, and she fooled me because I was uninformed. Now that I am a victim of a cheater I know the signs, and shall do my best not to let it happen to me again!
Arabella Posted October 25, 2010 Posted October 25, 2010 No not all guys cheat. All women on the other hand given the oportunity will.... Huh? So not all guys are cheaters, but all women are? Just exactly what makes you to say that? No offense, but some of us actually have morals. I'd just as soon cut my right hand off than cheat or intentionally do anything to hurt someone I care (or have cared) about. Arabella
Woggle Posted October 25, 2010 Posted October 25, 2010 Huh? So not all guys are cheaters, but all women are? Just exactly what makes you to say that? No offense, but some of us actually have morals. I'd just as soon cut my right hand off than cheat or intentionally do anything to hurt someone I care (or have cared) about. Arabella I think that all is a bit extreme but there days when I think most women would not hesitate to betray their man if they could.
dreamingoftigers Posted October 25, 2010 Posted October 25, 2010 No not all guys cheat. All women on the other hand given the oportunity will.... Ok so really you couldn't have seen the cheating coming but it was obviouse this guy wasn't treating you right and you should have dumped him. If you let guys keep dating you after acting this way especialy so early in the relationship you are only setting yourself up for drama. Nope, never. One of the things I am most proud of about myself. So I guess this makes me the only woman you have had any contact with that won't cheat. Kind of an interesting title. Cheating is vile, I refuse to endanger my long-term interest in my own self-respect by engaging in that behaviour. I will also never help anyone to cheat or get involved with anyone in a relationship. I will also never cover for anyone's cheating.
dreamingoftigers Posted October 25, 2010 Posted October 25, 2010 Hi, I just turned 26 and about a month my very first relationship ended. The reason was because I found out he was cheating on me. (we were together for almost a month). A friend of mine set us up; told me he is a really good guy and that he's very nice etc. first couple of weeks were great; he would call me everyday and we would go do stuff together. He even was my first kiss ever. We would only see each other once a week because of our work schedules. since he did not have a computer and I don't get texting, talking on the phone was our one form of communication (besides seeing each other). anyways, he told me that when my birthday came around (3rd week in September) he would take me to a movie and we would go out to eat. (we started dating on August 25), he told me that he was tired of looking, told my friend that i'm perfect for him, told me I was really beautiful etc. at the beginning of September his calls became more distant and he told me one time that he did not want me to call him when he was with his friends or his family. (he would spend a lot of time with his friends, he would go see movies with them.) I though that a guy would want to hear from his girlfriend everyday but I guess not. Is that normal? anyways, he also told me that we need to quit eating out at restaurants and start eating at gas stations, The last time I saw him was on September 10th (5 days before my B-day). I though that we would be able to spend the whole day together but he told me that he had something going on with his sister and he said " We already spent 4 hours together". (he also said the reason why he could not call me the night before was because he left his phone at his sister's house). he also made up some excuse as to why he could not call me a couple of days later because he was spending the night at a friend's house. he didn't call me for 2 days (one being on my birthday). No card, No call, No letter, flower etc. Nothing. His excuse this time was he was at Bible Study and he went to spend the night at his friends house so that was the reason why he could not call on my birthday. He got off at 6:30 and why he didn't invite me to this even though I was still his girlfriend. anyways we broke up two days later; he told me that Cheating would be a deal breaker for him and that is the only reason why he would break up with someone. He told me over the phone that he felt like he was not ready for a relationship like he previously thought. So that was his reason for ending things. he even defriended me on Facebook (That's how I found out he was cheating on me). I was Totally clueless. He had been seeing some other girl who is now his girlfriend for some time when he was still with me. he even put on his Facebook "In a relationship with so & so". He never did that to me. I'm afraid that my next boyfriend will end up cheating on me as well. He also told me that we were exclusive and that he would date me as long as I would let him. Not all guys cheat and it does sound like this one wasn't really stable to begin with, or very pursuant.
yoga18 Posted October 25, 2010 Posted October 25, 2010 No not all guys cheat. All women on the other hand given the oportunity will.... Ok so really you couldn't have seen the cheating coming but it was obviouse this guy wasn't treating you right and you should have dumped him. If you let guys keep dating you after acting this way especialy so early in the relationship you are only setting yourself up for drama. If given the opportunity???? Ok I've been given that so called opportunity and well I guess I'm just a freak of nature but I have no desire to cheat on my guy....added to that I have dealt with my share of the "other woman" when I was married!!! That pain was enough to last a lifetime. I honestly do not think I would wish that on my worst enemy! So your statement well its simply bullsh*t!
shayan Posted October 26, 2010 Posted October 26, 2010 never cheated, never been cheated on, all my relationships ended honestly. Yes there are both honest men and women in this world.
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