USMCHokie Posted October 26, 2010 Posted October 26, 2010 Agreed. I don't know, maybe because I'm a guy but to me a teddy bear-ish sweet and nice guy is the worst kind of a guy... Well, he's easier for a girl to be hotter than.
AD1980 Posted October 26, 2010 Posted October 26, 2010 Well, he's easier for a girl to be hotter than. Bingo its about womens insecurites and looking better in contast Unfotunately allot of what women like in Males stems from their own insecurities
Star Gazer Posted October 27, 2010 Posted October 27, 2010 Well, he's easier for a girl to be hotter than. It's sad to me that some guys think that's why some women find teddy bears attractive compared to their shorter/fitter counterparts. It's like me saying you're okay dating an average looking woman only because it makes you feel less inadequate about your own appearance. It's mean spirited and not accurate at all. I also don't think it's fair to use the word "snob", as used by another poster, to describe one's preference in terms of attraction.
tigressA Posted October 27, 2010 Posted October 27, 2010 It's sad to me that some guys think that's why some women find teddy bears attractive compared to their shorter/fitter counterparts. It's like me saying you're okay dating an average looking woman only because it makes you feel less inadequate about your own appearance. It's mean spirited and not accurate at all. I also don't think it's fair to use the word "snob", as used by another poster, to describe one's preference in terms of attraction. I agree, SG. That is rather offensive. I have a guy friend (well, more like ex-friend) who admitted to me he "dates down" to feel better about himself. He was acknowledging he honestly thought these women were less than him. It makes me think of that movie "She's Out of My League"--this really awkward guy starts dating a "10" and there's a scene where she breaks things off right before they were about to have sex because she found out he thought there was something "wrong" with her to want to date him.
Star Gazer Posted October 27, 2010 Posted October 27, 2010 It makes me think of that movie "She's Out of My League"--this really awkward guy starts dating a "10" and there's a scene where she breaks things off right before they were about to have sex because she found out he thought there was something "wrong" with her to want to date him. I have a feeling I know a lot of guys like that.
Star Gazer Posted October 27, 2010 Posted October 27, 2010 Agreed. I don't know, maybe because I'm a guy but to me a teddy bear-ish sweet and nice guy is the worst kind of a guy... Teddy bearish speaks only to appearance, just as shorter and fit speaks only to appearance. Otherwise, the opposite of a teddy bear would be a short, fit arsehole... Right?
tigressA Posted October 27, 2010 Posted October 27, 2010 I have a feeling I know a lot of guys like that. My ex was like that...one reason why he's my ex. I guess you and I have to stick to the hotties in our league so we're never seen as insecure, SG!
Green Posted October 27, 2010 Posted October 27, 2010 I agree, SG. That is rather offensive. I have a guy friend (well, more like ex-friend) who admitted to me he "dates down" to feel better about himself. He was acknowledging he honestly thought these women were less than him. It makes me think of that movie "She's Out of My League"--this really awkward guy starts dating a "10" and there's a scene where she breaks things off right before they were about to have sex because she found out he thought there was something "wrong" with her to want to date him. I have a feeling I know a lot of guys like that. Most of the guys posting on this site are like this. They date women they think of as gettable instead of dating women they actualy have the hots for.
how2forgive&2forget Posted October 27, 2010 Posted October 27, 2010 Agreed. I don't know, maybe because I'm a guy but to me a teddy bear-ish sweet and nice guy is the worst kind of a guy... No way lol! Tbh I dated all kinds of body types, the worst one was the superfit 5'10" soccer player who was pure muscle. He was critical of my weight and I'm 5'3" 115-120 lbs with a J.Lo behind. I don't know why I gave him my virginity *smh* Most muscled guys I know have this "showy" attitude towards their bodies..i find that tacky, screams attention-w-ore. Acts like "the situation" thinking they are attractive but ugh. Their female equivalent are those girls who post pics of their cleavage online. I just find that attitude tacky. Btw this applies to some not all lol. I'm sure there are chubby a**holes too. My chubby guys carry their weight well(6'3" - 6'5"), look amazing in a suit, and my gosh so yummy and cuddly in bed. Adorable!
USMCHokie Posted October 27, 2010 Posted October 27, 2010 Otherwise, the opposite of a teddy bear would be a short, fit arsehole... Right? Yep. I guess it is what it is.
Author Lakeside_runner Posted October 27, 2010 Author Posted October 27, 2010 OK. One thing has to stop now. Personality and physical appearance have some correlation but there are also exceptions, right? Yes, there is a big chance that a fit guy is going to be a player, and ********* etc. just because he has narcissistic tendencies and knows how to play his look-cards the right way. Yes, there is a big chance that a teddy bear is not going to be more than just a teddy bear and when it will come to changing a tire or take charge in a situation he will end up running around like a head-less chicken. But there is also a lot of fit guys who have a totally different approach to life than the players do and vice-versa. I think that I am fit. I definitely am not a player. I don't have a showy attitude to my body, I don't run around shirtless flexing my muscles. This generalization has to stop. I used to think along these lines...when I was 12... After reading all responses I seriously started envy one type of guys: THE CHUBBY PLAYER!
USMCHokie Posted October 27, 2010 Posted October 27, 2010 I think that I am fit. I definitely am not a player. I don't have a showy attitude to my body, I don't run around shirtless flexing my muscles. This generalization has to stop. I fit the stereotype to a T. But it does nothing to make me a "player." I just run around shirtless.
Jannah Posted October 27, 2010 Posted October 27, 2010 Tall and Chubby don't play they just crush a lot.
Star Gazer Posted October 27, 2010 Posted October 27, 2010 OK. One thing has to stop now. Personality and physical appearance have some correlation but there are also exceptions, right? Yes, there is a big chance that a fit guy is going to be a player, and ********* etc. just because he has narcissistic tendencies and knows how to play his look-cards the right way. Yes, there is a big chance that a teddy bear is not going to be more than just a teddy bear and when it will come to changing a tire or take charge in a situation he will end up running around like a head-less chicken. But there is also a lot of fit guys who have a totally different approach to life than the players do and vice-versa. I think that I am fit. I definitely am not a player. I don't have a showy attitude to my body, I don't run around shirtless flexing my muscles. This generalization has to stop. I used to think along these lines...when I was 12... After reading all responses I seriously started envy one type of guys: THE CHUBBY PLAYER! LR, there are two types of fit guys: (1) those who work out in order to look like an Adonis, and run around shirtless and flexing to get women's attention, and (2) and those who workout to...well...be fit. You're not the former, and I think most women know there is a DISTINCT, obvious difference between the two.
Star Gazer Posted October 27, 2010 Posted October 27, 2010 Yep. I guess it is what it is. You know that I was referring to the over-generalization.
Girlygirl1977 Posted October 27, 2010 Posted October 27, 2010 I may be speaking out of order here but I don't post too much. It seems that SG and LR are both triathletes and in the LA area. . ..just sayin'
Star Gazer Posted October 27, 2010 Posted October 27, 2010 I may be speaking out of order here but I don't post too much. It seems that SG and LR are both triathletes and in the LA area. . ..just sayin' Ha. Nope, I'm not in LA anymore.
Girlygirl1977 Posted October 27, 2010 Posted October 27, 2010 Ha. Nope, I'm not in LA anymore. ok my bad:eek: same state?
Green Posted October 27, 2010 Posted October 27, 2010 OK. One thing has to stop now. Personality and physical appearance have some correlation but there are also exceptions, right? Yes, there is a big chance that a fit guy is going to be a player, and ********* etc. just because he has narcissistic tendencies and knows how to play his look-cards the right way. Yes, there is a big chance that a teddy bear is not going to be more than just a teddy bear and when it will come to changing a tire or take charge in a situation he will end up running around like a head-less chicken. But there is also a lot of fit guys who have a totally different approach to life than the players do and vice-versa. I think that I am fit. I definitely am not a player. I don't have a showy attitude to my body, I don't run around shirtless flexing my muscles. This generalization has to stop. I used to think along these lines...when I was 12... After reading all responses I seriously started envy one type of guys: THE CHUBBY PLAYER! Your mind is weak if you let what women say effect anything you do in your life. First off the exact kind of guy women complain about actualy have a great advantage over all others. Bottom line if women think you are some kind of player it is actualy a good thing and it will actualy really be romantic for them to find out you are not a player... and if you are a player well you'll still get lots of women so... Finaly I'm not ripped but I do look in shape and I'm tall and basicly its great. The greatest thing about being tall is staring down upon other men haha. Any ways stop worying about what women think. I realize you are just doing this for entertainment but really I think it would be more entertaining to start a thread about women who enjoy sucking on balls. Also the reason this thread is entertaining to me is you! I fit the stereotype to a T. But it does nothing to make me a "player." I just run around shirtless. I run around shirtless too, some time pantless also
quankanne Posted October 27, 2010 Posted October 27, 2010 Teddy bearish speaks only to appearance, just as shorter and fit speaks only to appearance. Otherwise, the opposite of a teddy bear would be a short, fit arsehole... Right? :laugh::laugh: good one, SG LR, there are two types of fit guys: (1) those who work out in order to look like an Adonis, and run around shirtless and flexing to get women's attention, and (2) and those who workout to...well...be fit. again, right on the money. It's the former who tend to make the average woman consider the teddy bear type, because TB isn't as self-absorbed ... it's rather boring to hear someone bleat on about what they do to look so damn good, you know? Where as the latter type of guy ... seems to be more able to be "in the now" and can roll with the situation as it goes. He's also the kind of guy who, if you ask, is genuinely happy to share tips on a healthier lifestyle, but doesn't foist his knowledge on you. Teddy bears, on the other hand, seem genuinely happy in just being. They don't have to do point out what they do to make themselves look more appealing to the opposite sex, but simply are present, and sharing gift of self. so ultimately, it always comes down to personality over looks.
SteveC80 Posted October 27, 2010 Posted October 27, 2010 Ignore the womenspeak its all about womens insecurity The "teddy bear" has much less chance in the womens mind to be chased by females and think about wandering off the adonis the women will wory about cheating 24 hours a day
quankanne Posted October 27, 2010 Posted October 27, 2010 hey man, even Elvis wanted to be someone's teddy bear ... so *something's* obviously up with that ...
Mutant Debutante Posted October 27, 2010 Posted October 27, 2010 Idk, I mean you can say everything else is equal, but I can't conceptualize a guy just as a hunk of meat like that. Shortish and cut is good, taller and teddy bearish can be super cute too. It's not enough info to just choose between the two. If they're really both totally awesome personality-wise, like both smart and funny and honest and both get my sense of humor and have creative passions, well...I might have to end up asking them both to be my male harem .
Stung Posted October 27, 2010 Posted October 27, 2010 hey man, even Elvis wanted to be someone's teddy bear ... so *something's* obviously up with that ... Ha ha. My son loves this song. I guess my husband is kind of a tall teddy bear type by this thread's definition: 6'2", broad shouldered, bit of a belly, lumbering gait, doesn't go to the gym--but just because we're not a gym-going couple doesn't mean we are couch potatoes. We hike, we swim, we dance, we spend a lot of time chasing kids around grassy fields and playgrounds and beaches, we have a weight set at home. We do enjoy rich food and wine, and would rather spend time with our kids and each other than at a gym. I have had shorter boyfriends before and some of them were very lean, muscular and well-defined. As long as they weren't obsessed with their fitness regimens and appearance, it was nice, they of course had enjoyable bodies. If I were single and choosing between the two phenotypes--since you said I should assume both had personalities I would find desirable, and I presume this to include intelligence and personal charisma--I think the real defining factors would be the face, the voice, and the indefinable something of chemistry.
quankanne Posted October 27, 2010 Posted October 27, 2010 I believe this survey is based solely on looks, from the way the original poster states the question. Personality not a factor, character not a factor ... or if they are, the men are equal in those regards.
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