etaoinshrdlu Posted October 25, 2010 Posted October 25, 2010 (edited) I'm not really emotionally available anymore. Is it a horrible idea to still go through with the meeting-up? Edited October 25, 2010 by etaoinshrdlu
EasyHeart Posted October 25, 2010 Posted October 25, 2010 It's not a good idea. Put yourself in the other person's shoes: Would you want to meet up with someone who isn't emotionally available? No way! Dates should be fun, not obligations.
Author etaoinshrdlu Posted October 25, 2010 Author Posted October 25, 2010 The thing is, I think I could be friends with this girl. And I might be emotionally available later. I'm just going through stuff right now (and have been postponing the meeting).
EasyHeart Posted October 25, 2010 Posted October 25, 2010 Then tell her exactly that: "I'm very interested in you, but I'm dealing with some personal issues right now and I don't think I should be dating anyone. But I'd like to call you again in a few months, and if you're not seeing anyone maybe we can get together then." Don't ever be 'friends' with a woman in hopes that it will turn into a relationship some day. It won't -- there are dozens of threads on that topic! Besides, if you're dealing with stuff right now, you won't be much fun as a 'friend' or a boyfriend. Take your time and deal with your problems, THEN think about getting a girlfriend.
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