andrew-bkk Posted October 25, 2010 Posted October 25, 2010 First and foremost, this may be the wrong place to post this thread. If it is, apologies. But this is the only part of this forum that I read. I am 46; my ex is 36; our son is 6; the man with whom my ex cheated is 63. 1. When I first discovered my ex's cheating, she had this crazy idea that she would continue to live in this house and we would be "best friends". 2. When I asked her to move out, she said she was still in love with me and that we would get back together and form the "perfect family". 3. When I was rude to her, she was very upset. 4. When I stopped phoning her or going to see her at her house, she counted the days that I didn't contact her and then claimed that I had "abandoned" her. 5. But when I mentioned that I have brought someone else back to this house, she went cold and has completely ignored me ever since. 6. I've been to her house twice over the last two weeks to see my son, and she acts like I don't exist. Why is this? It seems a bit childish. I've read that ex-girlfriends like to exert control over their previous boyfriends and resent the idea of them moving on with someone else. Is this my ex's problem? Or is she hurt because she now realises that everything is finally finished? Or is it a combination of things? I need to resolve this issue since my ex and I are parents. We need to retain some sort of communication. Any feedback or comments or suggestions appreciated.
Don Ho Posted October 25, 2010 Posted October 25, 2010 She's controlling and wants her cake too. I wouldn't bow down to her. I think the cold shoulder is preferable to dealing with a raving biatch. I think the best you can do is explain that you need to at least be civil and cordial with each other because that's in the best interest of your kid and that he will pick up on if you guys do otherwise and it will only hurt him.
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