louisemc Posted March 3, 2004 Posted March 3, 2004 I dated this guy for a while and now he wants to come back into my life. He used to show up late for dates all the time and when I got angry he told me to shut up as there were lots of other women he could date. Also he was mean with money and hardly ever bought himself new clothes (he always wore old clothes sometimes even with holes in them) and never bought me presents even though I bought him lots of things. He was really intolerant and used to complain all the time about stupid things. His brother was a drug addict and used to say perverted things to me sometimes and he would never stand up for me. We booked a holiday and at the last minute he cancelled. I was so disappointed! Afterwards I went on a holiday myself and when I came back he told me that he missed me, we then went to a restaurant and afterwards back to my apartment where we slept together. Afterwards he said that it was that (sex) that he missed. I was really hurt! Also he kept telling me that I was lucky to have him and that I couldn't find better than him. Do you think I can probably do better? I am quite pretty and have a good job and lots of friends. He dropped out of school at 14 and comes from the wrong side of town. His family are not very honest. They bought claim invalid benefit even though there is nothing wrong with them and they work on the side. Also the reason he gave for leaving me were pathetic. He said that I was annoying him because I talked too loudly and criticized his driving and worried too much about stupid things. He has also left other girlfriend in the past for ridiculous reasons (one girlfriend who crashed her car and asked him to fix it and another girlfriend who forgot to bring her jacket with her on a night out and complained about the cold). He smokes canabis. Do you think that smoking canabis would make him nasty/intolerant? Or do you think he has psychological problems? Do you think that I would be very foolish to give him a second chance? Do you think the reasons he gave for leaving me were good reasons? Please reply! Thank you.
dyermaker Posted March 3, 2004 Posted March 3, 2004 Were our last answers lame? http://www.loveshack.org/forums/showthread.php?threadid=33699
DerangedAngel Posted March 3, 2004 Posted March 3, 2004 Really, honey, did you even read the replies in the last thread? I don't think anyone on this forum would tell you that you needed to stay with this guy. Do you think that at 30 I am running out of time to find Mr. Right? Do you think that perhaps I might never meet anyone else? Being afraid of never meeting someone else is not a very good reason to stay in an abusive relationship. He should not treat you with such a lack of respect, you have to know that. I hope you find the "Mr. Right" you must so desperately seek. But the guy you're describing now, is NOT him. -Deranged
curiousgeorge Posted March 3, 2004 Posted March 3, 2004 The answers were not lame. Its just that she desperately wants someone to validate her and say "yeah go back" because its obvious from her letter that this is what she is going to do. Too bad for her of course because she doesn't think she is anything but a doormat.
purpleknif67 Posted March 3, 2004 Posted March 3, 2004 This is like deja-vu Love Shack ...why is this peson asking the same question here--something is fishy here.....
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