Confusedalways Posted October 24, 2010 Posted October 24, 2010 I recently met this guy... I've had to do almost all the work in regards to us so far- including pursuing him, getting his number, texting him first, calling him first, and then I refused to ask him out on the first date because I didn't want to have to do everything. He finally asked me out-- in a group situation-- with his friends. It sounded like he and his friends were going out and I would be the tag along, but upon further inspection it was me the plans were reliant on (couldn't go- had to work). We rescheduled for wednesday- but didn't really go into depth about what we're doing. I was looking forward to spending time with him alone (we have only ever interacted in person at a mutual friends house on several occasions), and I know that he is using his friends essentially as a security blanket. I would not know these friends that he chose to bring along. Though I'm not shy individual, a 3 vs 1 or 5 vs 1 scenario does intimidate me. On the other hand, if this is how he's comfortable should I just let it unfold as it may? I understand from reading threads that group dates are a terrible idea, but now that I'm in the situation myself I can't help but want to throw the guy a bone. He has admitted to me how much he wanted to persue me for a long time, but paniced everytime I simply made small talk. I know he's interested in me, so what gives? What do I say? What do I do? I like this guy and don't want to completely blow it. BTW he's 24, I am 22.
TouchedByViolet Posted October 25, 2010 Posted October 25, 2010 I understand the struggle many shy, and introverted guys face when it comes to dating but this guy who you are interested in sounds like a coward... What do you like about him? You are practically putting yourself out their in a silver platter for him to take and yet he doesn't have the maturity and guts to simply ask you out... This guy sounds like poor dating material especially for being 24. Terrible prospect
sagetalk Posted October 25, 2010 Posted October 25, 2010 I understand the struggle many shy, and introverted guys face when it comes to dating but this guy who you are interested in sounds like a coward... What do you like about him? You are practically putting yourself out their in a silver platter for him to take and yet he doesn't have the maturity and guts to simply ask you out... This guy sounds like poor dating material especially for being 24. Terrible prospect Agreed, I'm an introverted guy as well, but not asking for a girls number is pretty lame. Making her do most of the work is even lamer, especially if she lives near him. Why would any guy want to take a girl he just started dating on a group date? How can you talk to her with so many people? That just seems strange to me.
tigressA Posted October 25, 2010 Posted October 25, 2010 LAUNCH. The first two posts illustrated my own opinion on this beautifully.
Author Confusedalways Posted October 25, 2010 Author Posted October 25, 2010 I will definitely NOT be LAUNCHing this guy, sorry. Not even close. But... anyway we're going out- alone! So I guess entire post is useless.
somedude81 Posted October 25, 2010 Posted October 25, 2010 I'm guessing he is super good looking? I can't imagine anybody going though that must trouble over a guy who wasn't.
tigressA Posted October 25, 2010 Posted October 25, 2010 I will definitely NOT be LAUNCHing this guy, sorry. Not even close. But... anyway we're going out- alone! So I guess entire post is useless. Well, have a good time!
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