daphne Posted October 24, 2010 Posted October 24, 2010 Gotta love a guy who thinks too highly off himself. This was an OLD btw. 1- Wore an Ed Hardy tee shirt and jeans. He's 41. 2- Told me he almost left because he thought the fat woman ahead of me was me. 3- Told me he once told a woman he met online that she was hideous because he met her and she had 3 chins (I wanted to leave at this point.) 4- Bragged that the fat women knew they were out of league but would take what they could get if they could get lucky with him. 5- Wouldn't look at me while talking. 6- Told me he had married women hit on him all of the time. 7- Told me a stripper where he worked told him to come on over to where she worked. Had he not been in a relationship, he found her body perfect and would have definitely tagged it. (again, trying to figure out why I was still there.) 8- Told me "the gays love me." Who says "the gays?" 9- Actually acted like perhaps I was out of my league with him. lol. If you saw the two of us, I'm pretty sure you would laugh hysterically. 10- Told me he had wanted to work out before he met me so he could provide a "gun show." So many little gems, I wish I had recorded it. It was hysterical. It was a redneck treat. I asked if we could split the bill and pulled out my credit card. That's how much I wanted to not be beholden to this guy.
jerbear Posted October 24, 2010 Posted October 24, 2010 11. Take his willy out to show you why his loaded gun will protect you. Apparently how did you get to that stage is quite interesting. Most profiles will display some of that personality. I think it is interesting and would have been nice to hear the first date interview.
Author daphne Posted October 24, 2010 Author Posted October 24, 2010 11. Take his willy out to show you why his loaded gun will protect you. Apparently how did you get to that stage is quite interesting. Most profiles will display some of that personality. I think it is interesting and would have been nice to hear the first date interview. Good question. He hid a good bit of his personality and his profile must have been written by someone else. There were 2 little red flags from emails though that I should have heeded. Lesson learned. I seriously wondered if I was on camera at one point, he was so over the top obnoxious and deluded. It felt completely staged. I just smiled benignly and thanked God I was raised better so I don't look like an ass clown without knowing it.
colliejoanie Posted October 24, 2010 Posted October 24, 2010 Hey! I think we've dated the same guy!!!! Only when WE went out he was hammered when I got to the restaurant, and his credit card was declined when it was time to go......after I had one drink. LOVE online dating! HAHA!!!!
Author daphne Posted October 24, 2010 Author Posted October 24, 2010 So I guess I got the better bargain since I didn't have to pay for both of us. Seriously, next time I will probably grow a pair and just excuse myself and tell him I don't think it's going to work. I just didn't expect him to be such a douchebag and I was taken aback. I hate offending people though.
jerbear Posted October 24, 2010 Posted October 24, 2010 So I guess I got the better bargain since I didn't have to pay for both of us. Seriously, next time I will probably grow a pair and just excuse myself and tell him I don't think it's going to work. I just didn't expect him to be such a douchebag and I was taken aback. I hate offending people though. I don't think you should grow a pair. Just makes the logistics hard when it comes to fooling around. :lmao: Honestly I had a date get up and walk once; we're just not on the same wavelength. So yes, it is ok to excuse yourself and just end it early. Don't worry about offending them. Just makes it easier to move on. Not everyone is compatible.
Author daphne Posted October 24, 2010 Author Posted October 24, 2010 Lol. Yeah I guess it could be really confusing if I did since I'm pretty girlie. How to handle the situation where you haven't yet ordered and already know that you would rather have a root canal than spend a short dinner with this person? Can I still get up and leave? In 10 minutes I knew I was not going to like this guy.
jerbear Posted October 24, 2010 Posted October 24, 2010 If you haven't ordered then excuse yourself and said this will not work. Put some money down for tip or whatever and just vacate the premises. If you have ordered, then pay for the meal + tip; excuse yourself, vacate, skip eating and just continue on. Go NC on the guy because some guys will call, email, bad mouth, and blah blah blah.
Author daphne Posted October 24, 2010 Author Posted October 24, 2010 Good advice. I will know better next time. I've met a handful of guys, and they were all actually really nice even though there wasn't a spark with most of them. So it was actually fun to talk to them. We're in NC. I wouldn't go near him as I was getting in my car and somehow, I don't think he was interested either. Which is a huge relief.
D-Lish Posted October 24, 2010 Posted October 24, 2010 Daphne, sounds like this guy resorts to bashing and bragging because he is as insecure as they come. Secure and confident people don't resort to bragging because they simply don't think that way. Please tell me he DIDN'T have a couple of profile pics with other females strategically placed with their arms around him, the caption above reading "don't worry ladies, just one of my close friends"...
Star Gazer Posted October 24, 2010 Posted October 24, 2010 Gotta love a guy who thinks too highly off himself. This was an OLD btw. 1- Wore an Ed Hardy tee shirt and jeans. He's 41. 2- Told me he almost left because he thought the fat woman ahead of me was me. 3- Told me he once told a woman he met online that she was hideous because he met her and she had 3 chins (I wanted to leave at this point.) 4- Bragged that the fat women knew they were out of league but would take what they could get if they could get lucky with him. 5- Wouldn't look at me while talking. 6- Told me he had married women hit on him all of the time. 7- Told me a stripper where he worked told him to come on over to where she worked. Had he not been in a relationship, he found her body perfect and would have definitely tagged it. (again, trying to figure out why I was still there.) 8- Told me "the gays love me." Who says "the gays?" 9- Actually acted like perhaps I was out of my league with him. lol. If you saw the two of us, I'm pretty sure you would laugh hysterically. 10- Told me he had wanted to work out before he met me so he could provide a "gun show." So many little gems, I wish I had recorded it. It was hysterical. It was a redneck treat. I asked if we could split the bill and pulled out my credit card. That's how much I wanted to not be beholden to this guy. That was all in ONE date?!
Surrealist Posted October 24, 2010 Posted October 24, 2010 Maybe he wasn't interested and thought to himself 'I will sabotage this date with my outrageous BS!". Might of been his way of ensuring NC and to scare you off foreva! However if he was genuinely attempting to impress then I think he may need professional help.
Author daphne Posted October 25, 2010 Author Posted October 25, 2010 Daphne, sounds like this guy resorts to bashing and bragging because he is as insecure as they come. Secure and confident people don't resort to bragging because they simply don't think that way. Please tell me he DIDN'T have a couple of profile pics with other females strategically placed with their arms around him, the caption above reading "don't worry ladies, just one of my close friends"... Yes, he did have a photo with him and a girl. She looked a little like me, funny enough. And yes, he was very, very insecure. I have learned to read the signs and heed them.
Author daphne Posted October 25, 2010 Author Posted October 25, 2010 That was all in ONE date?! Yes, and more! I just can't remember every gem. I was laughing in my head during the episode.
Author daphne Posted October 25, 2010 Author Posted October 25, 2010 Maybe he wasn't interested and thought to himself 'I will sabotage this date with my outrageous BS!". Might of been his way of ensuring NC and to scare you off foreva! However if he was genuinely attempting to impress then I think he may need professional help. That thought has crossed my mind more than once. And I'm really, really ok with it. Happy even!
abouttoloseit Posted October 25, 2010 Posted October 25, 2010 10- Told me he had wanted to work out before he met me so he could provide a "gun show." OMG THAT WAS YOU!!??? :laugh:
D-Lish Posted October 25, 2010 Posted October 25, 2010 Yes, he did have a photo with him and a girl. She looked a little like me, funny enough. And yes, he was very, very insecure. I have learned to read the signs and heed them. That's my douchebag test. Trust me, from here on out- steer clear of any guy that is inclined to put a pic in his profile of him with another chick. There is only one reason a guy would do so... Because he is so insecure that he thinks he needs to display a prop to catch a woman's attention. Any guy that does this is looking to present competition before he even meets you! When I see a profile with a guy that presents himself with pic of him with other women- he tells me everything I need to know about him....insecure douchebag. If the woman in the picture isn't his mother, he's going to be drama.
brainygirl Posted October 25, 2010 Posted October 25, 2010 Show up looking like the older, shorter, toothless brother of the guy in your online picture.
brainygirl Posted October 25, 2010 Posted October 25, 2010 That's my douchebag test. Trust me, from here on out- steer clear of any guy that is inclined to put a pic in his profile of him with another chick. There is only one reason a guy would do so... Because he is so insecure that he thinks he needs to display a prop to catch a woman's attention. Any guy that does this is looking to present competition before he even meets you! When I see a profile with a guy that presents himself with pic of him with other women- he tells me everything I need to know about him....insecure douchebag. If the woman in the picture isn't his mother, he's going to be drama. They always say "my best friend" in the caption. Yeah . . . right.
Author daphne Posted October 25, 2010 Author Posted October 25, 2010 OMG THAT WAS YOU!!??? :laugh: My guns are more like pebbles you would throw at someone if you really needed to defend yourself. Another gem: I need to get back in the gym because I'm used to my tee shirts being tighter on me.
abouttoloseit Posted October 25, 2010 Posted October 25, 2010 They always say "my best friend" in the caption. Yeah . . . right. For once....we agree.
Author daphne Posted October 25, 2010 Author Posted October 25, 2010 That's my douchebag test. Trust me, from here on out- steer clear of any guy that is inclined to put a pic in his profile of him with another chick. There is only one reason a guy would do so... Because he is so insecure that he thinks he needs to display a prop to catch a woman's attention. Any guy that does this is looking to present competition before he even meets you! When I see a profile with a guy that presents himself with pic of him with other women- he tells me everything I need to know about him....insecure douchebag. If the woman in the picture isn't his mother, he's going to be drama. Clearly, I have much to learn about dating. This is why I found myself on a date with a complete douchebag. Another gem: He told me all geminis were psychos and that he only attracted psycho women because an ex had tried to stab him. He said there was no backstory. She lost her mind. I'm thinking, he probably drove her psycho. Just sayin...
abouttoloseit Posted October 25, 2010 Posted October 25, 2010 My guns are more like pebbles you would throw at someone if you really needed to defend yourself. Another gem: I need to get back in the gym because I'm used to my tee shirts being tighter on me. He just wants to impress you with his...figure. Give the man some credit FYI, my guns (when you find them) are kinda like marshmellows. Fluffy and squeezy.
Author daphne Posted October 25, 2010 Author Posted October 25, 2010 FYI, my guns (when you find them) are kinda like marshmellows. Fluffy and squeezy. Hot
D-Lish Posted October 25, 2010 Posted October 25, 2010 Clearly, I have much to learn about dating. This is why I found myself on a date with a complete douchebag. Another gem: He told me all geminis were psychos and that he only attracted psycho women because an ex had tried to stab him. He said there was no backstory. She lost her mind. I'm thinking, he probably drove her psycho. Just sayin... Live and learn- I've learned from trial and error- so I can pass on my mistakes and possibly give a head's up to others! If a dude has pics of other woman on his profile, he doesn't think he measures up on his own... And I promise you, any guy that does that IS insecure and prone to drama.
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