RedCherries Posted October 24, 2010 Posted October 24, 2010 I met a guy tonight that I met online and when he came up to me it was a completely different man!!!! He had sent me a fake pic!! And when I called him out on it helaughed it off and said it was an honest mistake. When I tried to leave he asked me to stay and get drinks. What a jerk! I didn't know people did that! Ugh im so disgusted. Sorry.. had to vent.
Surrealist Posted October 24, 2010 Posted October 24, 2010 Been happenin' since the genesis of online dating. So was he a freak in real life? Glad you dumped his a$$.
Citizen Erased Posted October 24, 2010 Posted October 24, 2010 This is so common and I don't get the thought process. Do they think they're going to magically turn into that person?
Author RedCherries Posted October 24, 2010 Author Posted October 24, 2010 He seemed like a nice guy besides the fact that he FAKED HIS PICTURE. I was so skeeved out by that, that I couldn't bring myself to stay. He acted like I was the crazy one when I got up to leave.
Feelin Frisky Posted October 24, 2010 Posted October 24, 2010 His picture was real. He was just fake.
daphne Posted October 24, 2010 Posted October 24, 2010 That's crazy. I love it when a guy turns it around on you when they do something messed up. I will say, however, that from what I hear women are more guilty of the bait and switch photos from their younger, thinner years. Although I've had it happen to me once as well.
Idalis Posted October 24, 2010 Posted October 24, 2010 how could that be an "honest" mistake??? what a creep!
brainygirl Posted October 24, 2010 Posted October 24, 2010 I don't understand why people do this. Unless they just intend never to take the relationship off-line, which is weird too. Sorry that happened.
USMCHokie Posted October 24, 2010 Posted October 24, 2010 I don't understand why people do this. Unless they just intend never to take the relationship off-line, which is weird too. Perhaps these guys think that if they can con a girl who otherwise wouldn't be interested into talking to them, then they can woo her with their personality...they're banking on that classic "it's the personality that matters" belief...so when it's time to meet in person, the guy hopes that the girl is so enamored by his personality that she won't mind that he is not aesthetically pleasing...
brainygirl Posted October 24, 2010 Posted October 24, 2010 Perhaps these guys think that if they can con a girl who otherwise wouldn't be interested into talking to them, then they can woo her with their personality...they're banking on that classic "it's the personality that matters" belief...so when it's time to meet in person, the guy hopes that the girl is so enamored by his personality that she won't mind that he is not aesthetically pleasing... But . . . what does being lied to tell a woman about his supposed personality.
USMCHokie Posted October 24, 2010 Posted October 24, 2010 But . . . what does being lied to tell a woman about his supposed personality. Oh, of course, I completely agree with you. If that happened to me, it'd be an insta-LAUNCH...but these people seem to have the delusion that it would work...
porter218 Posted October 24, 2010 Posted October 24, 2010 Oh, of course, I completely agree with you. If that happened to me, it'd be an insta-LAUNCH...but these people seem to have the delusion that it would work... It worked for my travel agent. She was a BIG girl and posted pics on match.com from 10yrs and 100lbs ago. She met a guy across the country and had an online relationship for 6months before she moved out there to be with him(he lived where she was moving anyway). She spent that 6 months trying to get to the weight she was in those pics....didn't get there though. They got married 6 months after she moved there but they are having problems now. I can't imagine how shocked he was when he saw her in person. She really was at that point about 80lbs bigger then the pics and now she is even bigger since they've been married. I would run for the hills if someone did that to me.
Jannah Posted October 24, 2010 Posted October 24, 2010 If someone is a member of a dating website, why would they want to remain anonymous and post a fake picture of their self? If someone does not wish to include a real picture - why not leave the picture blank or put a picture up of their pet or something?
sweetjasmine Posted October 24, 2010 Posted October 24, 2010 Perhaps these guys think that if they can con a girl who otherwise wouldn't be interested into talking to them, then they can woo her with their personality...they're banking on that classic "it's the personality that matters" belief...so when it's time to meet in person, the guy hopes that the girl is so enamored by his personality that she won't mind that he is not aesthetically pleasing... Yeah, I think people assume/hope that the other person will think, "Well, I already took the effort to come out here and show up, and he/she seemed nice enough, anyway, so I guess I should give it a shot and stick around for the rest of the date." What they don't get is that the dishonesty is worse than not being as good-looking as the fake picture. I'd leave like the OP did even if the guy was still aesthetically pleasing despite not being the same person as the one in the picture.
brainygirl Posted October 24, 2010 Posted October 24, 2010 It worked for my travel agent. She was a BIG girl and posted pics on match.com from 10yrs and 100lbs ago. She met a guy across the country and had an online relationship for 6months before she moved out there to be with him(he lived where she was moving anyway). She spent that 6 months trying to get to the weight she was in those pics....didn't get there though. They got married 6 months after she moved there but they are having problems now. I can't imagine how shocked he was when he saw her in person. She really was at that point about 80lbs bigger then the pics and now she is even bigger since they've been married. I would run for the hills if someone did that to me. Not a fan of fat bashing, but what she did was just as bad as posting a fictional picture. I think he obvious tendency to idealize things would contribute to the loss of the relationship more than the weight, or at least as much as.
porter218 Posted October 24, 2010 Posted October 24, 2010 Not a fan of fat bashing, but what she did was just as bad as posting a fictional picture. I think he obvious tendency to idealize things would contribute to the loss of the relationship more than the weight, or at least as much as. yea, I wasn't fat bashing at all. I just think it was wrong to mislead him that way. She told him those were recent pics. It would have been fine if she was just honest with him...but she started this relationship based off lies. They are now having trust issues...go figure.
OceanGirl Posted October 24, 2010 Posted October 24, 2010 To be honest, when I first started OLD I had a body shot of when I was 15lbs lighter than I am now. Guys that I met in real life didn't seem to care or even notice (!) as they asked me for the second date. I did end up removing that picture though.
porter218 Posted October 24, 2010 Posted October 24, 2010 To be honest, when I first started OLD I had a body shot of when I was 15lbs lighter than I am now. Guys that I met in real life didn't seem to care or even notice (!) as they asked me for the second date. I did end up removing that picture though. I don't think 15lbs should really matter at all. What I find hurtful about what my friend did to her now H...is she posted pics at 130lbs when she was actually about 280lbs and continued an LDR with him to the point that they had agreed to marry before he saw she was lying.
painfullyobvious Posted October 24, 2010 Posted October 24, 2010 Nothing like starting off the relationship with a lie.
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