EricaH329 Posted October 24, 2010 Posted October 24, 2010 I'm not really too sure how to explain this, and i'm sure this is going to sound extremely weird to most, but i'm going to try my best. Have you ever met someone, and gotten an extremely bad vibe from them? Not because of their personality, but just like something is really 'off' with them? There is this guy that I know, and who I try to stay away from, because I get a seriously bad vibe from him. The other day he came and sat next to me, and I started to have a panic attack. I had to get up and leave. This type of bad vibe that i'm talking about, is something I would assume it'd feel like to be standing next to a rapist or murderer. It's the best way I can explain it. I don't know much about him, and he's a bit weird and annoying, but aside from that he seems like just another person. But the vibe I get from him is soooo intense that it freaks me out. Has anyone ever felt this way about someone before? I'm sure this doesn't make much sense, it doesn't make much sense to me either, but i'm hoping someone else has a story or experience to share and could help shed some light on what's going on.
Teknoe Posted October 24, 2010 Posted October 24, 2010 Sorta. Not to the degree you feel, but I have been around girls who I felt... it just wasn't healthy for me to be around. Like I'd walk in, and this one girl in particular, would just emit this totally negative vibe toward me. It's a bit weird in the sense that I'd say I'm a pretty likable fellow... anyway, yeah, best to just avoid those ppl.
Author EricaH329 Posted October 24, 2010 Author Posted October 24, 2010 Sorta. Not to the degree you feel, but I have been around girls who I felt... it just wasn't healthy for me to be around. Like I'd walk in, and this one girl in particular, would just emit this totally negative vibe toward me. It's a bit weird in the sense that I'd say I'm a pretty likable fellow... anyway, yeah, best to just avoid those ppl. Well yeah, I know the normal negative vibe type feeling. Either the person is mean, or doesn't like you (or vice versa), or just has a negative attitude in general. But this is completely different. Nothing i've ever felt before. It keeps getting worse the more I am around him. And there isn't anything in particular about him that should be giving off this type of vibe. He isn't a mean person (from what I know), he is social, etc. A little odd, but nothing out of the ordinary. I have noooo clue what's making me feel this way around him. It's nothing i've ever felt before. And in the most negative way possible.
OpenBook Posted October 24, 2010 Posted October 24, 2010 Never ignore your own instincts. This happened to me just last month. I gave money to a man who approached my car while I was sitting in line in a fast food drive-thru. Not out of the goodness of my heart, but because I got a really bad vibe from him and wanted avoid being mugged. All the lights in my brain were flashing red about this guy. 11 days later he killed a young local woman. (They broadcast his mugshot on the news. My mouth dropped when I saw it.) They caught him a couple days later, he's safely in jail now. Never ignore your instincts. They are right on the money. Unfortunately they don't tell us exactly WHAT'S wrong about the other person, but they're an accurate indicator that there IS something wrong. That's what they're there for. Part of our survival mechanism.
In The Green Posted October 24, 2010 Posted October 24, 2010 I'm going to be straight with you, even if it makes me unpopular. Scientists are only now getting a sense of it of what the old mystics knew, but every human being has an energy field and it contains information. We're transmitting to one another whether we are conscious of it or not. What everyone is saying are your instincts are part of drawing knowledge from this information. Is there any way that you can avoid this man? If not, perhaps pray or visualize him leaving your life. I've had many an undesirable escorted from my presence in many creative ways, you have protection if you call upon it. He could be an energy vampire or he could be a manipulative/controlling person who has set his sights on you and like a deer you're sensing the predator stalking you. Some people are completely ignorant of what they are putting out. I've met some people who leak their dirty energy out like someone repeatedly farting on your room without apology. Others for some reason or other have a lot of power and can hurl energy at people in anger - definitely want to avoid those. All of these people I've mentioned can put on a polite face in a social situation. However as they smile at you, you'll smell that stink and feel that razor. Being sensitive to these types of people can be a pain but it will serve you because you'll be able to shut it down quicker while other people will be dazed/confused wondering what is it about that person. You'll know to get the hell out of dodge.
freestyle Posted October 24, 2010 Posted October 24, 2010 I've had that experience myself, more than once......definitely trust your gut , like the other posters have said. Just like being around a happy, positive person can seem to lift your mood,(You know, the type of person who brightens up a room just by walking into it)............Being around an intensely negative or malicious person can either bring you down, or sometimes affect you physically (knots in your stomach, nausea, etc.) It's wise to keep a safe distance from people who affect you like that.
florence of suburbia Posted October 25, 2010 Posted October 25, 2010 Not so much with thinking someone is going to harm me, but once or twice someone has immediately put a bad taste in my mouth to the point that I instantly disliked them, and never new quite why. One was a guy I met in grad school. Also, strangely, I feel this way about Bill Mahr (!?) A friend of mine has this same reaction to Sting (!?!?!?)
SincereOnlineGuy Posted October 25, 2010 Posted October 25, 2010 I'm not really too sure how to explain this, and i'm sure this is going to sound extremely weird to most, but i'm going to try my best. Have you ever met someone, and gotten an extremely bad vibe from them? Not because of their personality, but just like something is really 'off' with them? There is this guy that I know, and who I try to stay away from, because I get a seriously bad vibe from him. The other day he came and sat next to me, and I started to have a panic attack. I had to get up and leave. This type of bad vibe that i'm talking about, is something I would assume it'd feel like to be standing next to a rapist or murderer. It's the best way I can explain it. I don't know much about him, and he's a bit weird and annoying, but aside from that he seems like just another person. But the vibe I get from him is soooo intense that it freaks me out. Has anyone ever felt this way about someone before? I'm sure this doesn't make much sense, it doesn't make much sense to me either, but i'm hoping someone else has a story or experience to share and could help shed some light on what's going on. First of all, where in the world have you been? Beyond that, and especially in your case, I would endorse following your strong instincts and not planting roots anywhere around that guy. You've proven yourself to have lots of depth and contemplative analysis so I'm sure there is something to your vibe (even IF you are 'off' on just exactly of what he is destined to be guilty).
Author EricaH329 Posted October 25, 2010 Author Posted October 25, 2010 You are all absolutely right. I need to stay away from him as often as possible (our situation makes it difficult for me to stay away from him altogether). There isn't one ounce of my being that is inclined to keep him company in any fashion. My body literally yells "RUN" every time i'm around him (hence the panic attacks). I don't know what it is, or why it's happening, but I do know that something isn't right. And I will not doubt that feeling, especially because this is the first time i've ever felt so strongly towards someone I barely know. Thank you all for your advice and stories! I seriously thought it was just me. Thank you all soo much! First of all, where in the world have you been? I've been off finding myself. Best experience i've ever had
Jannah Posted October 25, 2010 Posted October 25, 2010 You are all absolutely right. I need to stay away from him as often as possible (our situation makes it difficult for me to stay away from him altogether). There isn't one ounce of my being that is inclined to keep him company in any fashion. My body literally yells "RUN" every time i'm around him (hence the panic attacks). I don't know what it is, or why it's happening, but I do know that something isn't right. And I will not doubt that feeling, especially because this is the first time i've ever felt so strongly towards someone I barely know. Thank you all for your advice and stories! I seriously thought it was just me. Thank you all soo much! I've been off finding myself. Best experience i've ever had If you are having a reaction such as the one you described, especially if the response being generated is of the "Fight or Flight" nature. That is a warning signal that should definitely be listened too. I've had this too, so have other people, so no....you're not alone in that regard and I am glad you are being mindful of it.
Author EricaH329 Posted October 27, 2010 Author Posted October 27, 2010 Thank you Jannah for your advice I talked to someone who used to know the guy that i'm feeling really weird around. I brought up to him how uncomfortable I feel around this guy. He said that that's what every girl has told him! That the weird-vibe guy doesn't get invited to anything because none of the girls feel comfortable around him. That there is something "off" about him that the majority of girls have picked up on and decided to stay away from!! I was a little blown away that most other girls have felt the same thing i'm feeling towards this guy! I decided to talk to a girl that also has to be in close quarters with him about this, and even she said the same thing! This is just bizarre. First, I thought it was only me. Then you kind LSer's told me it's not (thank goodness!), and come to find out that every female thats been in his company feels the same way! Now, I don't know whether to be extra scared, or relieved
whichwayisup Posted October 27, 2010 Posted October 27, 2010 Listen your gut and physical reaction! It's NEVER wrong!!! I had that once, but with a woman so-called friend. I knew from day one something was "off" but chose to ignore it. I will PM you. Distance yourself from this guy and do it calmly.
Feelin Frisky Posted October 28, 2010 Posted October 28, 2010 I've seen this bad vibe thing happen more when some people drink. A few guys I've known in my time turn into someone on the verge of murder--all it takes is for the conditions to exist to make it happen. I used to work with a guy when I was in high school who was very nice and gentle. We wore uniforms and pith helmets at work so we weren't used to seeing each other in our normal attire. One time I was walking through a big park with a few of my friends and encountered him with a few of his friends. I said "hi, Dennis" to him. He looked at me with scary eyes and an evil smile like someone had flipped an evil switch in his spirit. I don't know if had been drinking or anything. He just looked cold-blooded. I had to say, "it's me, Jim, from the beach". He said "oh yeah, how you doing" but that glowering look of imminent violence never abated from his face. I'm still chilled by that look 30 years later--it was someone in his body I didn't know, malevolent.
Author EricaH329 Posted October 28, 2010 Author Posted October 28, 2010 Listen your gut and physical reaction! It's NEVER wrong!!! I had that once, but with a woman so-called friend. I knew from day one something was "off" but chose to ignore it. I will PM you. Distance yourself from this guy and do it calmly. Oh geez!! I'm a bit scared to hear that story!! all it takes is for the conditions to exist to make it happen. In the last few days alone, i've heard this phrase so many times. I've told everyone that I talked to about this, that he has asked for my phone number on multiple occasions, and before i'm even able to tell them how I handled that situation they automatically said, "NO!!!!!!!!". Every single one of them! As far as any of us know, he hasn't killed or raped anyone. He actually has two kids (which means some poor soul didn't find his presence uncomfortable). But to think that everyone has the same reaction to him, without knowing any serious harm has been done, is a bit scary!! I used to work with a guy when I was in high school who was very nice and gentle. We wore uniforms and pith helmets at work so we weren't used to seeing each other in our normal attire. One time I was walking through a big park with a few of my friends and encountered him with a few of his friends. I said "hi, Dennis" to him. He looked at me with scary eyes and an evil smile like someone had flipped an evil switch in his spirit. I don't know if had been drinking or anything. He just looked cold-blooded. I had to say, "it's me, Jim, from the beach". He said "oh yeah, how you doing" but that glowering look of imminent violence never abated from his face. I'm still chilled by that look 30 years later--it was someone in his body I didn't know, malevolent. That's scary! I'm hoping you stayed away from him after that!
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