Wow...I'm posting here again.

[Vanquish]

After 4 years in a GREAT relationship with the girl who was perfect for me in every single way, had been with me through thick and thin-death of my father, serious illness ect. I recieve this message on facebook...

 

Your girl Is a complete whore. I could have slept with her multiple times over the last three years while she cheated on you. I kissed the girl till 5 in the morning last friday night. I have txts from her the day after saying she wanted to have sex that night. Not just a peck on the cheek, all out make her moan and scream. I've got three years of memories with the girl, thousands of things I can tell you about. Witnesses to all of them. I've met her mom, I know every detail about the girl. And she did the same exact stuff with some other guy named bryan at cmu. She was just in love with that guy. She went back to his home and met his parents. They use to sleep in the same bed, he threw her down on the bed one time to make out but I'm not sure if they did. Its all her fault, she leads guys like me on and makes us fall in love with her for what reasons I don't know. There are more to I don't know the names of. She has a serious problem telling lies. Your wondering why I'm saying this now??? Because I'm done with her I'm done trying to steal her from you I don't want her anymore you can keep the liar. I tried to steal her for three years and almost got her to leave you many times but she never did all the way. Any time you two fought she was trying to get in my bed though. I can give you many many examples. Your lucky I only sleep with girls I love. If you don't belive me feel free to give me a call and we will talk for hours if you need more details and facts. I just hate that girl for lieing to me for so long, I'm ****in pissed all along she said she was gona pick me and after we kissed so long and so passionately she still didn't leave you. I'm pissed but I don't need to be with a girl like that anyways. Shoot me a message back or call me. John I'm not bull****tin you. I'm doing this half to piss her off and. Half because you don't deserve the bull**** that girl has done to you. Don't trust that joel kid or that other guy that has a apartment right next to yours. John don't get pissed at me and want to kill me, I'm sorry I was so stupid and put you through this pain but I was flling in love and she made me keep falling day after day. She just won't stop doing it to other guys besides me. I feel like I'm no one to her. I can handel trying to steal her from you but not when she has two other guys she says the same sweet things to and the same guys going to cmu to see her. Sorry john. Call me if you want someone to talk with, I'm pretty upset myself. Sorry.

 

To which I asked for his number and he replied with his number and this...

 

i have better **** to do with my life than listen to you bitch at me john, i really dont wana hear you scream at me and threaten to kill me i know your mad. Im sorry i ****ed up and hurt you but im pissed and had to do this. Dont worry about me, im NEVER EVER GOING TO TALK TO SARA EVER AGAIN FOR THE REST OF MY LIFE. I promise you that. She messed up the last three years of my life really bad she messed up big things. All most cost me my business. I had to get back at that girl for it. SORRY. really i am. But she deserves it.

 

I contacted him and EVERYTHING checked out. Names of girlfriends best friends, friends, EVERYTHING. I immediately called my GF and asked her who the hell this guy was (i gave a direct name) and she started crying and saying she was going to explain. Apparently in our LD relationship I wasn't giving her the attention she wanted to she started to find it in this guy whom she said "maniuplated her" when I wasn't able to be there for her due to distance. Instincts tell me to end it immediately cause no trust can be regained from something 3 years in the making. Three years she denies but what does this guy have to lose telling me exactly whats going on? I'm livid at this point. Shes jumping through absolute hoops to get me back but I'm unable to be physical with her in any way at this point...I can just talk to her. She is about to go to grad school and I am about to graduate. She said shes affraid of losing me and that I am the love of her life ect. But if she was able to lie to me straight faced and live this double life...I don't know. I'm just shocked at this point. What do you guys think? Is this a ticking time bomb? Can she really regain the trust of me but not only me but my family and friends as well...?

[Citizen Erased]

Hell no. Leave her. They're always SO sorry once they're caught. This wasn't just a one time fling.

[Mitupid]

After 4 years in a GREAT relationship with the girl who was perfect for me in every single way, had been with me through thick and thin-death of my father, serious illness ect. I recieve this message on facebook...

 

Your girl Is a complete whore. I could have slept with her multiple times over the last three years while she cheated on you. I kissed the girl till 5 in the morning last friday night. I have txts from her the day after saying she wanted to have sex that night. Not just a peck on the cheek, all out make her moan and scream. I've got three years of memories with the girl, thousands of things I can tell you about. Witnesses to all of them. I've met her mom, I know every detail about the girl. And she did the same exact stuff with some other guy named bryan at cmu. She was just in love with that guy. She went back to his home and met his parents. They use to sleep in the same bed, he threw her down on the bed one time to make out but I'm not sure if they did. Its all her fault, she leads guys like me on and makes us fall in love with her for what reasons I don't know. There are more to I don't know the names of. She has a serious problem telling lies. Your wondering why I'm saying this now??? Because I'm done with her I'm done trying to steal her from you I don't want her anymore you can keep the liar. I tried to steal her for three years and almost got her to leave you many times but she never did all the way. Any time you two fought she was trying to get in my bed though. I can give you many many examples. Your lucky I only sleep with girls I love. If you don't belive me feel free to give me a call and we will talk for hours if you need more details and facts. I just hate that girl for lieing to me for so long, I'm ****in pissed all along she said she was gona pick me and after we kissed so long and so passionately she still didn't leave you. I'm pissed but I don't need to be with a girl like that anyways. Shoot me a message back or call me. John I'm not bull****tin you. I'm doing this half to piss her off and. Half because you don't deserve the bull**** that girl has done to you. Don't trust that joel kid or that other guy that has a apartment right next to yours. John don't get pissed at me and want to kill me, I'm sorry I was so stupid and put you through this pain but I was flling in love and she made me keep falling day after day. She just won't stop doing it to other guys besides me. I feel like I'm no one to her. I can handel trying to steal her from you but not when she has two other guys she says the same sweet things to and the same guys going to cmu to see her. Sorry john. Call me if you want someone to talk with, I'm pretty upset myself. Sorry.

 

To which I asked for his number and he replied with his number and this...

 

i have better **** to do with my life than listen to you bitch at me john, i really dont wana hear you scream at me and threaten to kill me i know your mad. Im sorry i ****ed up and hurt you but im pissed and had to do this. Dont worry about me, im NEVER EVER GOING TO TALK TO SARA EVER AGAIN FOR THE REST OF MY LIFE. I promise you that. She messed up the last three years of my life really bad she messed up big things. All most cost me my business. I had to get back at that girl for it. SORRY. really i am. But she deserves it.

 

I contacted him and EVERYTHING checked out. Names of girlfriends best friends, friends, EVERYTHING. I immediately called my GF and asked her who the hell this guy was (i gave a direct name) and she started crying and saying she was going to explain. Apparently in our LD relationship I wasn't giving her the attention she wanted to she started to find it in this guy whom she said "maniuplated her" when I wasn't able to be there for her due to distance. Instincts tell me to end it immediately cause no trust can be regained from something 3 years in the making. Three years she denies but what does this guy have to lose telling me exactly whats going on? I'm livid at this point. Shes jumping through absolute hoops to get me back but I'm unable to be physical with her in any way at this point...I can just talk to her. She is about to go to grad school and I am about to graduate. She said shes affraid of losing me and that I am the love of her life ect. But if she was able to lie to me straight faced and live this double life...I don't know. I'm just shocked at this point. What do you guys think? Is this a ticking time bomb? Can she really regain the trust of me but not only me but my family and friends as well...?

 

This is a long distance relationship? Has that always been the case or is it just a recent thing? I'm wondering that because if it's not a LD thing, how is she able to spend so much time with other guys? Sorry to hear what you have been through but cut her loose. She's stringing both you and that guy along. And probably some other guys too. Names of girlfriends, friends etc. checking out actually may not mean much, they may be very good friends and have mutual friends. However, the crux is that she started crying the moment you asked her about it and her coming up with excuses that she isn't getting attention, that is a really bad sign imo, and it does lean toward the fact that whatever the guy said is true.

[Surrealist]

Let's get some perspective here.... 3 years!! 3 years of living a double life as you yourself said. So what with all the crying and appologising?? She's ONLY sorry because she's been CAUGHT! She wasn't sorry for those 3 long years she was behind your back doing this **** and likely inevitably will be doing it again.

 

You have two choices. 1) Stay with her and hope like heck she isn't relapsing into this behaviour again or just settle with the fact that she is doing this **** behind your back and just live with it and accept it. Sounds absurd but anyway. 2) Leave her and don't look back!

[karnak]

Its all her fault, she leads guys like me on and makes us fall in love with her for what reasons I don't know. There are more to I don't know the names of. She has a serious problem telling lies.

 

Think seriously about this. Your girl probably has serious emotional issues.

 

If that's the case there's nothing you can do. Unless she tries to find professional help, she'll mess everything she touches.

[Bryanp]

It seems pretty obvious that your so-called girlfriend has been playing you for a total fool for the past 3 years. You judge a person by their actions and her actions speak volumes. She clearly is totally selfish and has no respect for you whatsoever. If you do not respect yourself then who will? You would be a total fool to stay with her. Stop wasting your time with such a cheat and liar and find someone who can respect you and a relationship because she cannot.

[dreamingoftigers]

This is messed. Did she confirm the details of what he claimed. The only reason I ask is because there is a 20% chance that this guy may have ran in the same circle as her friends etc. and wanted to get close with her (maybe even did manipulate her as he claimed) and he really, really struck out and he's pissed. You are saying "why would he do this?" He even says, "half to piss her off." Also that he "never slept with her."

 

This girl that he has been trying to get from her regular boyfriend:

 

A. Supposedly has been trying to screw him on and off for 3 years and he

B. Won't screw her because he has principles against screwing someone he is not in love with? Something does not add up here.

 

You would think someone with sexual morals and boundaries like that would not be trying to score another man's girl, especially if she is the type to be "getting with a whole bunch of guys."

 

Is there a chance that she is a flirtatious drunk and not a "total whore."

 

I am not saying trust her, I am just saying check out his story a little more because he sounds like a dick weed even if he just wanted to out her. Why is he all of a sudden "done with her?"

 

If any of it adds up... kissing etc.and she hadn't come to you first etc. then let her go. Very. Quickly.

[Vanquish]

This is a long distance relationship? Has that always been the case or is it just a recent thing? I'm wondering that because if it's not a LD thing, how is she able to spend so much time with other guys? Sorry to hear what you have been through but cut her loose. She's stringing both you and that guy along. And probably some other guys too. Names of girlfriends, friends etc. checking out actually may not mean much, they may be very good friends and have mutual friends. However, the crux is that she started crying the moment you asked her about it and her coming up with excuses that she isn't getting attention, that is a really bad sign imo, and it does lean toward the fact that whatever the guy said is true.

 

Yeah it is an LD relationship. She goes to school a little over an hour away. I would see her for a day or two every other week, sometimes more. It hasn't always been the case, about 3 years ago we were both going to school back home and lived much closer.

[Vanquish]

This is messed. Did she confirm the details of what he claimed. The only reason I ask is because there is a 20% chance that this guy may have ran in the same circle as her friends etc. and wanted to get close with her (maybe even did manipulate her as he claimed) and he really, really struck out and he's pissed. You are saying "why would he do this?" He even says, "half to piss her off." Also that he "never slept with her."

 

This girl that he has been trying to get from her regular boyfriend:

 

A. Supposedly has been trying to screw him on and off for 3 years and he

B. Won't screw her because he has principles against screwing someone he is not in love with? Something does not add up here.

 

You would think someone with sexual morals and boundaries like that would not be trying to score another man's girl, especially if she is the type to be "getting with a whole bunch of guys."

 

Is there a chance that she is a flirtatious drunk and not a "total whore."

 

I am not saying trust her, I am just saying check out his story a little more because he sounds like a dick weed even if he just wanted to out her. Why is he all of a sudden "done with her?"

 

If any of it adds up... kissing etc.and she hadn't come to you first etc. then let her go. Very. Quickly.

 

She confirmed that he kissed her and at first she kissed back and then pulled away. The only other detail she claimed is that he got her a purse or something and she threw it away but I seem to remember it or her using it. I mean I could call up the guy right now as he says he can, "go on and on about stories." Part of me wants to believe him but part of me says hes making a lot of **** up to get me to dump her so he has a chance to manipulate her again. My girlfriend won't stop contacting me to try to fix things. She wants me to come out tonight. Part of me wants to to see her in her element and I have to bring her more of her ****. I really want to pose more questions to her but I feel like at this point its pointless. In the letter she wrote me while crying on her drive to see me after all this she says shes been praying for forgiveness ever since. Which struck me as odd since she has never been religious. But I feel like im getting sucked into a trap or something by going to see her....

[karnak]

In the letter she wrote me while crying on her drive to see me after all this she says shes been praying for forgiveness ever since. Which struck me as odd since she has never been religious. But I feel like im getting sucked into a trap or something by going to see her....

 

Almost everyone on LS will tell you to trust your guts, because the "gut feeling" is always right.

 

What does your gut tells you?

[yoga18]

She confirmed that he kissed her and at first she kissed back and then pulled away. The only other detail she claimed is that he got her a purse or something and she threw it away but I seem to remember it or her using it. I mean I could call up the guy right now as he says he can, "go on and on about stories." Part of me wants to believe him but part of me says hes making a lot of **** up to get me to dump her so he has a chance to manipulate her again. My girlfriend won't stop contacting me to try to fix things. She wants me to come out tonight. Part of me wants to to see her in her element and I have to bring her more of her ****. I really want to pose more questions to her but I feel like at this point its pointless. In the letter she wrote me while crying on her drive to see me after all this she says shes been praying for forgiveness ever since. Which struck me as odd since she has never been religious. But I feel like im getting sucked into a trap or something by going to see her....

 

I'm really sorry and its never easy for me to say this but I think you may want to consider moving on. When I look at a partner I look at the long term of living with someone, engagement, husband, father, the list goes on. She had a whole other life. Perhaps he is making some stuff up but he knew friends, family, intimate stories that only you should know! The purse etc...and what about her parents! They didn't see anything wrong with another man??? I believe even after an investment of 3 years you know you deserve better. Take a leap of faith and try no contact for awhile, clear your head, see the world through your eyes not hers. If after your time apart you still want to be with her then well......I guess she's got a hell of a job in front of her. However, if after that time you see that your better off without her then don't be afraid to move on. I am sorry and I wish you the very best

[Maggotface]

If nothing went on with this guy then why is she apologizing so much? If you don't know who to believe then I think the best thing to do would be to get both of them out of your life. You seem to be doubting both of their stories and you will always question if she's really told you everything or if she's still going behind your back.

[LucreziaBorgia]

Think of it this way: who has the most to lose by being truthful with you? The one who stands to lose the most is the one lying.

 

This guy - he has nothing to lose. Your girlfriend? Your entire relationship.

 

As for who the manipulative one really is? I think you already know that it isn't that guy.

[amerikajin]

The guy who sent you an email isn't really all that much better than your girlfriend (or soon to be ex girlfriend?). Yeah, he told you the truth, but it was out of spite and anger, and a desire to get even with your girl because he felt he deserved her. He wouldn't have told you if he had convinced your girlfriend to break up with you.

 

Nevertheless, the bottom line is, what he told you appears to be true. The implications are obvious: your relationship isn't what you think it is. I don't think there is any way you can have a meaningful relationship with her. You will never be able to trust her. It's over. Time to pick up the pieces and move on.

[Mimolicious]

Is this someone who you will proudly call your WIFE, eventually?

 

Drop the ho-ho and get yourself a decent girl within few miles.

[Vanquish]

Something compells me to break it off as girlfriend and boyfriend but see if I can trust we can develop a "best" friendship and see where that goes. This will place my trust in her mind to not slut around but at the same time give me the piece of mind to see the world through my own eyes.

[dreamingoftigers]

Sort of like a trial seperation to see where she fits into your life?

[Mimolicious]

If you want to waste your time and create an emotional leech, sure! Go ahead.

[karnak]

Something compells me to break it off as girlfriend and boyfriend but see if I can trust we can develop a "best" friendship and see where that goes.

 

Is this what you'd call your "gut feeling"? If that's the case you'd better do what it tells you.

[dreamingoftigers]

I tend to find that people that will betray you in such a deep and personal way are not your friend at all.

[Hop_prophet]

Something compells me to break it off as girlfriend and boyfriend but see if I can trust we can develop a "best" friendship and see where that goes. This will place my trust in her mind to not slut around but at the same time give me the piece of mind to see the world through my own eyes.

 

Ugh, that is pretty much the worst idea ever. Do that if you want to torture yourself and prolong the pain. I'm a better friend to you than she is. Dude wake up and launch this b****.

[road]

run for the hills

[Crazy Magnet]

Ugh, that is pretty much the worst idea ever. Do that if you want to torture yourself and prolong the pain. I'm a better friend to you than she is. Dude wake up and launch this b****.

 

 

I can't say this better. Ditto.

 

Press eject NOW.