lechiffre1980 Posted October 24, 2010 Posted October 24, 2010 Met this wonderful girl via an online dating site recently. We met up for a coffee and then again in person for a first date a few days ago which went amazingly well. Even moreso than I was expecting. Very similar personalities and lots of laughs etc. She works very long hours at present (weekends included) so has been a matter of working around her schedule and we haven't been able to catch up this weekend, but she has definitely said she wants to catch up again early this week. She even sms'd me about an hour after the first date saying what a great time she'd had, which I took as a great sign. We're both very new to the online dating scene, so was wondering, if things progress, what is the best time to take down / hide my profile? I wouldn't have a clue about protocols, but then again, I get the impression she wouldn't really care about them either. The site has only come up once in conversation (largely because it is irrelevant now). And I'm a bit old fashioned in that I don't really like to 'juggle' dates so to speak. We've been communicating regularly via sms between catching up and the signs from her seem to indicate that she is only seeing me at present. Obviously appreciate this is very early stages and we are still getting to know each other, but if she jumps on and sees my still profile on there I don't want her to freak out. And the only time I've logged on since we've met was to refresh my knowledge of her interests before the first date. I'm really not into dating 'games' (if you know what i mean) and would rather just take things as they come and get the impression she is the same. So, I'd be happy to take my profile down now on the basis that I would like to focus on getting to know her (which I think is the polite thing to do), but not sure if that would send the wrong signal? I certainly wouldn't be implying that I'm expecting to marry the girl or anything, more just want to indicate that I'm interested in getting to know her now and not interested in juggling dates. Thoughts?
yoga18 Posted October 24, 2010 Posted October 24, 2010 Met this wonderful girl via an online dating site recently. We met up for a coffee and then again in person for a first date a few days ago which went amazingly well. Even moreso than I was expecting. Very similar personalities and lots of laughs etc. She works very long hours at present (weekends included) so has been a matter of working around her schedule and we haven't been able to catch up this weekend, but she has definitely said she wants to catch up again early this week. She even sms'd me about an hour after the first date saying what a great time she'd had, which I took as a great sign. We're both very new to the online dating scene, so was wondering, if things progress, what is the best time to take down / hide my profile? I wouldn't have a clue about protocols, but then again, I get the impression she wouldn't really care about them either. The site has only come up once in conversation (largely because it is irrelevant now). And I'm a bit old fashioned in that I don't really like to 'juggle' dates so to speak. We've been communicating regularly via sms between catching up and the signs from her seem to indicate that she is only seeing me at present. Obviously appreciate this is very early stages and we are still getting to know each other, but if she jumps on and sees my still profile on there I don't want her to freak out. And the only time I've logged on since we've met was to refresh my knowledge of her interests before the first date. I'm really not into dating 'games' (if you know what i mean) and would rather just take things as they come and get the impression she is the same. So, I'd be happy to take my profile down now on the basis that I would like to focus on getting to know her (which I think is the polite thing to do), but not sure if that would send the wrong signal? I certainly wouldn't be implying that I'm expecting to marry the girl or anything, more just want to indicate that I'm interested in getting to know her now and not interested in juggling dates. Thoughts? This is kind of how me and my SO started out together almost 10 months now. I left mine up for about a month after we started hanging out then I just hid my profile so people were not contacting me. He did the same but we just didn't know the other had done it. When we started to talk about being exclusive I brought up that I was going to remove my profile and he said he wanted to do the same. I say wait so you don't look overly .....can't think of the right word at 3 am, crazy??? Just chill hang out and enjoy. The conversation will come up naturally. Trust me if she likes you and wants you all to herself she will bring your profile to your attention. Besides you don't have to look or respond don't get on then you won't feel guilty and you won't look "crazy" sorry I know there's a better word....I'll get back to you on that....need some serious shut eye
Author lechiffre1980 Posted October 24, 2010 Author Posted October 24, 2010 Thanks for the response. Appreciate the advice!
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