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...but a tamed wild side.

 

So to keep a long story short, met the department office manager this summer while I was with a girl I dated for 2 months. Conveniently, we both broke up with our s/o (hers 1 year, mine 2 months lol... so I had an easier time)

 

But I saw this girl and was blown away. She definitely paid me attention, but is a very flirtatious girl. However, I reciprocated.

 

We kind of hit it off from there... I feel like I caught a girl at a low point though. How do I know if her interest was real?

 

Well we flirted... talked... finally I asked for her number and vice versa. I called her a few days later but through a 3rd party I learned of her breakup. that put the brakes on me asking her out.

 

A week or so later though from me calling her... I told her how I felt... and she was clearly attracted to me... we ended up having phone sex (heh.. I know.. so 90's)... the next day, she was blushing when she saw me but it was really hot.

 

That night she invited me over. I don't know why, but I went... she was tipsy/buzzed. She wanted me over.. I showed up. It was good... I went in to kiss her.. and she said no. She doesn't kiss unless in a relationship. Funny... I don't have sex unless in a relationship. She was totally on board with that too. I then found out that she's been hooking up with 2 other guys... (ie she's rebounding)... I backed off. I ended up sleeping over, but nothing happened. **** got awkward fast. She told me she has her life and friends with things to do... almost like I was not IN that. I stopped texting her/talking to her.

 

2 days went by... awkward.

 

We talked. I told her how I felt. she understood and respected that. Now she seems to making more of an effort for me... waited for me before she went home one night and I gave her a ride. She invited me out for a walk to spent time with me outside of work. etc, etc... it's been nice. but still she isn't ready for anything serious and I'm not rushing her. I'm going with the flow hoping things just fall into place.

 

She was trashed last night - texted me, but didn't want me coming over... i humored her... all day she was sick. i offered to come by, but the only person she will vomit in front of is her ex boyfriend. I told her if she does need company, I don't mind if she calls/texts.

 

Tonight she went out as the designated driver and I was on a movie date. I wasn't feeling my date.. I texted her saying I wish she would save me from my date. She responds "Aw love :(" I then tell her it should be her here with me now... her response "I knowwww"

 

I don't know if I should really hold out for her.. or not.

 

I'm currently seeing a woman, but it's more of an FWB thing... not feeling that like I like this new girl.

 

Thanks guys!!!

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...but a tamed wild side.

 

So to keep a long story short, met the department office manager this summer while I was with a girl I dated for 2 months. Conveniently, we both broke up with our s/o (hers 1 year, mine 2 months lol... so I had an easier time)

 

But I saw this girl and was blown away. She definitely paid me attention, but is a very flirtatious girl. However, I reciprocated.

 

We kind of hit it off from there... I feel like I caught a girl at a low point though. How do I know if her interest was real?

 

Well we flirted... talked... finally I asked for her number and vice versa. I called her a few days later but through a 3rd party I learned of her breakup. that put the brakes on me asking her out.

 

A week or so later though from me calling her... I told her how I felt... and she was clearly attracted to me... we ended up having phone sex (heh.. I know.. so 90's)... the next day, she was blushing when she saw me but it was really hot.

 

That night she invited me over. I don't know why, but I went... she was tipsy/buzzed. She wanted me over.. I showed up. It was good... I went in to kiss her.. and she said no. She doesn't kiss unless in a relationship. Funny... I don't have sex unless in a relationship. She was totally on board with that too. I then found out that she's been hooking up with 2 other guys... (ie she's rebounding)... I backed off. I ended up sleeping over, but nothing happened. **** got awkward fast. She told me she has her life and friends with things to do... almost like I was not IN that. I stopped texting her/talking to her.

 

2 days went by... awkward.

 

We talked. I told her how I felt. she understood and respected that. Now she seems to making more of an effort for me... waited for me before she went home one night and I gave her a ride. She invited me out for a walk to spent time with me outside of work. etc, etc... it's been nice. but still she isn't ready for anything serious and I'm not rushing her. I'm going with the flow hoping things just fall into place.

 

She was trashed last night - texted me, but didn't want me coming over... i humored her... all day she was sick. i offered to come by, but the only person she will vomit in front of is her ex boyfriend. I told her if she does need company, I don't mind if she calls/texts.

 

Tonight she went out as the designated driver and I was on a movie date. I wasn't feeling my date.. I texted her saying I wish she would save me from my date. She responds "Aw love :(" I then tell her it should be her here with me now... her response "I knowwww"

 

I don't know if I should really hold out for her.. or not.

 

I'm currently seeing a woman, but it's more of an FWB thing... not feeling that like I like this new girl.

 

Thanks guys!!!

 

Its time to break out the running shoes you know you should have better move on plz sorry so short just really tired

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She doesn't kiss outside a relationship but has been hooking up with two guys? What?

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Men and their double standards are priceless. How is her hooking up any different from your FWB?

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You keep "telling her how you feel" (whatever that means, as you haven't even told US how you feel), and keep reaching out to her, even when you're on a date, and she's NOT RESPONDING in kind. She's not interested, my friend. :(

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She doesn't kiss outside a relationship but has been hooking up with two guys? What?

 

I agree. This whole thing sounds a bit odd. To me, it sounds like you are into her more than she is into you. And yes, with her refusing to kiss you, but she's 'rebounding' with 2 guys.

 

I know some people who freak out about kissing b/c it's so intimate, but sounds like an excuse to me. Also how she "only vomits in front of her ex" ?? I think you should IGNORE her next time she contacts you. Seriously...

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Don't offer to go over to her house and hold her hair as she pukes. That is so weak. Next you'll be offering to drive her to the airport.

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Its time to break out the running shoes you know you should have better move on plz sorry so short just really tired

 

She doesn't kiss outside a relationship but has been hooking up with two guys? What?

 

Men and their double standards are priceless. How is her hooking up any different from your FWB?

 

You keep "telling her how you feel" (whatever that means, as you haven't even told US how you feel), and keep reaching out to her, even when you're on a date, and she's NOT RESPONDING in kind. She's not interested, my friend. :(

 

I agree. This whole thing sounds a bit odd. To me, it sounds like you are into her more than she is into you. And yes, with her refusing to kiss you, but she's 'rebounding' with 2 guys.

 

I know some people who freak out about kissing b/c it's so intimate, but sounds like an excuse to me. Also how she "only vomits in front of her ex" ?? I think you should IGNORE her next time she contacts you. Seriously...

 

Don't offer to go over to her house and hold her hair as she pukes. That is so weak. Next you'll be offering to drive her to the airport.

 

 

My FWB only came about after got frustrated with the girl and went out with another, older woman. Had a few drinks... next thing I know I was banging the hell out of her =/

 

But yeah, you're all right. I'm blindsided by liking this girl. I'll stop responding to her. I'm being dragged along by her broken heart.

 

thanks guys!

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