stoploss11 Posted October 24, 2010 Posted October 24, 2010 Shes still a mess. Lives w abusive babys dad, and mother is still not supportive. Still promises to move and help her with the baby so she can get away...but Hasn't happened. Won't happen. At least I have to look at it that way. She's been abused as a child and now as an adult. I think shes afraid to leave, and is financially dependent on the dad. But i'm not making excuses, she's either a coward or a liar, right? I've spoken w the mom and she was excited to meet me, I had a meeting one day and they called me the last minute so i couldnt make it and the other she flaked and never came to the states. Its been 7 weeks of hell and 2 weeks nearly of NC.... 2 weeks ago she said the first negative thing it wasn't bad but enough for me to go NC. Before that she just was depressed and crying all the time and completely dshut down. Never said anything just stopped talking, but slowly came around then she shut down again 7 weeks ago. I feel bad, but also know I need to try to sort myself and she needs to do the same for herself. I'm not writing US off, not sure about moving on, but i'm moving forward... She has walked into my wing at work more frequently this week, and even caught her staring at me a few times. I wish we were in different circumstances, we're not. Sad.
GrayClouds Posted October 24, 2010 Posted October 24, 2010 Shes still a mess. Lives w abusive babys dad, and mother is still not supportive. Still promises to move and help her with the baby so she can get away...but Hasn't happened. Won't happen. Give up the drama she is a train wreck and even though it feels good to be the knight in shinny armor it never works out like the movies. Sorry about your pain but keep NC, focusing on yourself and making your life great.
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