GreenEyedLady Posted October 27, 2010 Posted October 27, 2010 Wow, mine didn't say it until he was ACTUALLY considering it. And we had been together off and on for two years. Although, he wasn't serious at first, he was still considering it. Then he was REALLY considering it and I gave him a timeline. I think MP who say they're leaving right away are full of it. They are just saying it so they keep getting sex. No one is going to leave a R that is known for the complete unknown unless they are completely nuts and need meds. Maybe an exit A is the only exception, but from what I've seen on the forums, exit A's never see daylight anyway. GEL
Silly_Girl Posted October 27, 2010 Posted October 27, 2010 Wow, mine didn't say it until he was ACTUALLY considering it. And we had been together off and on for two years. Although, he wasn't serious at first, he was still considering it. Then he was REALLY considering it and I gave him a timeline. I think MP who say they're leaving right away are full of it. They are just saying it so they keep getting sex. No one is going to leave a R that is known for the complete unknown unless they are completely nuts and need meds. Maybe an exit A is the only exception, but from what I've seen on the forums, exit A's never see daylight anyway. GEL 5 months in, my guy was 'sure'. But 5 months after that he was still 'sure'. Good news was that I had a lot of stuff going on in the meantime. But what I'm saying is, I don't believe he was lying.
GreenEyedLady Posted October 27, 2010 Posted October 27, 2010 5 months in, my guy was 'sure'. But 5 months after that he was still 'sure'. Good news was that I had a lot of stuff going on in the meantime. But what I'm saying is, I don't believe he was lying. 5 months is not Day 1 though and that was what I was referring to. And honestly I was on and off with mine before I knew he was married. After I knew, it was about 11 months after that. (Wow, it's so weird to think of the timeline now. I'm so thankful to have crossed over.) And I think the most heartbreaking thing is that they really "think they are sure" when they are not. It's like a wish that they make, but aren't really ready to see it come true. The A has to make the transition from fantasy to reality for them to see that it has a life and can make it if they put the work in. GEL
Silly_Girl Posted October 27, 2010 Posted October 27, 2010 5 months is not Day 1 though and that was what I was referring to. And honestly I was on and off with mine before I knew he was married. After I knew, it was about 11 months after that. (Wow, it's so weird to think of the timeline now. I'm so thankful to have crossed over.) And I think the most heartbreaking thing is that they really "think they are sure" when they are not. It's like a wish that they make, but aren't really ready to see it come true. The A has to make the transition from fantasy to reality for them to see that it has a life and can make it if they put the work in. GEL No. It's not Day One, and I'd view that differently. And if he'd said that I'd run a mile. And I get the other stuff. 11 months, not a lot in a lifetime, but a lot nonetheless.
GreenEyedLady Posted October 27, 2010 Posted October 27, 2010 No. It's not Day One, and I'd view that differently. And if he'd said that I'd run a mile. And I get the other stuff. 11 months, not a lot in a lifetime, but a lot nonetheless. It's so funny to think that how ever long we have loved someone is not a lifetime, but yet that is the way it seems. And it was 11 months beyond the initial 14 months (of me not knowing he was married). That's why it is so weird when I think about the timeline. Love has a way of taking time and twisting it. And the more you love, the more intense the feeling. GEL
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