Do you think she's Interested?

[Rodcliff89]

Back story - Met a girl at a restaurant she worked at, I have a mutual friend (girl) that works at the same place and she told me the other girl thought I was hot. Couple weeks pass and I went there again and got talking to her and got her phone number.. This was on a Saturday. I called her Tuesday evening and got her voice mail, left her a quick message and asked her to call me back. Wednesday passed and I didn't hear anything. Thursday I Texted her around noon, she texted me back about 2 hours later (she is 22 and has class in the morning).

 

Her text said something like "Hey sorry I got your message, was doing homework and then phone died, Ive just been extremely busy I'm sorry". So I texted back its cool and asked her a question about herself, we texted for about 4-5 hours back and forth.. Her texts were a little on the shorter side to answering questions & didn't generally ask me much, but she texted me back each time like instantly to a few minutes. She does goto college and work 2 jobs which equals about 5 days a week working, so I can agree she stays pretty busy.

 

So whats you opinion on this? I am going to chill for a few days then probably call her again and see if we can get together. Do you think she is interested?

[welikeincrowds]

First of all, you shouldn't have waited in the first place. You should have called her on Sunday.

 

That she didn't ask you questions about yourself over text doesn't mean anything. It's text messaging. There's really nothing meaningful to pull from it in either direction. But it still was an opportunity to start a discussion about a date, or at least let her know when you plan to call her to schedule, and I'm gathering from your conversation that you didn't do that either.

 

The bottom line is that your intention all along has been to plan a first date and so far you haven't done so. She gave you her (real!) phone number, and that's all you need to make the next step happen. Next time you need to amp up your interest and persistence. PERSIST! Carry the momentum from number to date.

 

As for this particular girl, who knows what will happen? I don't know. But in the vein of this advice I would rather not wait if I were you. Waiting does nothing but work against you. If she's interested, waiting will cause her interest to wane; if she's not interested, then you had no hope anyway. Just call her tomorrow and find out, once and for all.

 

Finally, I will add that it is the general opinion of this board that rocky signs like these are reason to next her. A girl who is interested in you, the argument goes, will not resist you; and a girl who resists you is a waste of time when there are, presumably, so many others out there who won't. I agree with this principle. But, practically, I also think that girls come around, and it couldn't hurt to try. Also, I think the real reason this unfolded this way is because you waited too long. Girls put a lot of barriers up to avoid creeps and hurt feelings, and they can next just as fast. But confidence among others is knowing that given enough time and attention, they will move to your favor.

Edited October 24, 2010 by welikeincrowds

[tylerdurden]

Well you can give her the benefit of the doubt, but however is hse doesn't return your call a second time, well she is not interested.

Also Texting back for 4 to 5 hours is a big no no, also if she doesn't ask you much about yourself its because her interest level is low.

I would give her a call in a few days, but If I were you I wouldn't sweat on her.

[Scott4]

Text messaging is meant to be quick and short. I wouldn't put a lot of meaning into it. Call her. If you are having trouble getting her to return your calls, then back off. If she wants anything with you, she will get back to you.