how can i get this girl off my head, i would have made a move but she's married and..

[dgia1810]

i think i like this girl because she's in my head all the time, but the problem is she's married and has a child. I know its wrong thats why i'm trying to forget it and avoid her but she's not much of a help either. because she was really really nice to me since second day, like she just waled in and started to talk to me, like now she talks to other people a little, but she talks whit me about her little 3yo kid, what she didst back in high school and when she asked what i like to do turns out her husband like the same stuff i like, and she's always walking to her car with me, if i walk out class before her she will run up to me and catch up and if she leave the class before me she slows down and waits for me. I tried to avoid her after classes didn't work, theres no together seats in class except for the last row and thats where we sit, theres 4 empty seats and i always skip a chair but she always manage to sit right next to me . and she always talk to me about my deployment, and keep telling me to be safe and come back.

she is a real nice girl so i dont think she will cheat on her husband or i dont want to. but why is she doing thins when theres like 8 other guys in class and theres only 3 girls. and how can i avoid her. and she also brought her little guy to school too and introduced him to me and last wednesday for some reason i was talking that no girls are allowed in my house coz i kinda still live with my mom and she ket telling me how she used to sneak guys in and then said well thats why im in position now.and she's older i'm 21 she's 23 and still, lets be honest sometimes we cant control whats going inside our heads.

 

P.S. sry about my poor grammer and spelling i'm slightly dyslexic

[GooseChaser]

Maybe she just wants to be friends? She sounds like a nice person. Would you be okay with that arrangement?

[youngskywalker]

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she is a real nice girl so i dont think she will cheat on her husband or i dont want to

 

Dude, if she is married then move on and find a single girl. Sorry, but any guy that sleeps with another mans wife if a complete low-life. Put yourself in the shoes of the husband of this girl and ask yourself how you would feel. I don't mean to be a jackass but common people.

[skydiveaddict]

yes I agree. Don't mess around with a married woman. You can ruin a lot of lives, it is just not right. Regardless of your feelings.

[LiveWell]

OP, I agree with the others that it would be a low-life move to go after a married woman with a kid.

 

But IF you are going to, you have to be very straight up with her, and it can't be any lovey dovey stuff.

 

Just tell her "Baby I think you're really hot but since you're married we'll just have to keep it purely sexual. Are you game?"

[hearttobreak]

Time and find a new one. I am still battling over the last one. It just takes time. There is no simple fix. Women can turn on and off, most men, if you actually care for the woman, can not. Unless you're a player of course.

[dgia1810]

i'm not going to make a move on this girl, and its not for sex either i dont know why i like this girl, i mean i hooked up with a girl that way better looking than her last night at the bar, and tried hanging out with other girls i'm friend with but can't get over her. and walking and talking with me is not helping coz the more i talk with her the more i get to know her like she's talking about from what she cooked the other night to a lot of crap......i wish i can leave right now girls like this are my weakness the whole reason i joined the marines was when my ex broke up with me right after high school stupid but it helped, my ex and this girl are the only two girls that brought me down so.

 

this sucks

[Scott4]

Dude, this happens to a lot of guys. I have had it happen to me. I did exactly what you did. I avoided her as much as I could, but somehow we always ended up talking. I still work with her and is hasn't stopped. It sounds like you have made up your mind to tough it out. That is probably the best thing. It kinda sounds to me like you are falling for her though.

 

If by some chance something does happen between you two, keep it as quiet as you can. Don't expect much as far as a relationship is concerned. Be prepared for the consequences if you get caught too.

[dgia1810]

idk about love but something is going on. like i said i wont go any further other then being friends. it would be easier if i just ignored her for for the rest of the semester, like i said i tried sitting two seats away form her she move closer, i tried to leave the class fast but she always caught up with me, and i let her leave the class first but she will slow down till i get close to her and just make a joke about what i did in class, coz i never pay attention always on face book or texting (but i'm doing good in class)

[Surrealist]

Let's do a hypothetical....

 

Let's say you meet with her and sleep with her (even though you don't want to in reality but you do the deed anyway).

 

Now you feel some guilt. You're seeing her at school again the next day. You begin to wonder if she's confessed the encounter to her husband.

 

You begin feeling, maybe, a little paranoid. You start to wonder if the husband finds out what might he do? Will he come to school and wanna kick my head in? (He'd be well in his right to feel that).

 

Now ponder, the potential breakdown of the marriage. The fatherless or motherless child. The heartbreak on both the mother and father, mum feeling enormous regret.

 

Contemplate for a moment, the families of both mum and dad learning of the affair and their disgust and grief. The grandparents of this child who want the best for their grandchild and their feeling of grief at the breakdown of the marriage and the subsequent fallout and collateral damage and so on.

 

Think HARD about this dgia1810.....

 

Is she so attractive now?

 

I'm sure the thought of a raging husband after your nuts and a potentially destroyed family for a one-off fling doesn't seem so appealing now.

 

With this in mind, you can begin to tear down those thoughts of attraction and with that, any interest in her should begin to subside.

[Surrealist]

idk about love but something is going on.

 

I do know about love and I can assure you, love is NOT what you are feeling. True love would have her best interests at heart, not your selfish feelings, those feelings being infatuation and fantasy. Read my hypothetical above.

[Seamless74]

let me throw out an opinion from a slightly different slant as it applies to both boyfriends more of the live in variety as well as husbands...

 

all morals aside (im not that big into morality plays) lets think of it more as "right action"

 

best case scenario for you is somehow you get a little conspiracy going spark some attraction some how fandagle her into the sack,,, great!!!

 

Then your like hey that was kind of fun now im attached id like to do it again.. Except everytime you try to do it again shes busy with the husband, the kid , other responsabilities.. your left holding the bag and if and only if you ever get some its at a time and place of her choosing... While this situation might work for a player or hustler who has many sexual options and is just in it for a quick fix and if not no big deal.. In your situation your setting yourself up to play a subservient role..

 

Always gotta remember are you the one doing the ****ing or are you just getting ****ed big difference... take a pass and talk to the next pretty girl you see and i bet youll feel better.