Gt.ooh Posted October 23, 2010 Posted October 23, 2010 It's been a month and a half for me. She took me off her FB, and changed her number (not because of me). That has made it a lot easier. However, my sister was friends with her on FB too, and guess what she still has access to her page. There I find myself staring at her new number and pictures of the condo with all the furniture I just bought. I dragged myself right back to the low of the lows. Now I have access whenever I want when I didn't think I did for the past 3 weeks.. = not good. I'm going to post in the thread "post here instead of contacting your ex" to prevent myself from wandering. I know she comes out my way in 2 wks. Hence my checking up..it's unreal how our minds pretty much force us to do these things when we know that ultimately its not what you should do either way..whether you want another chance, or trying to move on.. It's bad in every way shape and form...If you want a chance at any reconciliation we have to let go, as they already have done that. IT's hard everyone I know, going through highs and low..lows. We only set ourselves up for failure by constantly checking in...Put it this way: if you kept checking in...they want to meet for a coffee down the road..you already know pretty much what they've been up to bc of FB...and they start talking about something interesting they'll figure out right away from your lack of reaction that u already know...bad bad. Also if they dated someone else, your jealousy factor skyrockets...it's not our business knowing who they date during the break-up. If they want to meet us down the road, it's better we don't know. They'll tell us if they feel it's necessary.. Think of it like your meeting for the first time again...we didn't necessarily know their past until one-two months in. I'm learning like all of us, not always putting my best foot forward, but hey I'm doing what I can. One of the best things I find for us guys to do, or even ladies. IS gt the GYM!! They play rock, no lovey dovey songs, and hey u might meet a friend or two. I just started this week going with my cousin, he's been going for 12 years, and is training me to bulk up and I LOVE it. SO I know the topic was Halloween... Post here share how your coping, and if u have that urge to go check on the FB during this week leading up to halloween, or send a txt...post here and I hope some of my advice can be passed on. I haven't been taking any of my own medicine..and I've been paying the price.
Username37 Posted October 24, 2010 Posted October 24, 2010 Well I've been coping alright even with the information I received about my ex. I haven't been tempted to break NC and its been going quite strong (since June 20!) Halloween was me and my ex's holiday. We did Halloween for 2 years and they were incredible. I won't be heartbroken, for I will be doing Halloween with people who do love me
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