mogul Posted October 23, 2010 Posted October 23, 2010 I was recently at a club and met someone interesting. We got along very well and danced and was very in to her. I asked if she had a bf and she specifically told me she did not, although she did see her ex at the club which was awkward. As we're dancing, a guy walks up to her and grabs her and becomes belligerent and tells me that she is his gf. At this point, I don't even want to deal with it and talk to other girls. Out of curiosity, was that probably her bf or ex? We exchanged numbers and she seemed sincerely interested, what would probably be the best thing to do at this point? I met other girls there that night, but she seems to be the one that sticks out in my mind for some reason. Thanks.
Surrealist Posted October 23, 2010 Posted October 23, 2010 They could be a couple in the middle of an argument and you just brought them back together again - for the meantime, until another argument develops.
utterer of lies Posted October 23, 2010 Posted October 23, 2010 I was recently at a club and met someone interesting. We got along very well and danced and was very in to her. I asked if she had a bf and she specifically told me she did not, although she did see her ex at the club which was awkward. Why would you even ask this?
Titania22 Posted October 23, 2010 Posted October 23, 2010 As we're dancing, a guy walks up to her and grabs her and becomes belligerent and tells me that she is his gf. At this point, I don't even want to deal with it and talk to other girls. This guy sounds horrible. I probably would have kept an eye of them, to make sure she wasn't in danger. If you had, you might have been able to answer your own question.
Author mogul Posted October 23, 2010 Author Posted October 23, 2010 If I sensed that she was in any kind of danger, I would of confronted him. I got the vibe that I was possibly in the wrong, though she did tell me that she DID NOT have a bf. When he confronted her, she just got up and walked away as he was getting mad at her and I, which I just laughed at and walked away. I'm possibly thinking of calling her to ask what that was about, though she does have my number and it might be a better idea if she were to call me?
Author mogul Posted October 23, 2010 Author Posted October 23, 2010 So is this something where I should call her, let her call me, or just drop it. I do want to find out what the situation was, but am curious to see if I don't call her, whether she would call me or not.
Titania22 Posted October 23, 2010 Posted October 23, 2010 So is this something where I should call her, let her call me, or just drop it. I do want to find out what the situation was, but am curious to see if I don't call her, whether she would call me or not. I don't know the answer! Sorry
porter218 Posted October 23, 2010 Posted October 23, 2010 So is this something where I should call her, let her call me, or just drop it. I do want to find out what the situation was, but am curious to see if I don't call her, whether she would call me or not. I have had an x do that to me. Some guys just can't let go. I would be willing to bet even my xH would do something like that if he saw me at a club dancing with some guy even though we've been divorced fro almost 2 years. He called a guy I was dating when he came by to see his kids once too. He went through my home phone and got his number then flipped out claiming I was his W and to leave me alone or he would hurt him:eek:. So on that note...it is up to you to call but she may come with some drama in her life even if that isn't her bf.
Author mogul Posted October 23, 2010 Author Posted October 23, 2010 Now that I think of it, I do think it was her ex. I just don't get why she just walked off instead of saying something to me and just acted indifferent after we were moving all over the club together having fun.
Titania22 Posted October 23, 2010 Posted October 23, 2010 Now that I think of it, I do think it was her ex. I just don't get why she just walked off instead of saying something to me and just acted indifferent after we were moving all over the club together having fun. Maybe to avoid a scene.
porter218 Posted October 23, 2010 Posted October 23, 2010 (edited) Maybe to avoid a scene. Most likely. That would be my only choice if my xH did this. If I didn't walk away a physical fight would no doubt ensue. actually. I would probably leave the club all together. Edited October 23, 2010 by porter218
Author mogul Posted October 23, 2010 Author Posted October 23, 2010 Wow, this sounds exactly like what happened. I couldn't find her for the rest of the night, nor did I seem him either though....
D-Jam Posted October 23, 2010 Posted October 23, 2010 I was recently at a club and met someone interesting. We got along very well and danced and was very in to her. I asked if she had a bf and she specifically told me she did not, although she did see her ex at the club which was awkward. As we're dancing, a guy walks up to her and grabs her and becomes belligerent and tells me that she is his gf. At this point, I don't even want to deal with it and talk to other girls. Out of curiosity, was that probably her bf or ex? We exchanged numbers and she seemed sincerely interested, what would probably be the best thing to do at this point? I met other girls there that night, but she seems to be the one that sticks out in my mind for some reason. Thanks. Sounds like he won't accept that it's over. Call her, talk, date, etc. If the guy causes drama and she can't get rid of him, then move on.
spice4life Posted October 23, 2010 Posted October 23, 2010 I have had an x do that to me. Some guys just can't let go. I would be willing to bet even my xH would do something like that if he saw me at a club dancing with some guy even though we've been divorced fro almost 2 years. He called a guy I was dating when he came by to see his kids once too. He went through my home phone and got his number then flipped out claiming I was his W and to leave me alone or he would hurt him:eek:. So on that note...it is up to you to call but she may come with some drama in her life even if that isn't her bf. Porter is probably right, this could be the case. I would proceed with caution as there may be drama attached to this one. As far as who should call who goes, a lot women wait for the guy to call. It shows he is interested. If the girl calls then she won't know if he is truely interested or just being nice. Again, I would proceed with caution though.
Author mogul Posted October 23, 2010 Author Posted October 23, 2010 I'm thinking of texting her today just to see what that was about and go from there. Usually I would call in a day or two, but I do genuinely want to know that she is alright. I don't know why i'm still kind of expecting a text from her though...
spice4life Posted October 23, 2010 Posted October 23, 2010 I'm thinking of texting her today just to see what that was about and go from there. Usually I would call in a day or two, but I do genuinely want to know that she is alright. I don't know why i'm still kind of expecting a text from her though... No harm in sending her a text if you want to find out how she is doing. Then you can ask her about that night and see what she says. It sounds like she has peeked your curiosity and now you want to know if she is even worth the effort. Contacting her and getting your questions answered will settle that.
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