How long is there NC before you know it's too late and definately over?

[Chooo]

I've been looking at threads and it keeps saying 'don't contact them, don't contact them even if they contact you'

etc

but I'm really missing my ex badly, we were together over 2 years and he ended the relationship angrily and told me to never speak to him again, then blocked me on everything.

He bottles up his emotions well and is badly stubborn but is really sensitive deep down and did care alot about me so I keep asking myself how can he do this now and is he even thinking of me?!

 

Even a simple text from him would give me the satisfaction and show hes atleast thinking about me as much as I'm thinking about him.

I keep wanting to text just saying 'hope you're doing okay' or something but I wont because I promised him I wouldnt contact him again and I'll feel like an idiot if he's deleted my number or something or doesn't reply.

 

 

We've been broke up since around the 25th september (so almost a month), and we've had NC for 3 weeks.

I know this is early days but we have broke up once before for 6 months and had NC, and we ended up getting back together again.

But because its the 2nd time we've broken up now Im worried this will help him to just give up, forget me and move on :/

Any advice? I'm clueless!

[SithLord]

Shouldn't concern yourself about him and what he feels or thinks. U remain in no contact until u feel better, if u have to lose'em u lose'em. In order for there to be a winner there must be a loser. It's normal to feel how u feel, but fall back in the mean time..

[Don Ho]

I've been looking at threads and it keeps saying 'don't contact them, don't contact them even if they contact you'

 

He bottles up his emotions well and is badly stubborn but is really sensitive deep down and did care alot about me so I keep asking myself how can he do this now and is he even thinking of me?!

 

Im worried this will help him to just give up, forget me and move on :/

Any advice? I'm clueless!

Chooo: continue NC. You can respond to their contact IF and when they say "I made a mistake, I can't live without you and I want you back". Other than that and it's just a mind ****.

 

2nd, do not make excuses for him and his actions as many people do, saying he's stubborn and so on. DO NOT use that as a rationale to contact him. Believe me, if he REALLY wants to contact you, he will. He might be thinking of you, but as Sith said, it really doesn't matter at this point.

 

3rd, NC is not a game to get them back and you shouldn't look at it that way. He may give up and move on, there's NOTHING you can do about that. Contacting him will certainly push him further away.

 

So Sis, I know it hurts and you feel miserable. You have to continue NC for YOU. It's the quickest way to move on with your life. Now, go out, socialize, exercise, hang with your friends and stay very, very busy so you have less time to obsess and think.

[Chooo]

Thank yous all for the polite advice, really admire your help :] I do realise I have to try and move on with my life and if it's meant to be he'll come back to me, but I cant keep my life on hold forever!

I am going out and enjoying myself, I just think about him every morning and whenever I'm not doing something, or if something reminds me of him - which is alot -_-.

I will try hard to take your advice on board, hopefully I'll get it out of my system.

Thanks again, T x

[Don Ho]

Choo, you will get better and it does get easier. You'll find that you think about him less and when you do it will have less and less impact on you. "Head up" and keep busy. No quick fix, NC and time is your best ally though.