Knittress Posted October 23, 2010 Posted October 23, 2010 So, you're scoping out a roomful of people - what are some clues that hint that a person that might be a great lover? Just curious (and maybe a little bit of a creeper ).
Star Gazer Posted October 23, 2010 Posted October 23, 2010 Confident yet fluid posture. Big hands. Deep eye contact and staring at your lips. Mirroring body language. But the best indicator? The kiss.
Author Knittress Posted October 23, 2010 Author Posted October 23, 2010 Confident yet fluid posture. Big hands. Deep eye contact and staring at your lips. Mirroring body language. But the best indicator? The kiss. HAHA. If I went up to everyone in the room and made out with them, that'd be SOME party.
dreamingoftigers Posted October 23, 2010 Posted October 23, 2010 The distinct absence of a wedding ring on them (if I was single) would be a good start to finding out if they are a good lover. As well, how well they listen, if they don't listen, they may never have listened to what works for someone of the opposite sex in bed.
EricaH329 Posted October 23, 2010 Posted October 23, 2010 But the best indicator? The kiss. I fully agree with this!! I believe that everything else they can fake (the way they present themselves, etc.), but the kiss... they can't fake that!
Star Gazer Posted October 23, 2010 Posted October 23, 2010 I fully agree with this!! I believe that everything else they can fake (the way they present themselves, etc.), but the kiss... they can't fake that! And if it's a bad kiss... no sexy time. Next!
EricaH329 Posted October 23, 2010 Posted October 23, 2010 And if it's a bad kiss... no sexy time. Next! :lmao: Exactly!!
Surrealist Posted October 23, 2010 Posted October 23, 2010 Wow I'm not the type to boast but I been told by a few women that I'm a good kisser. Pity I don't get more chances to demonstrate this skill.
anne1707 Posted October 23, 2010 Posted October 23, 2010 I err-hem knew a man years ago who was an absolutely incredible kisser. No good at sex though
Star Gazer Posted October 23, 2010 Posted October 23, 2010 I err-hem knew a man years ago who was an absolutely incredible kisser. No good at sex though Well, true... it's not a guarantee that a good kiss will lead to good sex. But no good sex can come from a bad kiss. Ewwww.
EricaH329 Posted October 23, 2010 Posted October 23, 2010 Well, true... it's not a guarantee that a good kiss will lead to good sex. But no good sex can come from a bad kiss. Ewwww. You really can tell a lot about a kiss. It doesn't always work, but the majority of the time it does. If it's a sloppy kiss, well... you can assume what you're going to get in bed. If it's a slow kiss, a fast kiss, etc. They usually go hand in hand. At least, in my experience, and from what i've heard from girl-talk
Tim The Enchanter Posted October 23, 2010 Posted October 23, 2010 I agree with Star Gazer, how she kisses is a good indicator in my book. Having said that, the best sex I've ever had was with someone who was only a mediocre kisser. Also I think a girl who is very tactile and who flirtatiously likes to make regular physical contact is usually great in bed. It shows that she's not inhibited physically and quite often will take the lead during sex. I can say from experience that women who do that are the bomb.
OceanGirl Posted October 23, 2010 Posted October 23, 2010 It depends what you like. I like a man that will take control in bed. So a good indicator is that he is confident in how he moves and talks to others. He will also be able to indicate sexual interest in me without being shy about it (but without being creepy either). If we start talking, he won't be afraid to touch me. Passive in life = passive in bed.
Tim The Enchanter Posted October 23, 2010 Posted October 23, 2010 If it's a sloppy kiss, well... you can assume what you're going to get in bed. Hehe, that's the way I like it.
LittleTiger Posted October 23, 2010 Posted October 23, 2010 So, you're scoping out a roomful of people - what are some clues that hint that a person that might be a great lover? Just curious (and maybe a little bit of a creeper ). There are no universal indicators to determine how good somebody will be in bed. Certainly not from watching them in a public setting. You have to start getting intimate (at the very least kissing) to have any clue at all. Also, we all have different sexual preferences so someone who's a 'great lover' for one person might not be so great for another. What you should really be looking for is a 'compatible lover'.
phineas Posted October 23, 2010 Posted October 23, 2010 The distinct absence of a wedding ring on them (if I was single) would be a good start to finding out if they are a good lover. As well, how well they listen, if they don't listen, they may never have listened to what works for someone of the opposite sex in bed. What is really sad is just about every woman i've been with never had an orgasm with a man. They had no clue what worked for them. They didn't know what good sex was. But the look on their faces was priceless when they found out.
Nikki Sahagin Posted October 23, 2010 Posted October 23, 2010 Dancers, gymnasts - anyone who can move their body;) But realistically I don't think there's much correlation. People can amp it up when their flirting and in the bedroom be shy, awkward or inexperienced as hell. Some people 'know how to get there' without knowing what to do once they get there!
waynebrady Posted October 23, 2010 Posted October 23, 2010 I don't know but why is it only up to the man to be good in bed? Women just lay there doing nothing and show no enthusiasm and then at the same time whine about the man not being good in bed...
Titania22 Posted October 23, 2010 Posted October 23, 2010 I don't know but why is it only up to the man to be good in bed? Women just lay there doing nothing and show no enthusiasm and then at the same time whine about the man not being good in bed... Maybe the women you've been with, but not all of us. I prefer a guy to follow my lead.
utterer of lies Posted October 23, 2010 Posted October 23, 2010 I don't know but why is it only up to the man to be good in bed? Women just lay there doing nothing and show no enthusiasm and then at the same time whine about the man not being good in bed... If you experienced this same situation with multiple women, maybe the problem is you and not the women?
Princess2 Posted October 23, 2010 Posted October 23, 2010 ^^^ lol!!!!!! that was funny. I don't think you can scope out a room and tell, and frankly, I wouldn't want to. It's better when it just happens, so you don't get disappointed. But I also agree about the dancers -- female being flexible, and men having good rhythm etc. Also, in my experience and hearing from my friends, it is the ones who never talk about it that are the best. The ones who brag about their skills are the ones to disappoint lol.
GoodOnPaper Posted October 23, 2010 Posted October 23, 2010 I don't know but why is it only up to the man to be good in bed? Women just lay there doing nothing and show no enthusiasm and then at the same time whine about the man not being good in bed... I don't know about the women just lying there, but it does seem to be the prevailing assumption that it's the man's fault if either he or the woman is not good in bed.
GoodOnPaper Posted October 23, 2010 Posted October 23, 2010 Also, we all have different sexual preferences so someone who's a 'great lover' for one person might not be so great for another. I've always been curious about how true this really is. The way the topic is batted around, it certainly seems that being a "great lover" is an objective quality. After all, for guys, there are stigmas attached to losing their virginity late and not having had many sex partners -- the assumption being that these prevent them from sufficiently developing their "great lover" quality. Plus, I've never seen an LS post in which a woman has said that her SO is great in bed but his ex thought he was a cold fish . . .
phineas Posted October 23, 2010 Posted October 23, 2010 I don't know but why is it only up to the man to be good in bed? Women just lay there doing nothing and show no enthusiasm and then at the same time whine about the man not being good in bed... I always bring it up before actual sex. I'm not going to get emotionally invested in a woman that won't give head WELL or that just lays there & makes me do all the work. Nothing is more annoying than going down a woman, giving her an orgasm then having her go down on me for about a min. then quit saying her jaw hurts. WTF?!?!?
carhill Posted October 23, 2010 Posted October 23, 2010 Also, we all have different sexual preferences so someone who's a 'great lover' for one person might not be so great for another. What you should really be looking for is a 'compatible lover'. Having only had 'relationship' sex, I can see the value in this viewpoint. Chemistry and sexual compatibility are huge determiners. IMO, this is why, in many cases, people who can't stand each other and are getting divorced still have a sometimes overwhelming desire to have sex with each other. Personally, I connect sex and love too closely to do that, even if the sex is great, but others can compartmentalize better. Regardless, IMO, it is a sign of being compatible *lovers*. I would say the single largest for me has been the sheer number of women who aren't sensual and 'soft' and fluid in their affection, much as I'm lousy on the dance floor. I mean, at my age, with all the partners and practice, one would think they'd be expert lovers. I'll align with SG though, albeit with limited datapoints, that kissing *can* be a sign of style and interest and skill in lovemaking. Oddly, the one lady who was the best kisser I ever encountered (this was many years ago) liked to apologize about her lips. Apology accepted; let's get on with the kissing part.
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