Liv'nLearning Posted March 3, 2004 Posted March 3, 2004 It has been eight months since my last breakup. Many of you have be very kind, thoughtful, tough and helpful through five months of sorrow, grief and tears. I am now so much better and want to share what I have learnt if this can help any of you. First of all, if you are in pain, grieving the end of a relationship and feel your world just got kicked into another universe, bear with me for just a sec. You are a valuable, wonderful human being with many gifts to offer the "right" person. If your partner has walked away from you, it means it wasn't meant to be. No matter how hard you wish it to be, some relationships are here for us to learn from. This isn't about them. It's all about you! What you want, need and desire in a partner. Write down all the positives and negatives that this relationship has given you. Number your priorities and put a rating next to the important things to show how much you were really getting in return? If your numbers were low, then, this person wasn't meant to be in your life for the long run. They were in your life to teach you about you though!!!! The next person may be very different from your partner. He/She may be able to offer you all those things that are dear to you. As time passes, so does the pain believe it or not. I am in a new relationship and cannot believe how different two partners can be. Maybe this is meant to be? Maybe not. There are no guarantees in life but, if you feel, love, learn and live, nothing is a waste! Just wanted to share.
Miss_Prolixity Posted March 3, 2004 Posted March 3, 2004 Excellent post, Liv-nLearning. Your screen name says it all! I also agree with you that relationships can be a learning tool. I know I've definitely discovered a lot through this past one. It has gave me new insight and a better understanding of the person I am trying to be, or at least would like to be. Thanks again for the wonderful post and I am wishing you much happiness with your new found love!
carla Posted March 3, 2004 Posted March 3, 2004 I'm so happy to hear that things are looking up. That priorities list is awsome I've done something similiar in the past and it works wonders. Good Luck with the new relationship.
jenny Posted March 3, 2004 Posted March 3, 2004 mmm; what a great open letter. thanks L&L- i'm keeping this one on file!
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