sanskrit Posted October 27, 2010 Posted October 27, 2010 In fact. the first time we slept together she said something to the effect of "I'm not sure if I still remember how to do this." I later found out she had had sex with the doctor the night before. That would be enough for me right there. Dump. This kind of issue is becoming more and more prevalent, and is going to further reduce the marriage rate over time, so ladies whom this scenario applies to, have fun "having it all" with your cats.
Floridaman Posted October 28, 2010 Posted October 28, 2010 (edited) Originally Posted by chucklwaters In fact. the first time we slept together she said something to the effect of "I'm not sure if I still remember how to do this." I later found out she had had sex with the doctor the night before. She said that? That's a deliberate lie, not just an omission. Pretending she's inexperienced and thankful to you, then the truth comes out... . Why couldn't she have been honest with you? For you girls that are arguing with Chuckster, if having a FWB is such a good thing, why was this woman hiding it? Shame? Embarrassment? Edited October 28, 2010 by Floridaman
Surrealist Posted October 28, 2010 Posted October 28, 2010 That would be enough for me right there. Dump. This kind of issue is becoming more and more prevalent, and is going to further reduce the marriage rate over time, so ladies whom this scenario applies to, have fun "having it all" with your cats. I was wondering about this issue. The thing is, men will still want to have sex even if the only women left in the world are promiscuous - in whatever capacity or relationship that may form. So in a world where all women are promiscuous (obviously not the case but just saying for the sake of argument) and all men will avoid for whatever reason, there would be no more sex. However in a world where all women are promiscuous, there will be PLENTY of men only too happy to oblige these women for sex..... And not have to commit to a relationship. Obviously the above scenario isn't true in the real world, but... what does appear to be a trend that is increasing in recent years is that with more women doing the 'starfish' there are more men being sexually satisfied and consequently don't want to commit to a monogamous relationship. Which comes back to what you were saying, a reduction of the marriage rates over time. I put this out there (though I am having trouble articulating what I am trying to say here): Is it plausible to argue that men are increasingly being trained or otherwise conditioned by the growing pool of promiscuous women to become players themselves, or continue with such behaviors, without restraint, therefore creating an ever increasing viscous cycle of promiscuity where meaningful relationships between men and women are becoming redundant? If so, does it stand to reason that if women are seeking, or intend to seek, meaningful romantic monogamous relationships with men, that their promiscuous activities are actually compromsing their future prospects - given that men are more than happy to continue playing the field rather than meet their sexual needs in the confines of an institutionalized / committed relationship? If so, could it be said that promiscuous women, and their promiscuous activities accordingly, are really in fact wreaking far more damage to themselves as a gender? I am NOT suggesting this is purposeful on the part of women, but rather, from ignorance, simply inadvertently, they are in the long term hurting themselves far more than they realise by engaging in such promiscuous activities - even if it does seem like a lot of 'fun' for now.
brainygirl Posted October 28, 2010 Posted October 28, 2010 Or could women be doing this in response to men's historical behavior. Is it not just as possible that women, tired of the double standards by which men who sleep around are studs and women who do so are trash, have taken to getting their needs met as efficiently as men have?
Surrealist Posted October 28, 2010 Posted October 28, 2010 Or could women be doing this in response to men's historical behavior. Is it not just as possible that women, tired of the double standards by which men who sleep around are studs and women who do so are trash, have taken to getting their needs met as efficiently as men have? Certainly! But in the end, as a consequence of increasing promiscuity in dating circles, women are being far more damaged and hurt as a result? Certainly not meaning to insult women here, just observing if there is potential for this, where women are going to increasingly become damaged or hurt due to having far less opportunity to find suitable men for monogamous relationships in a dating environment that is increasingly being characterised as promiscuous.
brainygirl Posted October 28, 2010 Posted October 28, 2010 Certainly! But in the end, as a consequence of increasing promiscuity in dating circles, women are being far more damaged and hurt as a result? Certainly not meaning to insult women here, just observing if there is potential for this, where women are going to increasingly become damaged or hurt due to having far less opportunity to find suitable men for monogamous relationships in a dating environment that is increasingly being characterised as promiscuous. So realizing that we live in a complicated world in which people go through phases and may attempt to get their romantic and sexual desires met in what turn out to be unsatisfactory ways, we should ALL be a lot less judgmental of others?
sumdude Posted October 28, 2010 Posted October 28, 2010 So realizing that we live in a complicated world in which people go through phases and may attempt to get their romantic and sexual desires met in what turn out to be unsatisfactory ways, we should ALL be a lot less judgmental of others? Well being judgmental in the case of looking down upon someones lifestyle provided it doesn't impinge on my life? Then sure, live and let live. But in choosing a long term mate or partner you have to use good judgment. Why commit your emotional, mental, physical, financial and social resources to someone who is more likely to bail or double dip. The only predictor we have of future behavior is past behavior.
Woggle Posted October 28, 2010 Posted October 28, 2010 Well being judgmental in the case of looking down upon someones lifestyle provided it doesn't impinge on my life? Then sure, live and let live. But in choosing a long term mate or partner you have to use good judgment. Why commit your emotional, mental, physical, financial and social resources to someone who is more likely to bail or double dip. The only predictor we have of future behavior is past behavior. Exactly. People can do whatever they want if you ask me but if I want to build a life with a person then yes these things do matter.
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