trum39 Posted October 23, 2010 Posted October 23, 2010 Ive been seeing a woman who is 45 and Im 41. We both have kids and ex relationships etc. We get along really well and are hooked on each other and have been seeing each other for 7 weeks. We had been seeing each other only 4 weeks when I wanted to tell her I love her but held off. One night she just asked me straight out because I hinted often enough and I didnt want to lie so said yes I do love you. She told me that she loved me too but just wanted to hear it from me first. Ive only told my sister and shes only told some close friends that we love each other because we couldnt be bothered with all the usual.."How do you know.its too soon blah blah etc etc. We feel it and thats all that matters to us. Even my 14 yr old daughter asked me if I had told her I love her and I said no. My ex asked the same.(were good friends and she has met my GF, last week we all went out for dinner together for my daughters and sons birthday, my ex and her bf opposite me and my gf..strange but it was all good..) Anyway just curious to hear from others and how long it was before you said the words to your partner??? Do you think 4 weeks is too soon?? Im not worried if you do..just curious to hear peoples opinions.
USMCHokie Posted October 23, 2010 Posted October 23, 2010 We feel it and thats all that matters to us. This. You just know when you are falling in love with that person...don't try to put a timeline on it... I don't remember exactly when it happened, but the only first time I said those words to someone apparently was while I was asleep...I learned about it the next morning...or maybe she was just full of sh*t
Eeyore79 Posted October 23, 2010 Posted October 23, 2010 I'm always too scared to say it, because I know that other people take longer to fall in love than I do, and I'm afraid that if I say it too soon I'll scare someone off. I may very well feel it after several weeks, but would never dare to say it until about the six month mark, which seems a reasonable point by which to expect the other person to reciprocate. In fact, if the other person didn't reciprocate by that point I'd have serious doubts about the future of the relationship. My ideal situation is if the other person says it first, preferably within a few months.
hearttobreak Posted October 23, 2010 Posted October 23, 2010 Well, not sure. I usually wait until she says it to me. However, in my last relationship, she said she was waiting for me. Thus, I never said it. Two months later, it ended in disaster. Total relationship lasted about four months and one week. Felt she was not treating me right anymore so I left.
youngskywalker Posted October 23, 2010 Posted October 23, 2010 I've said those words within 2 months of a relationship only to find out a month later that I wasn't in love. But I agree with the other responses that you can't really put a time limit on it. No rules in love and war. I hope it works out for you and good luck!
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