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What did your ex ruin for you?


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Yeah there's been a few things that have been tainted for me also..

 

1. Coffee... We used to enjoy really good coffee she would get from SF.. every morning she would make me a cup. Not I can't even bring myself to hear the coffee grinder in the morning. Can't deal with making coffee in the morning one bit, i start crying.

 

2. Food. I used to love cooking for her.. Since the break up 3 months ago, i've cooked dinner at home maybe twice? we lived together, so cooking dinner was fun.. Loved to set the table, light some candles and put music on.. After she moved out, I can't eat at home, at the same dinner table alone. It's way to hard.

 

3. San Francisco.. We used to go there on trips quite a bit.. She's basically ruined SF for me. Thanks.

 

 

 

It's been 3 months now.. I am still really upset, i wake up at night from these dreams I keep having about her. It goes in waves.. Some weeks i'm doing better, then others are really hard. Like this week right now. Getting your heart broken is really tough.

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I don't want to say ruined yet...because I just can't overthink what may be going on...She hasn't be overly rude to me so I just don't want to lash out..

 

But if what I think is going on is true...then:

 

My financial stability

My Job/Career

My ability to trust women at this point in time

My perspective on Love...

 

I did learn a lot about myself, and I did have fun while we were together it was grand...so I remember it for what it was and not what it is regardless..

Ouch, those were all ruined for me as well. I extremely mad at myself for letting her ruin it but then again, my ex was a compulsive liar so I was doomed from the start. Now, I am just back to picking up the pieces and trying to look at the upside of starting from scratch.

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It has been 3 months since I got dumped and I still have not been able to listen to any of the songs we used to listen to or she used to sing to me. I still haven't been able to eat certain foods that she cooked for me or really liked. And there is a certain TV channel that I have not watched since we broke up. Grocery shopping still hurts. Can't believe I admitted that.

It hurts and sucks badly but when I think about it, those songs were incredibly sappy, the fav foods were unhealthy, and the shows on that channel were quite annoying... lol. But I still miss every damn part of her to death :(

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Yea, food/cooking, music, movies, places, were big ones for me too. Funny how simple things in life end up being painful because we associate so much with a SO. I also remember tearing up in the grocery store a couple of times, crazy times.

 

It gets better though :)

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He ruined me financially, and set me back with school.

 

Spent nearly 10,000 trying to build a life together! I think I got used. Bleh. Live and Learn.

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School,We're in the same class

I got depression and anxiety after the breakup

My sleep, I had sleeping trouble before i met her, And now after our breakup.. Its even worse

Music, There are some bands/groups that we both really liked, Can't listen to 'em anymore

My ability to trust any woman

Movies, My favorite movies happened to be her favorite movies too..

My apartment, It took me 4 years to find out where i wanted everything to be in the apartment, Then i had to rearrange the whole apartment cause everything reminded me of her -.-'

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she had an abortion on my birthday

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