CandyHeart Posted December 22, 2010 Posted December 22, 2010 Sorry to say but I think it sounds like he is waiting for something better to come along but is stringing you along for the ride. I think you need to stop meeting with him, become unavailable, make him wonder where you are and what your doing. Stop communicating with him. Let him chase you, let him come to you first.
Author College_girl Posted January 7, 2011 Author Posted January 7, 2011 Thanks guys! I ALMOST called him a few days ago (were on good terms and respect eachother) glad I didnt.. But also kind of wondering if I still should. Theres a few things I want to tell him. I was just gunna talk to him about how I'm doing really good and now I realize what went wrong. (I would be logical and not emotional) I would tell him simply that I think I was in a bad place in my life and NOW I have alot to offer and I was confused cuz i THOUGHT I was happy before but I wasnt. I needed to be able to make myself happy cuz i now know its not right to expect someone else to make you happy. I would say I wanna try us again now that im in a better place, and we were a fine match, but I would be fine if we didnt because I am happy in my life. Thats what i WAS gunna tell him..... BUT this is what happened instead.... I didnt call him. Instead I went out to a party instead and had SO MUCH FUN. Met a cool guy and he took me on a date I like him so far. haha who would have thought? I dont know if I should talk to my ex about that stuff tho.. UHHH. Idk man.. Im not scared too tho. He did contact me wishing me a happy bday. so that was nice. But i think im over him.. haha!
calisurfer Posted January 7, 2011 Posted January 7, 2011 Give the new guy a chance, and in all honesty forget about your ex. Sorry to sound harsh, but it did sound like he was stringing you along. You met someone new and who knows where it might lead you too. I'm going through a bad breakup right now, was dumped and replaced within 24 hours. Ouch. How I wish I was at your stage where you met someone new and you said this about your ex "But i think im over him.. haha! ". Good for you, forget about your ex and move on. Right now I can't even think about meeting someone new, just the thought being with someone else is nauseating. You're in a good place and it's time to move on.
Author College_girl Posted January 7, 2011 Author Posted January 7, 2011 Thanks, but I dont think he was stringing me along AT ALL. Because in order to string someone along you have to actually like talk to them and stuff. he definetly didnt string me along.. he just still cares for me and it is hard when we "see eachother" cuz we were eachothers First loves and everything. so It is still hard, very hard at times. I a, having trouble with imagining him with anyone else. But I am trying to just move on.. I know I will see him again sometime and will maybe get a chance to tell him all that stuff. later. or whenever I want to. no rush.
Don_da_Ho Posted January 7, 2011 Posted January 7, 2011 No offense, but your name is College_Girl and you sound like you're 14. Really. Read what you've written and said. Does that sound like a college age woman to you? I think you sound very immature and self absorbed ... ' but I really like him .... I think ..... I know he still loves me .... I ...I....I'. You hardly even listen to the advice members are giving you here on LS. Part of growing up is realizing that it's not all about YOU and that relationships don't always work out no matter how much YOU want them too or how hard you try. I think you need to start looking at the break up of your relationship as the TURNING POINT for you to start on the path of becoming a MATURE WOMAN. Pick up and move forward Sis.
Author College_girl Posted January 7, 2011 Author Posted January 7, 2011 (edited) I am 19, in college. Although I am offended, I dont want a little "bicker." However, I don't appreciate that. Who cares if my writing is immature? For once I am not editing a masterpiece for my literature or philosophy class! If it makes you feel better. I am 19. Consider myself mature. And definitely a woman.. I HAVE been listening to people's advice. And am working on taking advice. sometimes its hard to fully take advice, but easier to hear the opinions of others. Take it in, and make my own decision. I'm surprised I sound self- centered and hope that is not the case. Please dont get protecting my heart confused with being "self-absorbed".. I'm sure you know how it feels. I dont wanna make an enemy. Just thought since you cared enough to bash me by telling me I sound 14, immature, and self-absorbed, that I should at least make an effort to clear up your mis-judgement. Edited January 7, 2011 by College_girl
Leandro Posted January 7, 2011 Posted January 7, 2011 philosophy class! mmm, Philosophy class. A great class too. Opens a new world to you.
Author College_girl Posted March 25, 2011 Author Posted March 25, 2011 Hi everyone, I have not been on here for a while but I was just reading through some of the comments that I got and they are very thoughtful and honest and I appreciate the replies. I hope all of your lives are doing well and your relationships have healed and are going as smoothly as they can. -College girl --Quick update: the man that took me on a date is now my boyfriend, i think it moved too quickly before we could establish a friendship and be comfortable with each other. We are having a few problems though and I do find myself missing my ex. We talked a few times and he wanted to take me to dinner a few weeks ago but that never happened. I really like my boyfriend tho and want things to work with him. We will see.
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