shayan Posted October 22, 2010 Posted October 22, 2010 I found out from my close friend today that someone I used to be with has a new boyfriend now. But it really has not caused me much pain in fact, it has been such a healing experience. It let me even let go more and I feel fine. I was deeply attached to that person and now thanks to my mourning and self love and work. I'm fine. I mean I don't think I want to see her or her new love. But, I don't care. The message here is if you're going through a break up right now, the more you work to heal and rebuild yourself the faster you will heal. And that person will fade out of your heart peacefully, blissfully. About one hour after I got this message someone who I recently dumped called me, and I spoke with her and she asked me if I was seeing new people. I told her that there were some girls I was hanging out with. In this sense within about an hour the cycle was complete. Coincidence, I think not. I found out my old ex was with someone new. And she found out I was talking to new people. And neither situation led to disaster or heartbreak, but rather resolve and healing. The message here is that the cycle repeats itself we all experience leaving and being left, but in the end we heal and love more. Please my friends who are hurting, let go of the ones who bring you hurt and move on with your lives. Something you truly love cannot hurt you. And the more you want to get over something or someone the more you will. Until you allow your self to move on, you fully desire it, you won't. I send you all my love, especially to those of you who are mending your broken hearts.
Gossamer Posted October 25, 2010 Posted October 25, 2010 for reminding of the cycle. We need to remember to love ourselves first after being dumped. It helps us love others in future. I found out from my close friend today that someone I used to be with has a new boyfriend now. But it really has not caused me much pain in fact, it has been such a healing experience. It let me even let go more and I feel fine. I was deeply attached to that person and now thanks to my mourning and self love and work. I'm fine. I mean I don't think I want to see her or her new love. But, I don't care. The message here is if you're going through a break up right now, the more you work to heal and rebuild yourself the faster you will heal. And that person will fade out of your heart peacefully, blissfully. About one hour after I got this message someone who I recently dumped called me, and I spoke with her and she asked me if I was seeing new people. I told her that there were some girls I was hanging out with. In this sense within about an hour the cycle was complete. Coincidence, I think not. I found out my old ex was with someone new. And she found out I was talking to new people. And neither situation led to disaster or heartbreak, but rather resolve and healing. The message here is that the cycle repeats itself we all experience leaving and being left, but in the end we heal and love more. Please my friends who are hurting, let go of the ones who bring you hurt and move on with your lives. Something you truly love cannot hurt you. And the more you want to get over something or someone the more you will. Until you allow your self to move on, you fully desire it, you won't. I send you all my love, especially to those of you who are mending your broken hearts.
Ajax Posted October 25, 2010 Posted October 25, 2010 Nice message! How long ago had you broken up with the girl who's now dating someone else? And what are some things that helped you move on and heal? I've been learning to meditate to quiet my mind and center myself. It's been quite helpful but I still think about my ex all the time.
Gt.ooh Posted October 25, 2010 Posted October 25, 2010 I'd like to hear about this too. Like Ajax, it's still as fresh as the day it happened..and it's not cool.
Author shayan Posted October 25, 2010 Author Posted October 25, 2010 she dumped me cold last november so it's been almost a year. I wen't to depths to maintain no contact. I worked on rebuilding myself from the bottom up. I used positive visualization, meditation, weight lifting, basketball, dating, socializing, studies, and familiy. But most importantly I showered myself with self love, and worked on truly accepting who I was and forgiving my ex for everything absolutely everything. I corrected the mistakes and fixed parts of myself that I learned were self defeating from my relationship. I didn't punish myself, I worked on disconnecting myself from the past, and not making my heart break into a soap opera which would control my life. I fought, I seriously fought with every ounce in my body to move on and let go Guys getting over someone you loved seriously takes effort, you can't just wait and sulk you have to fight, fight like you've never fought. My advice to you guys is if you truly want to move on then you will find the way. The most important part is getting to that stage, that acceptance, that forgiveness, that healing self love. I send you my support and any advice you need ask.
Author shayan Posted October 25, 2010 Author Posted October 25, 2010 skydive addict I really see you moving on one day. I really do. When you are ready to you will I promise we all move at our own pace. I get the sense you are a very kind and compassionate person.
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