Lovelydawn Posted October 22, 2010 Posted October 22, 2010 my ex broke up with me a month ago and had very very little contact since then. my birthday was last week (tuesday) and he greeted me through text message to which i only replied with "thanks!". didn't really expect it but it was nice to know that he still cared enough to greet me on my birthday. it will be his birthday in 9 days and i don't know if i should also greet him. i have already accepted the end of our relationship and i'm determined to do NC not because i want to, but because it's the only way i can get him out of my system and move on. after the birthday greeting he sent me we didn't have any other contact after that. i was put through a shredder when he left me but i've been having some progress this past few days and i really don't want to break NC 9 days from now just to greet him happy birthday coz in as much as i want to show the same thoughtfulness that he did, i don't think i will get anything from doing that other than a "thank you" maybe. but then i also don't want him to think that i don't care anymore. i don't know what to do. how do i deal with this?
rebeccajones Posted October 22, 2010 Posted October 22, 2010 He broke up with you and you need to move on, you have to forget him for now. I think it's better if you do not contact him. I'm not going to contact mine. He did wish me a happy birthday also, he was still living with me although we were broken up. He is not now and his birthday is coming up I think I need to let go of him and move on. If I wish him a happy birthday it will make things worse for me and all I need to care about now is myself. I think they get along fine w/o a "happy birthday" from their ex.
TLCbear Posted October 22, 2010 Posted October 22, 2010 my ex broke up with me a month ago and had very very little contact since then. my birthday was last week (tuesday) and he greeted me through text message to which i only replied with "thanks!". didn't really expect it but it was nice to know that he still cared enough to greet me on my birthday. it will be his birthday in 9 days and i don't know if i should also greet him. i have already accepted the end of our relationship and i'm determined to do NC not because i want to, but because it's the only way i can get him out of my system and move on. after the birthday greeting he sent me we didn't have any other contact after that. i was put through a shredder when he left me but i've been having some progress this past few days and i really don't want to break NC 9 days from now just to greet him happy birthday coz in as much as i want to show the same thoughtfulness that he did, i don't think i will get anything from doing that other than a "thank you" maybe. but then i also don't want him to think that i don't care anymore. i don't know what to do. how do i deal with this? So evidently you're hoping for more if you text him a happy B-day. If that's the case, no, you shouldn't text him. However, I think it's a little selfish because he did wish you a happy B-day. But it's your choice and you have to do what is best for you. Good Luck.
Shadowburn Posted October 23, 2010 Posted October 23, 2010 The best answer is NO. But also depends on details of your break up - was it amicable, mutual etc. Only you know will you be able to handle simple "thanks" as a response without feeling hurt. Don't try to be stronger than you are. If you feel staying NC is the best, then so be it. He gave up on all nice and thoughtful gestures from yo when he broke up with you. Good luck.
Author Lovelydawn Posted October 23, 2010 Author Posted October 23, 2010 our break up was not ugly. it was more sad and very emotional and inspite of what happen we still have a lot of care and respect for each other. after our break up he told me he doesn't want to loose contact with me and suggested if we can at least remain friends, to which i declined of course. i'm not overly concern about what his reply would be coz i already know it will be nothing more than just a thank you or something like that. i am more concern of whether it is worth breaking NC and wish him a happy birthday or if i don't greet him at all, what kind of a message will it convey. i don't hate him and i don't want to come off as bitter.
bonpaw2008 Posted October 23, 2010 Posted October 23, 2010 Just another day now Love, don't set yourself back
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