zerovandez Posted October 22, 2010 Posted October 22, 2010 So I'm single for about a year now after being in a 10 year relationship. I've been online dating and have gotten great responses and have been on many dates. This boosted my ego on confidence very much. Well, I thought it did... Yesterday, I was shopping for my halloween costume. I ended up in a medical clothing store to find what I needed. I was last in line for assistance with a really pretty girl in front of me. I had a hat and dark sunglasses which I normally keep on regardless of where I go. So I catch this girl staring a few times. At first, I thought it was because I had the "cool guy" look going on. So I removed my sunglesses. But she continued to stare and so did I! For the next 10 minutes or so, we played this game of staring and feet shuffling. I pretty much froze. So she had her items ready to pay for and I still needed mine. The clerk had her wait while she assisted me. During my costume fitting, I can hear the clerk and this girl talking. Not sure what they were discussing but they were giggling. For a few laughs, I come out of the fitting room with this bright orange scrub suit! Yeah, they laughed but thought it was cool. I waited for this pretty girl to pay for her items and had small talk with her; Are you really a nurse? Are you buying these for a costume? But it was my time to leave. I could totally tell she was diggin' me as I was diggin' her as well. We even said bye like we knew eachother. I failed to get her name or her number. I'm really regretting it now! I couldn't stop thinking of her throughout the entire day and wished I can turn back time. But I think the store has her information on file so I'm tempted to do a little investigating but I think that would make me crazy. Blah! I'm so pissed off at myself. Honestly, I didn't know how to just come out with a question asking her for her name or number. I'm totally so lame! Any tips to prevent this from happening?
Feelin Frisky Posted October 22, 2010 Posted October 22, 2010 Resign yourself to the need for action instead of just thinking. The more a dude gets caught up in awe and second-guessing himself the less likely he is to seize the moment when it comes. The simplest thing you could have done is give her your name and see if she returned the gesture with hers. You certainly had the opportunity to have a conversation about Halloween and perhaps asked her if she had plans. She'd probably volunteer if she is spoken for if that is the case so at least you'd know that it wasn't to be. If the conversation went in a more favorable direction you could have pitched another meeting and/or asked if you could call her. Bottom line? Tell yourself that only action gets results and the window for it is small. Telling her your name is innocuous and non-invasive as a first gesture in such a circumstance. How she responds will tell you what's appropriate.
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